How to introduce sex aids into the bedroom

[VampireVictim]

I've been in this FWB / fuck buddies type situationship with this guy for a couple of years now. A few weekends ago I was just browsing online. One Google search lead to another, and I ended up buying this sex wedge that I've been interested in trying. I want to try it with my FWB, but I'm worried he thinks I'm implying normal sex with him is "boring", and I'm trying to spice things up. It's absolutely not boring. I just liked the look of this wedge pillow thing. I tried putting a normal pillow under my bum once to lift my hips up and he just looked at me and was like "what are you doing? what is this supposed to do?" which makes me think he might not be too receptive of this. Is there a fun way I can try and entice him to use it?

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@VampireVictim - I was more thinking he might have witnessed physical abuse as a child, but yes, I can see it's not really your business, but it is affecting your relationship with him, so it might be worth a discussion if you'ld like him to be a bit more, er, physical....

Best thing would be to start talking about fantasies etc, and bring it in, or start browsing websites when he’s around saying what about this.

Appalling response.
Or maybe you think it assertive/sexy/spunky whatever.
I've had fuckbuddy FWB things but communication and simple human care is always vital. Even if doing some things some people, and maybe even you, might think a bit strong/edgy/even impersonal.

I also recommend the wedge as a man. I love giving oral and to be able to finger, tongue, kiss and caress my partner without getting neck ache over a prolonged period of time is wonderful. She likes it because it makes her feel more 'exposed' (her words) and that's a turn on for her. I just love giving oral... have I said that already?!

@weathervane1 sorry…I’m confused…what exactly are your feelings on giving oral? You’re giving mixed signals 🤣🤣

@Mermaidparades I think it could be a taste of things to come...

@weathervane1 I do hope you’re being sincere and not just paying lip service…

@Mermaidparades More tongue in cheek....

Cunnilingus : it's a tongue twister!

@weathervane1 it certainly is when it’s being carried out properly. Im sure you find your efforts always go down well…

OP, anyone who says that you don't need lube for anal is not only ignorant, they deserve to have something rammed up their rear end. That will make the point I think.

@Mermaidparades @weathervane1 Get a room, you two

Well, little update. The wedge was a tremendous success.

I just said "oh by the way there's something I want to try", and pulled it out from under the bed like tadaaa

He went "what is that??? what is that supposed to do? oh, you just sit on it? then what happens? Oh. OH! Oh my god!"

I said "is it working then?"

Safe to say its now going to be a regular feature in our future rendezvous.

@VampireVictim ta-daa is my secret weapon 😜 how wonderful for you both!! What are you going to pull out next from under the bed??!

This.