Urination kink?

[strawberryhalves]

So I’ve been in my new relationship for around 8 months now and around the last 3 times we’ve had sex he seems to have a habit in the bedroom I l haven’t experienced before.
when we have sex he pushes on my bladder in an attempt (I assume) to make me urinate.
i don’t know how common this is as i haven’t ever been with anyone who’s done it before and honestly don’t know how to feel about it.

is this more
common than I think?

It's never happened to me.

Has he been successful in making you pee?

Yes he has been. He pushes on my bladder and however much is in there comes out 😅

Never heard of this. I don’t mind pee play, but wonder if this a gateway to something more challenging.

Yes I’m wondering too. I’m open minded but honestly not sure how to feel about it

I think you need to ask him!

I think it’s fair to assume that most adults would consider the loss of continence to be embarrassing. To try to physically enforce that on another person, without prior discussion and consent is a huge red flag to me.

Please talk this through before having sex again.

Yes agreed. I felt slightly embarrassed the last time we had sex at the thought I’d left piss all over his bed sheets. But then shrugged it off thinking he’d obviously wanted that.
As already stated I’ve just felt a little unsure since, also slightly worried as to whether forcing urine out of someone’s bladder on a regular occurrence could have some effect on the body?
But yes I am going to speak to him before having sex again.

What was his reaction when the pee came out?

He definitely enjoyed it. Smiling

Does he mistakenly think he's making you squirt? I see on porn men who press down just above a woman's pelvis whilst wiggling their hands about 🙄 or is the attraction the peeing?

Is he pushing down on it from inside your vagina or outside on your low tummy?
I've heard of a new trip that ppl are doing yo make it feel tighter and it involves the man pressing down on lower tummy to push where his cock is inside.

Is this actually a thing? I questioned whether he thought he was making me squirt, then just thought to myself well he’s pressing on my bladder hard he must want me to pee.
Because yeah, press down on someone’s bladder they’re gonna pee right?
if its something he’s seen on porn and thinks he’s making me squirt that is worrying. Because I would have thought anyone with any idea about human anatomy wouldn’t need this explaining to them

Outside on my lower tummy.
but I mean I just don’t get it,, that’s my bladder if you push on it hard I’m gonna pee?

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a43541483/belly-press-sex-position-tiktok/

I've no idea how widespread this is.

I think making a woman squirt is doing something inside with your fingers....

That’s awful and shocking. poor lady for having to deal with such abuse.

i mean, I wouldn’t know whether it could lead to anything like that. But generally no, he’s not nasty, abusive, or showing any signs that he could be. It’s early on in the relationship so really I could have no idea.

it just seems to be this thing he does, which to me seems odd. Though I don’t want to kink shame here. It’s not about that. As one poster has said there’s been no discussion or boundaries set. He’s just pushing on my bladder with force whilst we have sex and I’m peeing.

As a few posters have said, I think this is an attempt of trying to make you squirt.

The hand and slight pressure on the lower stomach is "meant" to be one of the techniques along with the fingers to get that to happen.

I would have thought it would be a bit different if it was a pee kink.

And I'll mirror others, a chat on boundary settings and what exactly he is hoping to achieve could be beneficial.

Yeah I think this is what he’s been trying to achieve.
Now I’m just embarrassed because I’ve pissed everywhere

I think a conversation is definitely in order. Did he think he was making you squirt? Was he wanting it to be pee? Why didn’t he ask for consent before proceeding?

Also just to point out this man presses hard like a lot of force on my bladder if it was a gentle push I’d have assumed something different but because it’s a full force push down on my bladder I was assuming he wanted me to pee

I think he thinks he's making you squirt. Time for a conversation!

That is actually disgusting. You definitely need to ask why he’s doing it.

Disgusting because he’s doing it without prior discussion? Or the actual act or both?

But yeah completely agree going to have to ask some questions

Both! He has not discussed it nor got consent. And then to force something of your body is not on. If he wants you to pee on him, then he needs to ask and allow you to do it with your own free will.