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Getting intimate with a co worker 😅

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catlady991 · 29/03/2025 08:45

So I just want to see the opinions of those who have done this before and here the stories (fully prepared for the slander and sl*t shaming, keyboard warriors like to do)

Group of us from work went to the pub after a stressful week at school (we are teachers). Had a great time, few people left and then the last 3 of us left and I suggested a drink at mine as I’d cocktail mixers and I live 2 mins from the pub. One passed, one joined…one thing lead to another and we got intimate (this was NOT my intention with the invite btw)

I’d never really thought of him as much more than a coworker, we are both single, aged 27, he’s 30. He’s quiet and keeps himself to himself but our classrooms are beside each other so we do have friendly chats. Yesterday he brought my printing (awww sweet 🤣) and we have been talking more on duty or between lessons as I’ve been telling him about my failure of a love life as he knows I’m on Tinder and get a lot of shit messages on it.

We didn’t have an awful lot to drink btw we were fully conscious of our decisions. I don’t feel like Monday will be awkward if it was just a one time thing that’s fine but I’m open to pursuing more slowly (obvious hesitations with being coworkers). Afterwards he did confide in me about something personal he went through with work and it was quiet traumatic for him (false allegations) so I do genuinely feel bad for him l that he went through that alone, he’s a good person

what do you mumsnetters think. Have I made a bad choice 🤣 will Monday be the worst day of my life? I don’t feel any strong feelings for him either I’m more worried he’ll feel awkward which I don’t want him too

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catlady991 · 01/04/2025 19:49

EllieShelly · 01/04/2025 19:27

Are you suggested ng she takes a hit out on the teacher who didn't come back? 😂

FFS, she's a consenting adult, she can do whatever the hell she wants. Lots of people meet their partners through work relationships

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No hits have been taken out I promise 😂 no issues from other coworker we’ve barely even seen each other for them to ask me questions

I did get upset today over being accused of something by a parent (nothing to do with this or that coworker) he saw me a bit tearful at my desk when he walked past and came in and put an arm round me and tried to say some comforting things 😅 he’s also messaged me randomly during the day about little things and checked in on me since I came home

also side note what is this world we live in where teachers are reduced to tears for trying to do their jobs 🥲

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Gymbunny2025 · 01/04/2025 19:59

EllieShelly · 01/04/2025 19:27

Are you suggested ng she takes a hit out on the teacher who didn't come back? 😂

FFS, she's a consenting adult, she can do whatever the hell she wants. Lots of people meet their partners through work relationships

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i think he’s more into perving prostitutes than real life sex and relationships 😂

2025mustbebetter · 01/04/2025 20:41

Teachers have relationships all the time. When the fuck else do they have time to meet people?

You can do whatever you like in your free time. Kids make up rumours anyway whether you're at it or not!

Noones business unless you're doing it at work then that's completely inappropriate!

Tristan5 · 02/04/2025 07:57

EllieShelly · 01/04/2025 19:27

Are you suggested ng she takes a hit out on the teacher who didn't come back? 😂

FFS, she's a consenting adult, she can do whatever the hell she wants. Lots of people meet their partners through work relationships

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What on earth are you talking about?

EllieShelly · 06/04/2025 10:38

Tristan5 · 02/04/2025 07:57

What on earth are you talking about?

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I was mocking you for your ridiculous take on this. Teachers are in relationships all of the time. I know many happily married teachers that met each other, guess what? At work! Your idea that the teacher who didn't come back for a drink could be "a problem". Why? What are they going to do? Grass on two consenting adults who spent some of their own private time, together? It's hardly Watergate, is it?

Tristan5 · 06/04/2025 17:04

EllieShelly · 06/04/2025 10:38

I was mocking you for your ridiculous take on this. Teachers are in relationships all of the time. I know many happily married teachers that met each other, guess what? At work! Your idea that the teacher who didn't come back for a drink could be "a problem". Why? What are they going to do? Grass on two consenting adults who spent some of their own private time, together? It's hardly Watergate, is it?

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Are you a teacher?

You sound rather stressed - it’s a lovely day, go for a good run and you’ll feel much better!

👍

EllieShelly · 06/04/2025 17:24

Tristan5 · 06/04/2025 17:04

Are you a teacher?

You sound rather stressed - it’s a lovely day, go for a good run and you’ll feel much better!

👍

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I think you're overestimating how much it takes out of me, to make fun of you.
Your outrage at, heaven forbid, two adults forming a relationship, is completely bizarre. It is not me who is highly strung, my friend.

Are you single?

Tristan5 · 07/04/2025 08:15

EllieShelly · 06/04/2025 17:24

I think you're overestimating how much it takes out of me, to make fun of you.
Your outrage at, heaven forbid, two adults forming a relationship, is completely bizarre. It is not me who is highly strung, my friend.

Are you single?

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Oh hello again.

