Cunnilingus

[VelvetVoice]

Been seeing a man for 6 months, he likes to use a wedge pillow underneath me for cunnilingus but…now that we are getting serious, I wonder how many times he did the same with other women and now I want him to buy a brand new one just for me.
I know it is silly because I don’t have the same thought about the bed itself, the other pillows, the sheets etc…but for some reason the wedge pillow feels more intimate.

AIBU? I think I will bring this up this weekend.

BTW - his is a normal wedge pillow for sleeping but there are specific ones for foreplay, so I will suggest the latter.

His has a washable cover

But I want something more special and just for me, will check the heart shape one out. Thanks.

If you want a new one, you don’t need mumsnets permission. Why would you be unreasonable to wang to buy a new one? How do you get through the day if you can’t make decisions like this for yourself. 😬

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@VelvetVoice

No problem. I’ve got a few liberator products and I can 100% vouch for the quality. The velvish cover is very nice and the density of the foam gives good support. As above treat yourself 👍

This is all a bit Alan Partridge! Sex pillow 🙄

@lollipoprainbow

As fore mentioned I wouldn’t knock it until you’re tried it! Think every couple should invest for that next level oral 😉

I've never heard of these pillows? What do they do??

They raise the woman’s hips so the man’s neck doesn’t get strained and the pussy is in a better position for his tongue to ‘explore’

It can also be used for various positions during penetration

@maclen

Has he used his cock with any of his former partners? If so, demand that he gets a new one. Even better, make sure that any new partner has no sexual history whatsoever.

what a stupid comment

VelvetVoice

this board is a bit strange (sex)

I totally understand what you are asking and why it feels weird

when I date again I want to find me a man as dedicated to this , as your one 😂

If you want a new one, you don’t need mumsnets permission. Why would you be unreasonable to want to buy a new one? How do you get through the day if you can’t make decisions like this for yourself.

These are my thoughts also. Just tell him to get one or get one yourself. Why would you need to ask mumsnet?

why would you need to ask mumsnet?

pretty much 90% of this whole board are people
asking questions

Jesus have you seen AIBU ?

so why pick on this one question ?

so why pick on this one question ?

Because on the surface, it’s the most basic question. If the money is available, wtf is the issue? 🤣 It baffling. It’s like asking ‘can I take my dog for a walk?’ Threads are usually a little more complex than that, but if someone does ask a very simple question which they really should be able to sort out themselves, they’re usually told that. Ok? 🤣🤣🤣

WildflowersInAMasonJar

relationships and some of the intrusive thoughts they bring (for some people , and not all people
) means people do question themself a bit

so it’s a bit more nuanced than taking a dog for a walk

anyway let’s agree to disagree, as it’s a deeply bizarre topic to be disagreeing on

Why wouldn’t you just tell him to buy one? Why would you think you might be unreasonable?

How long have you been exclusive? The full 6 months you have been together? If you are sure he wouldn’t be using the new pillow with others I don’t understand why this is a big deal to ask. 🤷‍♀️

I have a theory as to why negative reaction on this question but I will keep it to myself….

it is maybe a simple question and I don’t need MN permission - I was just curious as to what other women would feel about using a wedge pillow for oral sex that has been used before for the same purpose on other women - - - before this question I did not see the pillow as a sex toy because it does not look like it and he initially bought it for himself as a sleeping aid

A new, more sexier one is on the way - and I didn’t even know that there were specific sex pillows on the market — so it turns out that the thread is not pointless at all as some bitter women is trying to make it out to be

You obviously felt weird about using it to ask. If every other woman said it wouldn’t bother them, it wouldn’t matter, because it bothers you which is fine. You’re allowed to feel how you feel and it’s such an easy thing to change that it’s a non issue. 🤷‍♀️

I have a theory as to why negative reaction on this question but I will keep it to myself….

I imagine it is because there are a lot men here who write threads trying to get women to share sexual stories and it makes people guarded.

I imagine it is because there are a lot men here who write threads trying to get women to share sexual stories and it makes people guarded

to be honest it’s got SO guarded it’s pretty much impossible to post here as a woman !! 😂

it really is , and it’s a shame

You could say the same to any other post in this whole platform

Also this thread was originally in the relationship board but someone had issues with the topic and asked this to be moved to the sex board

Also I’ve asked MN to delete it as it easily comes up on google search but they won’t. And that is the worst feature of this forum - OPs not been able to delete their own posts. I always forget this is the case.

MNHQ - it is not that deep - if a thread is deleted, people will move on alright. I really don’t see the point of threads been undeleatable, but maybe I’m missing something.

to be honest it’s got SO guarded it’s pretty much impossible to post here as a woman !!😂

Blame the pervy men for that. They’ve ruined it for women. It’s rubbish.