Weird relationship with married colleague

[London1990]

My colleague is married with kids. We’ve always been quite flirty which progressed into sharing a bed after a work event. He said it shouldn’t happen again but that he cares about me and wanted to be friends.

I felt like he pulled away a fair bit but recently has been messaging me a lot. He’s never inappropriate over message but then I wonder why would he want to message someone so much younger than him just to be friends, or is it because he is worried I will tell someone? He has made comments in person about wanting it to happen again but saying it can’t. He’s suggested we catch up away from colleagues but never follows through with it. I don’t know if it’s just that he doesn’t really care enough to, if he just wants to know it could happen again if he wanted, or if he’s battling with guilt.

I know what happened was wrong and I know I must sound naïve but I just don’t understand his actions. He is more senior than me so I also worry about how he may react if I cut ties completely outside of anything work related.

Oh dear lord you're so naive.

He's trying to get into your knickers.

Is this sexual harassment, I would think so.

Really? Just really?

Why is it? She is clearing wanting something with this married man with two kids!

So you shared a bed with a man knowing he was married with kids? You do sound very naive. He is wanting to have his cake and eat it

Have you posted about this before?

I’m not sure that you are as naive as you make out. I think that you are more likely just a not very nice person.

Stop pissing around with married colleagues.

Grow up and stop hooking up with married colleagues ffs.

What do you mean by ‘sharing a bed’?

The poster isn't naive - just seeking attention !
You didn't need our assistance in working out whether you should have a relationship with a married man so I'm sure you can work this out!!

Back off and stop playing games with married men. That's if this post is even for real.

Euw. Classy.

Could be his wife monitoring his communications

That said are you sure it's an affair you want op ?

Yes, rings a big bell.

This is so familiar…

Have some self-respect and stop whatever fucked up power play is going on here.

I never know what to believe on this site anymore... but this is goady as fuck.

Op. Stop being a twat

He's married. Ignoring that, you shared a bed. He has been, at best, flaky with you since. Ignoring that, he's still married....yet here you are asking what's going on.
He's married...still.

Why can’t you just go out with a single person?

what is wrong with these people.

How old are you to be this daft?

He's married with kids.

But he is also tempted with the idea of shagging you again.

He's a nasty cheating git basically.

What can't you see?

Marriage doesn't often stop men trying to have sex with someone else.

@Olika · Yesterday 22:32
Marriage doesn't often stop men trying to have sex with someone else.

Married women also have affairs too. A tradesman friend of mine tells of frequent instances where he has rebuffed advances from flirting wives at home, it's quite common.