You seem very angry about something, perhaps I touched a nerve.

And I’m very happily married, just to answer your odd, irrelevant question.

i disagree with you, get over it.

Have a nice day.

OneSassyQuoter · 07/04/2025 13:27

I think this is fine. Life would be boring otherwise. Hope it goes well for you both.

EllieShelly · 07/04/2025 18:58

Tristan5 · 07/04/2025 08:15

Oh hello again.

You seem very angry about something, perhaps I touched a nerve.

And I’m very happily married, just to answer your odd, irrelevant question.

i disagree with you, get over it.

Have a nice day.

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Again, I'm not angry. I think this is a projection on your part. I mean It's a really strange look. A guy posting on mumsnet (for one) . . Proclaiming their wisdom about relationships (and advising against two adults being in one. . . Very weird). Then aggressively confronting people who disagree with your weird take.

Does your happily married wife know you post on mumsnet? Do your teacher colleagues? Do your students? 😂😂😂

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catlady991 · 07/04/2025 19:04

So too add more to this and to wind certain commenters up. It’s going well, we have decided to take things slow, build a friendship as well as more, we both really like each other we talked about it Saturday. I got upset last night over my planning for today and he got a taxi (because he’d had drinks) to mine to give me a hug and stayed a few hours with me. It’s quite exciting in school acting professional but knowing we share more 🤣

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Gymbunny2025 · 07/04/2025 19:07

EllieShelly · 07/04/2025 18:58

Again, I'm not angry. I think this is a projection on your part. I mean It's a really strange look. A guy posting on mumsnet (for one) . . Proclaiming their wisdom about relationships (and advising against two adults being in one. . . Very weird). Then aggressively confronting people who disagree with your weird take.

Does your happily married wife know you post on mumsnet? Do your teacher colleagues? Do your students? 😂😂😂

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Well said!

Gymbunny2025 · 07/04/2025 19:07

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Gymbunny2025 · 07/04/2025 19:08

That’s great news OP we all knew it 😉

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Oh gosh. It gets worse 😂

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catlady991 · 07/04/2025 19:42

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Wait whaaaat! How do you know this 🤣 why is he so condescending towards me when wonder

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Gymbunny2025 · 07/04/2025 19:44

He said he did on another thread 😂😂

Tristan5 · 08/04/2025 19:58

EllieShelly · 07/04/2025 18:58

Again, I'm not angry. I think this is a projection on your part. I mean It's a really strange look. A guy posting on mumsnet (for one) . . Proclaiming their wisdom about relationships (and advising against two adults being in one. . . Very weird). Then aggressively confronting people who disagree with your weird take.

Does your happily married wife know you post on mumsnet? Do your teacher colleagues? Do your students? 😂😂😂

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Hi again!

I’m happily retired and enjoying life to the fulll.

My wife is on here too and finds it all very amusing.

Thanks for your concern though!

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Tristan5 · 08/04/2025 20:14

This is a new low, even by your standards.

You mention later that I stated previously that I look up escorts, yet that is nowhere to be seen in that other thread, but you chose to attribute those words to me.

This is libel, quite shameful behaviour.

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catlady991 · 08/04/2025 20:20

🍿 🍿 🍿

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Tristan5 · 08/04/2025 20:27

Tristan5 · 08/04/2025 20:14

This is a new low, even by your standards.

You mention later that I stated previously that I look up escorts, yet that is nowhere to be seen in that other thread, but you chose to attribute those words to me.

This is libel, quite shameful behaviour.

Oops, I got excited there, Arsenal almost scored!

This was meant to quote Gymbunny 2025 and was directed to her.

EllieShelly · 08/04/2025 20:34

Tristan5 · 08/04/2025 19:58

Hi again!

I’m happily retired and enjoying life to the fulll.

My wife is on here too and finds it all very amusing.

Thanks for your concern though!

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Your wife finds it amusing that in your retirement, you frequent the sex threads on mumsnet?
It all seems a bit creepy to me

Gymbunny2025 · 08/04/2025 20:40

Advising a young woman about her sex life too. Why would a male pensioner do that?

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catlady991 · 08/04/2025 21:03

What I’m wondering is he originally said he was involved with a younger work colleague 👀 is this a secret affair the wifey doesn’t know about 😮

also update… Another work pub trip Friday (end of term celebrations and we are clearly raging alcoholics teaching teenagers) annnnnnnd he’s already said he’s coming back to mine 😉

we were in the lift together today and the tension could have been cut with a knife the the contact was intense but we kept it professional 🤣

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Tristan5 · 08/04/2025 21:32

EllieShelly · 08/04/2025 20:34

Your wife finds it amusing that in your retirement, you frequent the sex threads on mumsnet?
It all seems a bit creepy to me

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No, she finds some of the comments and replies amusing, as do I.

Arsenal have just scored again, incredible from Declan Rice! 👍👍

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