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Youabsoluteblinder · 2023-07-20T08:12:33+00:00

My DH and I wants to know what's an appropriate age to tell your kids to go away so we can have sex. For context, we're currently on holiday and we have sent our kids to the pool, to get ice cream etc, hoping that they would be away long enough but it's like our eldest (10yo) knows what we're trying to do and rushes back as quickly as possible; like she's trying to stop/catch us. So when can we be honest and just tell them to F off for a bit so we can have some alone time. P.S. this is happening at home too!

vg101 · 21/07/2023 09:03

Is there kids clubs or something you can sign them up for? Recently went away with 9yr old daughter and that hr and half was perfect in the afternoons for adult time

Wherearemymarbles · 21/07/2023 12:36

We’ve always just booked 2 rooms! Expensive for sure but no way we want to share a room with our kids for 2 weeks!!!

Nocirculation · 22/07/2023 10:34

Kids are past masters at limiting your sex life! That said with a bit of thought you can get by. Although I appreciate it's difficult. No use telling them you are going to have 'sexy time' they can't help it, they will be intrigued and jealous in equal measure. Get joining rooms or something. If we want proper peace and privacy just go away for the night. Holidays can be difficult.

DancingInLines · 22/07/2023 16:10

No use telling them you are going to have 'sexy time' they can't help it, they will be intrigued and jealous in equal measure.

The reason you don’t tell them that is because that would make someone an absolute fucking sicko.

As for the message that thankfully was deleted, what the hell. I hope mumsnet contact the police because there’s some very questionable people here. Those that read the thread and didn’t report, I’m suspicious of you too. This board obviously has some very sick people who are ok with child sexual abuse and inappropriate behaviour around children. Disgusting.

Nocirculation · 22/07/2023 16:37

DancingInLines · 22/07/2023 16:10

No use telling them you are going to have 'sexy time' they can't help it, they will be intrigued and jealous in equal measure.

The reason you don’t tell them that is because that would make someone an absolute fucking sicko.

As for the message that thankfully was deleted, what the hell. I hope mumsnet contact the police because there’s some very questionable people here. Those that read the thread and didn’t report, I’m suspicious of you too. This board obviously has some very sick people who are ok with child sexual abuse and inappropriate behaviour around children. Disgusting.

Thanks for that, just trying to be level headed. I'm always suspicious of overly aggressive sorts. There is just no need to protest so much on an online forum.

Nocirculation · 22/07/2023 17:14

@DancingInLines just thinking about your response and there may have been some mis interpretation. By the ' intrigue and jealousy' I mean that kids will try and sneak a look at anything that they perceive to be 'rude'. Also they don't actually like their parents declaring that they are going to spend time (and attention) on someone else. They like your attention to be on them only...all of the time! To tell them that you are going to fo this (you don't even need to mention the actual details) they will not understand and want to know what the hell is going on. I think you may have taken my wording a little to literally. I am sorry if it gave the impression of something else but that is the danger of reading something once and firing of your thoughts. I always try to read things a few times, go away and have a think and come back with a balanced response if I'm still interested enough. Being overly aggressive on forums is just going to make people leave and then the whole thing loses it's use.

DancingInLines · 22/07/2023 22:24

Thanks for that, just trying to be level headed. I'm always suspicious of overly aggressive sorts. There is just no need to protest so much on an online forum.

Theres every reason to ‘protest’ so much about the safety of children. The fact you do not see that is very concerning but not surprising.

IbizaPoolParty · 22/07/2023 22:44

@DancingInLines Well said. This place is a fucking hellhole.

Rogue1001MNer · 22/07/2023 23:08

And I notice the usual regulars (who are usually over every thread on the sex topic like a rash) are uncharacteristically quiet on this thread

Sapphire387 · 24/07/2023 18:51

So your kids are being looked after by friends for a little while? In that case, can't you just say you're having a nap and then lock the door?

DixonD · 24/07/2023 19:01

Sapphire387 · 24/07/2023 18:51

So your kids are being looked after by friends for a little while? In that case, can't you just say you're having a nap and then lock the door?

