Pubic hair

[Lovemusic33]

Is it really a problem if a woman doesn’t remove all pubic hair? Do most people shave/wax it all?

New FWB has just implied that I should shave, he’s not the first to ask but most men don’t seem too bothered. I haven’t replied to him as I am a bit pissed off, I am reasonably fit for my age, not really attractive but not ugly either, he is very over weight and quite a bit older than me. I kind of feel he should appreciate what he’s getting (or probably won’t be getting now).

Is pubic hair really a big issue when it comes to sex/oral?

just to add….I don’t have a if bush, I’m neatly trimmed.

Has he shaved his all off? Tell him your preference for a man is no hair and see his reaction.

At the end of the day keep it however you are comfortable with if you do decide to shave to see how it feels (for your benefit not his) then at least you know it will grow back soon enough

He’s not shaved no, and has facial hair too.

It’s 100% my choice which is why I am a bit annoyed that he has asked.

I have shaved before and was in a lot of pain when it started to regrow (ended up with thrush and unable to have sex for a month), I find it more comfortable with hair and feel it’s more natural.

Personally I think trimmed is perfect for everyone, I’m not a massive fan of women with lots of pubes, neither is my FWB a fan of men with lots of pubes, so we are both neatly trimmed.

Honestly you have every right to be annoyed at him although I think it depends all on how he implied it, if he directly asked you then that’s completely out of order but he may not have realised the implication.

I (currently) do have quite a lot of pubic hair and I’m comfortable with that, if someone asked me to shave then I’d simply say no .You’re in your rights to stick up for yourself

We were talking about oral and he said ‘next time no hair’, I just sent back a ‘🤨🤨’, he then said ‘sorry if I pissed you off’. I haven’t replied.

Without sounding big headed…he’s not the type I would usually chose, I would say I am slightly out of his league (again not being big headed), I am ten years younger than him.

Wow that would anger me too, doesn’t sound that great really. Also sounds like you’re not very into him anyway

I’m not that into him, let’s just say the first time was a bit disappointing though I put it down to nerves on his part. We have been friends for a while and now I’m kind of wishing we hadn’t stepped over the friends line.

Don’t let him get you down about yourself though, if you like having pubic hair then you do you 😊

He sounds like a twat.

He sounds unpleasant.

in general: I went into online dating with a full bush, and let my (now) boyfriend get on with it 😂 I have waxed since (left a trimmed triangle) mostly because I was getting a piercing - I’ve let it grow a bit but will probably keep it shorter than I used to.

Both my exes liked me having pubic hair. Suited me as I.was not interested in shaving.

'Next time, no hair' would really piss me off too, the cheeky sod.

He sounds like an arse, and you don't seem into him anyway so don't pay it any mind and sack him off!

If a man made even the slightest comment about my pubic hair they would never ever go near it again.
Sack him off and find someone who is actually nice. ?

Absolutely would piss me off. Just move on, sounds like a prat

As I've mentioned elsewhere on MN, looking at my naked self in the mirror, I can;'t remember what I looked like with pubic hair. But that is my personal choice, I would not want anyone else telling to grow it or remove it.

We were talking about oral and he said ‘next time no hair’.

Arrogant and offensive: telling you how you should look. He doesn't deserve to be within touching distance again.

For what it's worth, I find public hair incredibly sexy, and shaved far less sexy. Maybe that's a minority thing these days, but for me there's no comparison.

I’ve had everything from full bikini wax to natural, currently the latter, i had the same disappointing experiences whilst dating men, so two years ago i discovered swinging! Believe me there is nothing better for your confidence. Particularly in my case as a fat, disabled woman.

at the end of the day you shouldn’t have to change yourself to make someone else happy.

Why are you shagging such a loser?

The nerve of the guy. Everyone is different no doubt but I Iove a nice bush. And armpit hair for that matter.

The thing is : it's your body and nobody else's business what you do.

Prefer pubic hair on a woman, love running my fingers through it

Please don’t tolerate this kind of abuse. I’m 34, I’ve never shaved at all, no trimming nothing. Pubic hair, contrary to sexist belief, is hygienic. I feel so sorry for younger generations who follow the rules that men set for our bodies. I also feel confused for generations older than me who comply with it when they didn’t have the pressure to that the new generations have! Men drooled over Bettie Page in the 50s… beautiful healthy figured normal body hair… if we keep complying to ugly fat men’s new rules for what they think we should look like, can you imagine? Young girls already look like plastic dolls botoxing themselves in their 20s to please men it’s so sad. I love my pubes, I’d never succumb to pressure, I feel very lucky that I don’t. It’s so bizarre to me that so many women just do as they’re told and really believe it’s the norm. Pubes are the norm… so yeah, tell him to go back to his blow up doll :)

Equally there are many men that love pubic hair so perhaps your views are just not compatible on this. I was once on camera with a couple, getting quite an aroused we all were when a message came though from the guy saying I needed to shave. I quickly turned off the cam, if he don’t like the bush then I wasn’t going to give him the satisfaction of getting any pleasure from me and he defo was getting pleasure just also felt the need to tell me what to do with my body. Equally I have been on cam with a high number of men and they have all loved that hair. Find someone that will love the bush.

They're your pubes, he has no say and shouldn't be telling you to shave/wax. It's entirely up to you.

I am trimmed and need to attend to bikini line soon. A few strands of Golden Virginia showing under the swimsuit is not a totally sophisticated look IMO.

I'm all for inviting a partner to express a preference but (outside of a kinky S/D dynamic) if someone used that tone to 'tell' me what to do that'd give me the ick and put me right off of them.

I wouldn't go back (unless they were amazing in bed!)