He worries about size

[ChWh]

I've been married 25 years, my husband worries a lot about size, his p3nis is under 3.5 inches erect, and through intercourse he suffers with premature 9 times out of 10, we do a lot of foreplay, but he still worries because of his size etc, he has now said, if I want to, he is willing to let me try with someone else, because they will be bigger etc, I've said no, but, he has got me thinking, I will add I've only ever slept with my husband, what should I do?

Personally I think you should not do it, it will lead to a world of pain. He will feel inadequate if you go down that route and resentful? If you are happy as it is then all is good and you need to tell him that?

I think that, but my friend talks about her husband, and he is double my husbands size, she says how, with his girth, it feels very tight when they have sex, I sort of want to feel that too, I will add, I love my husband so much, but the thought of that tightness, I'm now constantly thinking about it

mmmh difficult situation then...have you dropped hints which has caused him to suggest it? I am just wondering if he has suggested it because of that, not because its something he really wants to do?

I really haven't dropped any hints, it's just something he worries about and thought might help me, it threw me when he mentioned it, but I can't stop thinking about it now.

I think you just need to speak to him and be clear if he is ok with it then and lay down any ground rules, let him be the driver and make the decisions in this case. Only do what he is comfortable doing and see where it leads to.

That's a good idea, I am aware that we could both regret it if it happens, but still I think about it a lot, I mean, even if we did it, we gotta find someone, maybe even someone we know, I just don't know

Just tread carefully...when he says do you want to go with someone else is he really meaning that? I am talking from experience as my DW has said similar to me but I am not sure if she means it! I deffo wouldn't go with someone we knew as well - it will be difficult to escape if it all goes wrong?

You're right, I think I have this fantasy, and his suggestion sort of made me really think about it, and I can't believe I'm admitting this, but I keep thinking about my friends husband and how big he is, I mean he's attractive, and knowing he's big too, I keep thinking about it, even when I'm alone, if you know what I mean

Oh no, If you ask me this is a bad move, I think you just need to keep it a fantasy? If its size you are after I am sure there are substitutes to help? That will give you the feeling and help the fantasy 😂

I have thought of that, but toys, if you are suggesting that, aren't the same as the real thing, I do need to stop thinking about my friends husband though, I catch myself looking at his groin when we all meet

One of my first boyfriends was short, but enormous on girth. I wasn't very experienced but he was, and really made it count! Boyfriends after have differed. Definitely hit deeper, but nowhere near as wider. I'd like to say my dh is a perfect balance between the two, but I guess when you settle on 'the one' you stop looking as whatever the dimension / proportion, it just fits 🩷

My husband doesn't have much girth, he thinks about that too

I've just re-read your op and I'm not sure what you're asking (maybe a little jealous!) tell me... you say he's really good at foreplay (more details please as it sounds divine, we are definitely more of a kissing / rip clothes off but then straight to dtd and I miss long, sensual, take me to the peak and then back again touching)

How would you feel about someone else? There is a wide, wide difference between consensual equal three way to a secret observer of a new sexual relationship - all involve 3 but which one appeals to you?

He uses his tongue and fingers, really effectively, but, I never climax through penetration, actually very very rarely I do. I can't decide about someone else, that's my issue.

I like how open you are, if he was bigger, he'd be perfect, in that sense

How would you feel about watching him fuck someone else (or him watching you with another F?)

We aren't after that, he wants me to have someone bigger, and I'm not sure if he would watch, if we did it, or not

I get that, but please let him know that despite what he might think about size, he's definitely got my rocks off tonight!

Haha, I'm glad, thinking I'm gonna be pouncing on my husband soon too

I would be worried you might like it a bit too much and then where would you go with it? You might never get satisfied by him again.
Imo you will miss a bigger one a lot more than you will ever miss something you've never had.

You need to understand his motivations....is he open to you experiencing another man as that is what he wants, ie some fantasy of his, or because he thinks you are missing out in some way. There is a big difference.
Opening up your relationship with another man, in particular one who is well endowed and will prob make your husband insecure is very risky, so think through carefully

Hi Op. we play with others. Cuckold. It’s a huge huge step and you have to be beyond rock solid. Part of our play is that the other male is bigger. But… this is a fantasy we talked for years before doing.

It’s fantastic and an occasional treat. But please please think carefully. For us it’s roleplay and if there was any hint of insecurity it would end a marriage.

regret what you haven’t done.

I think that if you go through with this, you might end up destroying your relationship.
if you really enjoy the feel and fullness of a bigger penis (which is presumably the whole point of you doing this) you’re going to want to experience it again and again - especially if you have multiple orgasms from the deeper and wider thrusting.
You can’t put the genie back in the bottle once you’ve released it.

An update, have actually now had a good chat with my hubby, we're not going to go through with it, I think I would regret going with someone else too, though the thought of it does excite me, but not going there