Urination kink?

[strawberryhalves]

So I’ve been in my new relationship for around 8 months now and around the last 3 times we’ve had sex he seems to have a habit in the bedroom I l haven’t experienced before.
when we have sex he pushes on my bladder in an attempt (I assume) to make me urinate.
i don’t know how common this is as i haven’t ever been with anyone who’s done it before and honestly don’t know how to feel about it.

is this more
common than I think?

Yeah I think the general response from everyone has given me a different perspective on it.
Definately need to discuss with him and maybe re think things

A recipe for cystitis surely?

100%.

I enjoy pee fun/golden showers/water-sports, call it what you will, but it totally has to be with consent on both/all parties and agreed in advance.

Does he follow you to the loo and watch when you pee normally not linked to having sex?

No he doesn’t

I think after some thought and research, that he was trying to make me squirt.
But unfortunately went about it the wrong way. It looks like the advice is to gently press down on a woman’s lower abdomen to stimulate her g spot.
He pushes down hard with force therefore pushing my bladder and forcing me
to pee.
knowledge and research is all well and good until it’s taken too far or done wrong and especially the wrong way to go about things without discussion and consent first

Jesus Christ I'd be running a mile - how does he think it's acceptable to do that without discussion and consent in advance? Plus if he thinks practically punching you in the bladder is going to make you squirt then he sounds pretty shit in bed. Why are you putting up with this crap OP?

I'd bet my house that he's trying to make you squirt. Pushing down on the lower abdomen often helps. Was he stimulating your g spot internally too?

Are you certain that you urinated rather than squirted? They feel like quite different sensations.

Guys who are into watersports are usually much more direct about asking you to pee on them.

You absolutely need to have a conversation about what he was attempting and why he didn't discuss it with you first.

In all honesty I just felt confused I didn’t know what to think. It’s happened the last 3 times, but only the last time I actually urinated (almost certain that I did) the first two times nothing came out.
im glad I wrote this post as Its put a different perspective on it. Like I said one thing doing research and trying new things in bed, another going over the top or doing it completely wrong.

He was having sex with me, not fingering me. Then pushed down on my abdomen, hard.
im almost certain it was pee I don’t squirt or haven’t ever done so far.

This way my first thought too - I had an ex who would often do this to try and make me squirt but it just made me nervous I was going to pee so I clammed up!

How long in to the relationship did he start doing this? Is the rest of the sex ok?

TBH I would run a mile. Someone pressing so hard on your stomach it makes you urinate isn't sexy, especially if you don't understand why. I have just started seeing someone, I would be really pissed off if he did this to me but I'm 100% sure I would raise it with him and he would take the feedback. Surely the fact you are asking us instead of him is an indication that your not comfortable?

It’s only been the last 3 times we’ve had sex. Only the last time I actually urinated. The rest of the sex is good, no complaints. Just this one thing.

I feel you need to talk to him about it outside of the bedroom. If he is into pee play then providing you are willing you can talk maybe about other ways to incorporate it as I think using force like that on the bladder may not be good in the long run. If it's something that turns out you both end up enjoying after a discussion then great if not then boundaries definitely need to be discussed.

Bit did you enjoy it? When aroused and you let pee out I find it most enjoyable.

Not exactly. If it had been discussed beforehand and he said he wanted to see me pee then yeah. But as there was no discussion and it was almost forced I just felt uncomfortable

Did you discuss it with him OP or did you just stop seeing him?

Spoke to him. He explained that yes, it was an attempt to make me squirt.
I explained last time he did it I pee’d all over the bed as put so much pressure I was forced to. He then tried to make me feel bad that I didn’t just enjoy it or go along with it.
That was enough for me and I stopped seeing him.