Would you be offended?

[Nonagainst]

I would just like an overall consensus.

I’m with a new guy (been together about 5 months) and the other day he said ‘you have a great vagina, not tight not baggy’. Instantly, my back was up. I’ve always been pretty tight if I’m honest and had nearly all ex partners mention it.

Two things though have changed in my life over the years.

I don’t know why, but I get quite wet with him. I’ve always been super wet but this is just ridiculous, so that gives us minimal friction during sex which I guess makes him thinks I’m ‘looser’.

I also had a child 4 years ago who was massive (though birthed through c section, he was extremely heavy and weighed down on my pelvic floor)

He has absolutely no issue coming but I do notice him sometimes do certain positions so his penis hits the side of vagina, I guess for sensation? But this is rare.

I’m just annoyed he even mentioned it and I always thought anything other than ‘tight’ is bad and so now I’m really hating the idea of sex with him.

Would you be annoyed with his comments or just move on from it? Am I being too sensitive.

If everything else is good, I think I would disregard it. Men often have a way with words, which means they can express things badly.

He literally said that you have a great vagina though. I don’t really think he meant to offend by complimenting you!

@Nonagainst I agree with @StarlightLady possibly just a bum f dumb f thing he said.

Give him a mental clip round ear and move on

Reminds me of many years ago in Paris when a complete stranger said to me in the street "Madame, may I compliment you on your bosom"! Such finesse!

That comment would give me the ick. I wouldn’t like it at all.

Hmm. It’s not that great if i’m honest.

He once said I had ‘Malteser nipples’ 🤨 I’ve breastfed in the past but my god I have very normal looking tits! Last night he ‘moved’ my c section pouch out the way whilst having sex. I’m a size 10 but my c section has a slight pooch! I really dislike him Now for making me over think things about my body.

Yeah perhaps im being slightly sensitive but because he’s said other things to me it’s making my mind reel.

Haha mental ear clip is something I will use for the future!

Hahahah definitely beats the English builders ‘oi lav, nice tits!’

Glad i’m not the only one!

@Nonagainst awww that’s not good, a partner should make you feel amazing - not doubt yourself!

Right? My ex husband cheated on me so
at first I was just happy for the attention from someone haha now I’m like, oh he’s a twat too

@Nonagainst oh no, what crappy luck?!

From the further info provided, I think it's now time to at the very least tell him to stop.

Maybe women can only want to hear tight as a compliment in the same way men only want to hear big.

"I think your cock is great it's small" would devastate most men but would be an understandable thing to say if a previous partners large size had been an issue.

The important bit is he thinks yours is great

@Surplus2requirements or ‘make love to me with your perfectly adequate cock!’ 😄
I guess sometimes it’s best to say nothing!

@Mermaidparades ...or 'the way your breasts droop is sooo sexy' 😖🤐

@Surplus2requirements 🤣 ‘I feel so desired when you gently acquiesce to my suggestions’

apologies @Nonagainst for being silly on your thread 💗
I hope you’re able to get through to him that it’s not ok

I think I'd feel a bit saddened by that as well. If he'd said something more like, you have a great vagina, it fits me perfectly, that would be fine - it's the idea of comparison that's a bit crap.

Malteser nipples sound delicious though 😉

Can you talk to him about it? If he's not actually a twat, just a bit clumsy, he'll hopefully help you feel better about it.

I can understand why it upset you. I’ve had 3 vaginal births and was mega surprised when new bf said my vagina was tight. No-one has ever commented on it before but I assumed it wasnt. He’s said it a few times really going on about it once. Now I wonder if it’s because I’ve got a low cervix or something! Something came up in a conversation and he said oh you could have said something about my penis then, I’m always complimenting your vagina (this sounds an odd conversation but it was mainly in jest and didn’t feel weird) - I didn’t though, he insecure about it and TBF I’d say it’s slightly under average. But I’d never say that and I have great sex with him, best ever so it’s not a negative. But I wouldn’t dream of commenting on someone’s body personally.

I don’t think you should do this unless you really want to but you can do kegel exercises / equipment if it worries you. Im sure your vagina is just fine and remember he said it was great!

That would ick me a little. Not that he complimented the vag but the use of the word baggy in the anywhere 🤢…. I am perfectly happy to be told how gorgeous I am but not when it’s a bit back-handed as that sounded.

He said you've got a great vagina, that's a compliment

If he said you've got a fanny like a wizard's sleeve I could understand why you aren't happy but he didn't

He once said I had ‘Malteser nipples’ 🤨 I’ve breastfed in the past but my god I have very normal looking tits! Last night he ‘moved’ my c section pouch out the way whilst having sex. I’m a size 10 but my c section has a slight pooch! I really dislike him Now for making me over think things about my body.

He's negging you.

Nope. I'd get rid