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unfufillled · 24/10/2024 11:38

Need advice, so I've met a wonderful man and it seemed to be going well.
The issue is last night we got intimate and his penis was very small. Not sure no rope is size but small.
Lets just say I could fit it easily in my hand and was struggling to give him any pleasure or at least feel like I was doing much but cupping it.
He was very attentive to me and made sure my pleasure was top of his priorities but this kinda put me off and by the time he actually tried penetration I couldn't feel a thing. It kinda felt like dry humping but without the actual sensations.
I know he noticed something was wrong and I brushed it off with I was feeling tender.

I didn't think I was a shallow person but maybe I am. And I always thought size wouldn't matter but I think it kind of does here. I like deep penetration and feeling full. With his I felt nothing.

Everything else until this point seemed great and he seemed like the perfect guy for me but now I'm not sure. Sex is important to me and I have quite a high sex drive so this was really disappointing. He's since messaged saying he felt I was a bit off with him last night and this morning before work and I've not responded (normal though for me). Part of me thinks we can get over this and try other things but at the same time maybe I can't and I should call it a day now.

Anyone any experience here and what they done? How they got over it ?

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OneSassyQuoter · 27/12/2024 08:06

valentinka31 · 27/12/2024 05:33

I'm very glad something genuinely helpful has come out of this discussion for you.

My feeling is that size does and doesn't matter, depending on the context in which it is referenced. From a purely sexual pov, a mininimum standard size is better for many women, although this itself is variable depending on their own internal proportions. And the conundrum is that, in truth, below a certain size will not have the same satisfying effect on a woman, and yet how can one reject a man one might love in all other ways, 'just' because of his (genetically dictated) dimensions?

Of course the reason why women say 'size doesn't matter' is because they don't want to be mean and criticise a guy for something he can't control.

I suspect that for a man in this situation, it might mean it's a harder challenge to find the right woman, one who either doesn't mind or still finds a smaller size ok for her.

It potentially makes life harder. (...) But I suspect that being open about it with a partner is the first most important step to finding a way to deal with it.

All dicks are cool, anyhow, regardless of dimensions, imo. A piece of superb engineering.

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Thank you. Your post was really well-reasoned and helpful.

Marypoppinss · 27/12/2024 08:51

I’ve gone from being larger than average, to the point it was uncomfortable for some women , to slightly below average where I was initially really self conscious - I’ve learnt to love what I have, and use it in different ways and in the nearly 3 years that I’ve had my smaller appendage I’ve had no reason to be self conscious about my smaller size!

Lovemusic82 · 27/12/2024 22:02

GentlemanJay · 19/11/2024 09:40

*I met a lady and everything was going well but she's huge. I mean really fat.
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I didn't think I am a shallow person but maybe I am. And I always thought size wouldn't matter but I think it kind of does here. *

Can you imagine if a man posted this. He'd be hung drawn and quartered here. lol.*

Comparing this to a person being fat isn’t exactly the same, you can see if someone’s fat before going to bed with them? You can chose not to date fat people without telling them? I myself don’t find fat men a turn in so I tend to chose skinnier men to date. Also a person can gain or lose weight…..they can’t change their penis size?

Every one has a right of choice, we can all decide to end something if it isn’t right for us. If sex is important and a new partner isn’t doing it for you then it’s fine to end it…of course you’re not going to tell them why because that’s just mean. I think OP has done the right thing but ending it sooner rather than stringing him along.

Truthbetolddd · 29/12/2024 17:20

I am the first one to admit I like it big. Just something about it makes it seem more naughty and dirty and enjoyable. That being said you need to try it with him more times in different positions and introduce sex toys and even sleeves which makes him a lot longer and girthier. Most guys wouldn’t like this idea but some like my current BF he loves that he looks down and his d1ck looks twice as big as usual and loves watching what it does to me when he wears one.

Angela59 · 31/12/2024 10:17

Truthbetolddd · 29/12/2024 17:20

I am the first one to admit I like it big. Just something about it makes it seem more naughty and dirty and enjoyable. That being said you need to try it with him more times in different positions and introduce sex toys and even sleeves which makes him a lot longer and girthier. Most guys wouldn’t like this idea but some like my current BF he loves that he looks down and his d1ck looks twice as big as usual and loves watching what it does to me when he wears one.

lol not at all
I’m a lady who likes it large too x

ScottishZoe · 31/12/2024 21:55

Angela59 · 31/12/2024 10:17

lol not at all
I’m a lady who likes it large too x

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I am also a lady who prefers a well endowed man ;)

ZippyCat · 01/01/2025 13:23

Op dont feel bad about it sex is also a big part of my relationship as well and I once had sex with a man who was very small and honestly I didn't see him again yes shallow to some people not to me I prefer a very active sex life and luckily for me my dh is thankfully well endowed

Truthbetolddd · 04/01/2025 02:49

Angela59 · 31/12/2024 10:17

lol not at all
I’m a lady who likes it large too x

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