Casual Sex

[JenD0746]

Anyone here into casual sex/one night stands?

I really enjoy the challenge of one night stands.

I think the challenge is for men.

I read once that a single, horny man in a room with 100 women would consider shagging 99 of them, just for the sex.

A woman in a room with 100 men might consider shagging one.

I think you are pretty spot on!

>>This topic is filled with weirdos and fantasists and their apologists. Maybe you're one of the trio?

Nope.
Do feel free to define the term "perverts".
>>This is a parenting forum yet you've only got to scroll to see made up shit about underage sex, men fwapping themselves stupid over women engaging with them, dildo owning 17 year olds .

have seen nothing advocating underage sex- can assure you am not into or excusing.

fwapping?

have not seen anything about 17 year olds with dildos either - plus have no interest in - but all perfectly legal.

Good luck with your campaign.

But meanwhile the world turns.

Am not "blaming" as you put it anyone.
You really are insulting - and potty mouthed.
Can assure you that if your post/s disappear, will be nothing to do with me. Believe in free speech, don't report posts - like to see people as they are.
As far as I can see, most of the posts on this thread you are condemning as "sleazy" are women.
Interesting that you go for a man on the thread.
Would be of no surprise to the great much missed Nancy Friday.
Haven't really posted yet on core topic - somewhat diverted by your campaign of swearing. May do.

Following my divorce i though casual sex, ons would be fun but it's far from it, it just made me feel worse. Posters before likening it to overeating put it well. I'd rather abstain until I find someone I have chemistry with and feel safe with in either the context of a fwb or relationship. There's zero challenge in a ons, I don't understand that bit.

This is a parenting forum yet you've only got to scroll to see made up shit about underage sex, men fwapping themselves stupid over women engaging with them, dildo owning 17 year olds ..

Agree, it’s full of posts like this. It’s sickening.

not entirely sure what MN line is on PMs is to be honest. Not even sure why PMs exist if polite ones are thrown back.

Mumsnet say not to send unwanted ones. It’s at the top of the board if you read. The etiquette is to ask to ask on a thread if you can PM a person and only do so if they say it’s ok.

Anyways, my point as above - maybe you should have put a tagline - no PMs - or I think maybe you can switch them off selectively?

ffs. The default should be that you don’t send messages, especially to do with things on this board. Of you can’t see that, it says a lot. And no, we shouldn’t have to switch them off as we may want to receive them from other posters, that we have chosen to receive them off. How about posters, usually men, control themselves and just don’t do it without us having to put a little note at the end of each post we make.

Am not "blaming" as you put it anyone.

Oh you are. Saying you’re not surprised they got PMs because of the post they made. Then suggesting they should have included a little note to say ‘no PMs’ is exactly that. Apply it to certain other situations and you’ll see how problematic it is. Well you should’ve able to see. But you probably won’t be able to. Grim.

Maybe another post from OP, and answers to one or two questions posed, in order to get this thread back on track.
Others can continue to fume if they so choose.

curious thing - you have very firm views on what this patch is about, suggests you have done a lot of reading of it over a long period, yet seem to have hardly any posting record on anything, as "bebyyourside" "sleazy" or not.
all very odd.
If thread gets back on track, may post on if does, haven't yet.

Haha love this. Expert alert here 😉
I never done it by the way

What is really “odd”, is to for you to suggest that posters need to write “please don’t PM me”, if they write anything like the pp did, because posters, men, can’t control themselves and are so sleazy that they would read something into a post with their sicko minds. It is odd and sleazy to think that way.

Maybe you need to read up on mumsnet talk guidelines, name changing is allowed, unsolicited PMs are not.

Ok why is it a challenge, well it is quite easy to hook up with a random person on a busy Saturday night or through an app, but even though it is a one night stand I want the guy to be sort of my type.

As for FB (hate that term) I have one of them too.

Yes, sometimes then you sneak out, or hotel, back of car, in a beach shelter...

Finding your way home can be fun too

To blame the poster who got the PM because they dared to write a comment on this thread, is disgusting, but not surprising. This corner of mumsnet harbours some posters with questionable morals.

I still don’t understand one night stands/casual sex being challenging, it’s easier than ever with tinder etc. Maybe something about you is off putting OP?

I’ve never had a ONS, only had the one sexual partner. And I’m far too set in my ways for one now, if my relationship status were to change. I’m trying to imagine making small talk over coffee the next morning!

The idea is they go before coffee in the morning 😉

We used to call it the ‘walk of shame’ 🤦🏻‍♀️

Happy days 😁

@Thisismysexforumname really? That seems very impersonal though. Ok, I think I’m too romantic for a one night stand!

I suppose it depends on the situation, every one is different. And ONS are not for everyone!

I had what I thought was a ONS with a man I met through my job many years ago. We ended up having sex many more times though so he was effectively a FWB, we also went out for dinner on multiple occasions, both weren’t wanting a relationship. He was the one and only man I have ever actively gone after, I fancied the pants of him.

It says at the top of the Sex topic:

but please don’t send unwanted PMs or be otherwise disrespectful.

Ie, if you send a PM and the recipient didn't want it, you're breaking this rule. I also reckon we can assume that what was sent was more Beavis and Butthead than Lord Byron.

Thanks for "kind of" clarifying catullus5 (wot happened to other 4?) - you may note that I did ask about the tone of the PM.
To repeat I never sent anything, never have.
I have though received a PM from someone on here. (a woman)
Since I didn't ask for it does that count as unwanted?
(I stress that the PM was fine/not untoward in any way - perfectly friendly)
This "unwanted" thing is rather more complex than some might maintain though - I do have a vague memory of posting once ages ago, at the end, of a post, that folks could get in touch if they wanted more info (I think perhaps it was some info I didn't feel I should put on an open forum) - that perfectly polite and decent post got deleted and I can only think that that was the reason. Can't think of any other.
I suspect it was reported for some imagined crime by one of the priesthood that float over around this bit of the forum while professing to hate it/have no interest

meant to add, (got cut off) all the best catullus, not looking for an argument.