This. There’s no need for kids to know what you’re doing!

Easterdaffsx · 25/07/2023 23:10

Sorry but you booked a two week holiday abroad in the same room as your kids ?
Poor kids! Are you expecting someone else to look after them while you have sex ?
At 10 they perhaps would appreciate their own room too perhaps.

Easterdaffsx · 25/07/2023 23:15

At 10they should be knocking the door anyway surely ?
We always knock on bedroom doors , even if I go into the dc .

Theft · 26/07/2023 04:39

I think that poster probably enjoyed the opprobrium of mums on here, which is why I said nothing. But I did report.

supermoom · 27/07/2023 12:12

We had many difficulties with my son during the Covid period because he was always at home. My husband worked night shifts, and during the day, my son would even invite his friends over to play PlayStation. Moreover, you should also consider that I had recently remarried, and in the end, I clearly told him to go to his grandma's during the day because we needed some parental intimacy. He was aware that I was trying to get pregnant, and he had no issues with it. He is a very sweet, mature, and responsible boy.

Personally, I don't agree with the idea that parents' sexuality should be hidden, as I consider it a normal and essential aspect of a couple's life. I believe that having open and appropriate conversations with our children about this topic can foster trust and understanding within the family.

supermoom · 27/07/2023 12:24

@Youabsoluteblinder

I also sent you a private message.

lastminutewednesday · 27/07/2023 17:31

This is why bathrooms have locks. After the kids are asleep obvs

TheresACalmBeforeTheStorm · 01/08/2023 20:58

Another grim read. I read what the deleted post said on another thread. Absolutely shocking and disgusting and apparently that poster is still allowed on mumsnet. God help those children. Some of the other posts aren’t much better.

pendleflyer · 02/08/2023 21:11

@Nocirculation
If you are still around.
Nothing wrong with any post of yours I saw here.
Ignore the aggression is my advice.

Simon12 · 03/08/2023 21:01

I would go for we need an afternoon nap, if you want one as well (as you are sharing the room) that’s fine but if not we do not want to be woken for an hour, they are with your friends so safe, jam the door have some fun then find the kids all refreshed and good to get ice cream ! Everybody’s happy !

ValiantThreadInspector · 03/08/2023 21:15

The deleted post earlier in the thread was from a complete sicko. He still gets to post on mumsnet though. 🧐 The post from @Nocirculation was odd, talking about kids being jealous as the reason why you don’t tell them you’re having sex...wtaf? It’s not aggressive to point disturbing things out and look out for children.

AMuser · 04/08/2023 00:00

supermoom · 27/07/2023 12:12

We had many difficulties with my son during the Covid period because he was always at home. My husband worked night shifts, and during the day, my son would even invite his friends over to play PlayStation. Moreover, you should also consider that I had recently remarried, and in the end, I clearly told him to go to his grandma's during the day because we needed some parental intimacy. He was aware that I was trying to get pregnant, and he had no issues with it. He is a very sweet, mature, and responsible boy.

Personally, I don't agree with the idea that parents' sexuality should be hidden, as I consider it a normal and essential aspect of a couple's life. I believe that having open and appropriate conversations with our children about this topic can foster trust and understanding within the family.

I’m sure it will provide many a long hour in the therapists chair for him that you told your son to bugger off to his grandmother’s so you could have sex with your new husband. You’ve read Hamlet I presume?

HardWorkAndLove · 04/08/2023 00:04

I’m sure it will provide many a long hour in the therapists chair for him that you told your son to bugger off to his grandmother’s so you could have sex with your new husband. You’ve read Hamlet I presume?

This.

Too many weird responses on this thread. 🤮

Bluesky5512 · 06/08/2023 07:40

tell them mummy is having a nap, do not disturb for an hour. Daddy goes with the kids , hands them over to friends and in 5 minutes, he is off to buy food, sun cream or just settle a bill at the reception or attend a work call.

45 mins is plenty of time! Next time swap places and mummy attends a work call.

Isn’t it a lot more sensible to just tell your friends and offer to return the favour for them?