He worries about size

[ChWh]

I've been married 25 years, my husband worries a lot about size, his p3nis is under 3.5 inches erect, and through intercourse he suffers with premature 9 times out of 10, we do a lot of foreplay, but he still worries because of his size etc, he has now said, if I want to, he is willing to let me try with someone else, because they will be bigger etc, I've said no, but, he has got me thinking, I will add I've only ever slept with my husband, what should I do?

Hi

keep it a fantasy. Talk about it, fantasise and enjoy every minute. And try sleeves. They really are great for smaller guys.

good luck!

I think that’s the best decision.
Most of us have fantasies about the excitement of being with someone new and different so don’t feel guilty about the thought of someone bigger.
Those thoughts are quite natural.
Your dh probably thinks are other women's breasts, labia size, etc, ect.

Agreed, think he's a little embarrassed that he mentioned it now, I mean imagine if I had straight away said yes, think it would have crushed him

I’d suggest he has cuckold tendencies. Nothing wrong with that hun. !

enjoy the fantasy talks with him. It’s a rare thing to be able to be so open and is to be welcomed!

We are usually open with each other

Don’t do it. The second you tell him you like it he will become a lot lot more paranoid. However to feed his urge get him to wear a cock sleeve and you can both still fantasise it’s another man’s cock except it will be him. You can get one that can add 4 inches length plus girth he will feel like a porn star when he puts one on lol.

Being under 3.5 inches is very, very small. I'm not surprised that you've thought about men, now that your husband has given you the green light to explore if you wish.

But, as others have said, you can't undo what you've done so if you did go ahead with it you'd have to be very strong as a couple to cope with the emotions in the aftermath.

This fantasy and these thoughts you have had will probably come up again even if you've agreed not to go ahead at this moment in time.

There's every chance that your husband might have this fantasy even if he had an average sized (or larger) dick.
A lot of men do. It's a very common fantasy.
Is he just using his size as an excuse for you to fulfill a fantasy of his?
Why would he bring the subject up now, after 25 years of marriage?

Best of luck for you both for now and the future.

Rather than fucking someone else, if your relationship is otherwise good, surely it makes more sense to try to improve your sex life with DH. There are sex toys that can help - sleeves that he'd wear like a condom that would give him more lenglh and girth, or if you shop around, there are strapon harnesses that allow a him to wear a dildo as a second cock. (Really they're designed for DP-ing, but you'll probably want to navigate that conversation separately.)

Or does the idea of fucking someone else actually appeal to you? If it does, you have to consider what both you and he will really feel if you go through with it. And are you comfortable explaining it to your kids if they find out? Are you prepared to have fillfulling sex with someone, want more, and your DH says no?
Open relationships and cuckolding are great if your relationship is rock- solid and your communication is excellent, but they have the potential to destroy your marriage if it isn't.

Great reply @mnmnddddd . Do you use sleeves/ strap ons too ?

No. I'm single.

Oh I see. So you don’t need any of that just a good old fashioned solid toy lol