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Kids 'c***-blocking'

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Youabsoluteblinder · 20/07/2023 09:12

My DH and I wants to know what's an appropriate age to tell your kids to go away so we can have sex. For context, we're currently on holiday and we have sent our kids to the pool, to get ice cream etc, hoping that they would be away long enough but it's like our eldest (10yo) knows what we're trying to do and rushes back as quickly as possible; like she's trying to stop/catch us.

So when can we be honest and just tell them to F off for a bit so we can have some alone time.

P.S. this is happening at home too!

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Chellybelle · 20/07/2023 10:07

You don't leave your kids unsupervised on holiday to have sex. And it's a bit grim that your kid knows what you're up to at that age. Even worse that you would risk being caught, sorry ( not sorry) Wait till you get home, or wait till they're asleep.

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Youabsoluteblinder · 20/07/2023 10:44

Slightly agree, but we're all in the same room for 10 nights. The kids pool is very safe and they were with friends (but we didnt want to explain to them why we wanted them kept away).

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Bexx87 · 20/07/2023 10:51

I couldn't leave the kids either. I've got a high sex drive but could go 10 days if it meant I put my children's needs above my own. It's one of the sacrifices you make as a parent and it's not permanent. Just masturbate in the bathroom or have sex quietly in the bathroom while your children sleep.

justmyskin1952 · 20/07/2023 12:03

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Youabsoluteblinder · 20/07/2023 12:32

Firstly, the kids were being looked after by our friends so they were 100% safe but that didn't stop them running back our room as it was so close to where our friends were.
Secondly, this was supposed to be a fun hypothetical question 🤣 of when are you allowed to tell the kids "we're having sex, so go away". Is it 10yo or 50yo? 🤣

Thanks for the responses.

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QueenVixen · 20/07/2023 14:12

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Sorry but that’s grim, there’s a difference between kids knowing their parents have sex and allowing them to peek during the act and I’m no prude.
OP just wait until you’re back home.

Chellybelle · 20/07/2023 14:27

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That's disgusting. You should be ashamed of yourself. This is NOT the way children are meant to learn about sex. You're meant to protect children. The fact they weren't even your own children is another matter entirely.

HerAvatar · 20/07/2023 14:40

when are you allowed to tell the kids "we're having sex, so go away". Is it 10yo or 50yo?

The answer to this is never! I'm 48 and still would not want to know about my DP's sex life, any more than my 14yo would want to know about mine. I talk very openly with my DD about sex but never anything to do with me and DH, no kid (even when adult) needs that image in their head about their parents.

Yes it's awkward, especially on holiday, but it's part of being a parent to put DC's feelings above your own. And rest assured, your DC will never forget what they've seen if they do 'catch' you and it will always, at the very least, make them horribly uncomfortable every time it pops, unbidden, into their heads!

Selfesteem22 · 20/07/2023 15:26

I would say tell your friends you and DH want some alone time and get them to stop coming back to them - don't tell the kids!!

toots123 · 20/07/2023 15:38

There isnt an appropriate age!
Tell them you're having a nap, don't give them a key and ignore when they knock.
No kid needs to know about their parents sex life (not age 10 or age 50!)

Beachhutnut · 20/07/2023 16:43

We never mentioned sex but our kids know that mummy and daddy need private time without them and we have clear boundaries about them not coming in our room without knocking and waiting for an invitation, and clear times when we expect them to stay in their rooms and not come downstairs.

itsmyp4rty · 20/07/2023 16:45

No age, what a grim question. Just wait till they go to bed and are asleep for fucks sake.

xpc316e · 20/07/2023 20:22

Beachhutnut · 20/07/2023 16:43

We never mentioned sex but our kids know that mummy and daddy need private time without them and we have clear boundaries about them not coming in our room without knocking and waiting for an invitation, and clear times when we expect them to stay in their rooms and not come downstairs.

Absolutely correct. My partner and I worked on different shifts and time together used to be a rarity when they were younger. We never made a big deal of it, but we did exactly as Beachhutnut advises, and it worked out extremely well. The children are now adults without hang-ups and able to discuss sexual matters without embarrassment on either their, or our behalf.

Humidititties · 20/07/2023 20:29

itsmyp4rty · 20/07/2023 16:45

No age, what a grim question. Just wait till they go to bed and are asleep for fucks sake.

Even if they're sharing a room? Grim

stereoboomer · 20/07/2023 21:16

Blimey! All this person wanted was a few suggestions about how to steal 10 mins (??) for a shag. Instead she's getting attacked about how irresponsible / selfish she is. Get a life you self righteous prigs.

SmirnoffIceIsNice · 20/07/2023 21:22

I would maybe tell them mummy and daddy need an afternoon nap as they're so tired, but no way would I ever have told my kids we wanted to be alone to have sex. That's just grim.

Chellybelle · 20/07/2023 21:24

stereoboomer · 20/07/2023 21:16

Blimey! All this person wanted was a few suggestions about how to steal 10 mins (??) for a shag. Instead she's getting attacked about how irresponsible / selfish she is. Get a life you self righteous prigs.

Nice. I'm quite a sexually liberal person. Just not where it involves my kids. You have different morals, obviously.

stereoboomer · 20/07/2023 21:31

Chellybelle · 20/07/2023 21:24

Nice. I'm quite a sexually liberal person. Just not where it involves my kids. You have different morals, obviously.

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QED!

Zanatdy · 20/07/2023 21:43

Never, I can’t imagine my parents ever saying to me go away so your dad and I can have sex. Get a 2 bed apartment next time or just wait until they are asleep

Zanatdy · 20/07/2023 21:47

Humidititties · 20/07/2023 20:29

Even if they're sharing a room? Grim

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What’s wrong with that? They are asleep, it’s a holiday, surely plenty of parents have sex in same room as their kids when they are on holiday? I don’t know why that’s grim

otherwayup · 20/07/2023 23:03

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Jesus Christ.
You do realise that this is classed as sexual abuse?
If any of your dc disclosed this at school, social care would be contacted.
I sincerely hope you're a troll.

Lizzie888 · 20/07/2023 23:57

Depends on the type of room you have. We 'managed' discreetly on our hotel room balcony many years ago while the kids were sound asleep inside. I would stress the discreetly part, we are/were no exhibitionists but got away with it; we hope!!!

BobOn · 21/07/2023 00:17

@Youabsoluteblinder
make sure the kids are safely looked after by responsible and trusted people
explain that mummy and daddy need time alone together and that mummy’s having a massage to explain any moaning and groaning if they come back and knock on the door

its healthy for kids to see their parents being affectionate and hug and kiss, so they can understand that you love each other.

sex in front of kids is never okay

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Youabsoluteblinder · 21/07/2023 07:38

Thank you for the responses so far.

The whole point of asking the question is because we don’t want our kids walking in on us at home or abroad, especially as they're getting older and are being taught about sex at school so will begin to understand what's happening. At home we'd wait until they're asleep but kids have a nasty habit of not always staying asleep! Saying 'we're sleeping don't come in' won't necessarily stop a child from walking in or 'we're having alone time' as kids don't get subtleties 😄

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QueenVixen · 21/07/2023 08:59

We wait until around 10 by then they’re both fast asleep, now ours are older we’ve told them to knock before entering bedrooms which I think is pretty standard for most children as they grow up and we’ve never been caught or seen.

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