Getting intimate with a co worker 😅

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So I just want to see the opinions of those who have done this before and here the stories (fully prepared for the slander and sl*t shaming, keyboard warriors like to do)

Group of us from work went to the pub after a stressful week at school (we are teachers). Had a great time, few people left and then the last 3 of us left and I suggested a drink at mine as I’d cocktail mixers and I live 2 mins from the pub. One passed, one joined…one thing lead to another and we got intimate (this was NOT my intention with the invite btw)

I’d never really thought of him as much more than a coworker, we are both single, aged 27, he’s 30. He’s quiet and keeps himself to himself but our classrooms are beside each other so we do have friendly chats. Yesterday he brought my printing (awww sweet 🤣) and we have been talking more on duty or between lessons as I’ve been telling him about my failure of a love life as he knows I’m on Tinder and get a lot of shit messages on it.

We didn’t have an awful lot to drink btw we were fully conscious of our decisions. I don’t feel like Monday will be awkward if it was just a one time thing that’s fine but I’m open to pursuing more slowly (obvious hesitations with being coworkers). Afterwards he did confide in me about something personal he went through with work and it was quiet traumatic for him (false allegations) so I do genuinely feel bad for him l that he went through that alone, he’s a good person

what do you mumsnetters think. Have I made a bad choice 🤣 will Monday be the worst day of my life? I don’t feel any strong feelings for him either I’m more worried he’ll feel awkward which I don’t want him too

Eye contact*

Why do you mention male?

And why can’t anyone of any age or gender pass comment on a public forum?

Arsenal have just scored a third!!! 👍👍

Do you have male friends? Have you told any of them that you frequent the sex threads on mumsnet? What about your kids? Do you tell them that dad hangs out on the sex threads on mumsnet?
Surely you have someone in your life who is honest enough to tell you, you're being a creep

Definitely don’t want to be caught snogging when the lift door opens 😂

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Someone needs to tell him Arsenal were the red ❤️ team 😂😂😂

Oh that would be some story. Don’t worry it was just all eye contact… who knows what it’ll be tomorrow 🤣

Update if anyone still cares about this thread 😂 hoping to spark another fight too ngl 😆

we are going gooooooood, we’ve been on a little trip to Whitby on Thursday so we didn’t run the risk of seeing students as it’s far enough away from where we live, had such a good time, he stayed at mine the night before as we set off early. We text everyday, he makes so many plans he’s become more keen at this than me 😂 it feels weird not seeing him daily who knew 😂😂

Who could’ve thought a random hook up would’ve lead to this 😂 I was living my best single life before this man came along dead lord

they always get you when you least expect it 😂

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Enjoy

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Wonderful to hear. I hope it continues to go well for you both!

I have just caught up on this thread. How lovely for you. Don't know about teachers but offices generally seem to be full of co-workers ending up going for drinks and turning up the next morning with the same clothes on, obviously having gone to a hotel for the night!
I was working on a project and at one point we were away at a hotel. An evening meal had been arranged. We women dressed up. Afterwards we had drinks and eventually I was left with a guy one level above me at work who I liked. We were talking about whisky. He said he had a bottle of expensive whisky in his room and did I want to taste it. I had a boyfriend and he was married. I said yes. I knew what was going to happen and it did. I remember creeping out of his room at 3pm in bare feet carrying my high heels and desperately hoping not to meet any of my co-workers.
He came up to me the next morning and said sorry. I said he had nothing to apologise for and that I had really enjoyed it. We started having a relationship. I quickly got rid of my boyfriend. Relationships were not allowed at work so it had to be kept so secret but a good friend told me everyone knew we were sleeping together. I broke it off after about 6 months as I did not want to break up his marriage. But it was a lovely time.
So don't fight against work relationships!

It's not something I would ever try. There's too much risk and it would get too messy. It's also not possible to know whether a coworker is actually interested.

To use the old quote, if its not messy you are not doing it right.............

@JohnofWessex Possibly. Though I forgot to add that the overwhelming majority of my coworkers are either married or in long term relationships anyway. I don't have the energy for a relationship these days.

I fully get your side of it but we are young enough (although students did think I was mid 40s before HT 🫣) we’ve already agreed to keep it very much between us especially working with teenagers who have the senses of a sniffer dog on speed when it comes to teacher gossip (god forbid they could solve simultaneous equations though)

my best friend also works at the same school and she’s clueless about it we really have kept this extremely private and it does kill me not to tell her. Weve agreed that once we are fully serious about what we are doing then we will let my friend know (awkwardly funny she knows us both technically) but also will have to declare it to the principal, it’s not that it’s not allowed it’s just for conflict of interest I suppose if it did go south that they know.

i know it’s the “honeymoon phase” but honestly he’s a delight I’ve never met such a kind and caring person in the male form. Not what I’m used to and I wonder is it because he’s watched me go on these horrendous tinder dates over and over and heard the stories that he understands me? Maybe I’m being too methodical at this point and rambling to a bunch of strangers on the internet 😂

You know what also makes me laugh the students before Christmas started accusing me of being with this teacher and that we were an item (even though we rarely spoke much before Christmas he worked at a different location in the school) but they were saying horrible things and I told them to stop and next thing we’ve been coupled up

how they weren’t completely wrong just ahead of the game 😂

Maybe look on the apps instead? Or a hobby? Lots of divorced women around!