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Threesomes experiences

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Larsson11 · 27/02/2023 23:45

I know this subject might be a bit taboo, but would love to hear other peoples experiences on whether you have tried a threesome. My partner and I have been thinking for a while. I am pretty keen as as I have heard they can be very very freeing and a great way to explore your sexuality. Any advice or insights would be greatly appreciated.

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Hawkins003 · 27/02/2023 23:48

I have, it's good but jealously can be a factor, best to establish boundaries of activities agreed upon before the event

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Larsson11 · 27/02/2023 23:55

Great advice, did you know the other person well? We are undecided to go with a stranger (another female) or someone we know

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FinGizz · 27/02/2023 23:59

There's a sex topic you know?

Hawkins003 · 28/02/2023 00:00

Larsson11 · 27/02/2023 23:55

Great advice, did you know the other person well? We are undecided to go with a stranger (another female) or someone we know

Ours was part of our friendship group, I think a stranger may be better for emotionally.distance so to speak

Hawkins003 · 28/02/2023 00:00

FinGizz · 27/02/2023 23:59

There's a sex topic you know?

and it overlaps with relationship so it's both really

LangClegsInSpace · 28/02/2023 00:02

Women who post in relationships do not need this shit. WTF is wrong with you?

Hawkins003 · 28/02/2023 00:02

@Larsson11
Be mindful if it's fantasy that's fueling the idea for now, as when your together and it's the three of you, with cold light of day perspectives, it can alter how you perceive the fantasy

Hawkins003 · 28/02/2023 00:03

LangClegsInSpace · 28/02/2023 00:02

Women who post in relationships do not need this shit. WTF is wrong with you?

Not helpful, to the conversation,

2013isback · 28/02/2023 00:09

another female

Oh, I'd really recommend a man instead; unless it's all women.

Redebs · 28/02/2023 00:13

@Hawkins003 what exactly is is about sex threads on Mumsnet that you find so attractive?
You seem to hang around a lot, defending male prurience.

buttercupboots · 28/02/2023 00:15

Watch open house on channel 4 (available online) - you'll find lots of info on there

Hawkins003 · 28/02/2023 00:16

Redebs · 28/02/2023 00:13

@Hawkins003 what exactly is is about sex threads on Mumsnet that you find so attractive?
You seem to hang around a lot, defending male prurience.

This.came up in active, under the relationship board, and I have experience in this matter which is what the op wanted perspectives on.

FinGizz · 28/02/2023 00:20

Le sigh.

Threesomes experiences
Whenharrymetsmelly · 28/02/2023 00:21

I haven't, but know some people who have. Apparently it's quite difficult in terms of logistics and multitasking. Wasn't a great experience for that person. Another friend loved it, it was her opportunity to explore her bi side even though she's always been in relationships with men.
I think both parties need to ensure they aren't jealous, and probably est to do with a stranger if that could be an issue.

LangClegsInSpace · 28/02/2023 00:24

Hawkins003 · 28/02/2023 00:03

Not helpful, to the conversation,

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Go back to the sex board.

Veryverycalmnow · 28/02/2023 00:28

I was friends with a lovely couple. One of them wanted to experiment. I was invited and I accepted, partly due to my previous experience and feeling ok about that sort of stuff at the time. When it started I then felt really weird about it and stopped. Not friends anymore.

Alargeoneplease89 · 28/02/2023 00:33

Larsson11 · 27/02/2023 23:45

I know this subject might be a bit taboo, but would love to hear other peoples experiences on whether you have tried a threesome. My partner and I have been thinking for a while. I am pretty keen as as I have heard they can be very very freeing and a great way to explore your sexuality. Any advice or insights would be greatly appreciated.

Why don't you join fabswingers and go to clubs to see if there is zero jealousy before jumping into it. You really don't want to ruin your relationship because of a fantasty. When you go to clubs there is no pressure to play but normally have some fun nights (even if it's just social / dancing etc)

Hawkins003 · 28/02/2023 00:41

LangClegsInSpace · 28/02/2023 00:24

Go back to the sex board.

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Do you not realise this came up in relationships, in active ?????

MrsTerryPratchett · 28/02/2023 02:18

Do you not realise this came up in relationships, in active ?????

And it shouldn't be. This is exactly the problem with the Perv Signal going up. We said they wouldn't all stay in their little corner.

And there's one about escorts too.

Yuk.

Goodread1 · 28/02/2023 02:57

I know a open minded friend who experimented this way for a brief several months,
She said had alterntive fun in a unofficial, Naturist side at a beach that's classed as one of blue flag best beaches in Europe,
plus it's got a speacial significance of nature habit too,
Popular campsite beach for visting English tourists too,

AverageGuy · 28/02/2023 08:52

In my personal experience, two men and one woman works much better than two women and one man.

You definitely need to discuss limits & boundaries with your partner, and find someone that is happy to play by your rules (your body, your rules!)

My first experience with a MF couple had a "soft swing" (no penetration) rule, which was agreed up front, and I was happy to abide by - that was a fun evening! Grin

AHobbyaweek · 28/02/2023 09:14

I have experienced both. Personally enjoyed both.
Two girls with an established couple and we chatted about it for a while and discussed some fantasies with both before. In the end the other woman found she didn't like being touched by another woman but enjoyed the sharing aspect of her man.

Two men, I found this easier than balancing the feelings of the couple to be honest. The men seemed to be able to step back and see it as just sex but that might not always happen.

I would repeat both experiences!

PinotPony · 28/02/2023 15:15

I think it's a good idea to find a "unicorn" specifically for a threesome rather than involving an existing friend. If it doesn't work out, there's no awkwardness.

You could try Fab, although I've found many people on there to be a bit rough! I prefer Killing Kittens.

I'd always recommend meeting in person for a drink or dinner first to check that you are attracted to each other and agree rules and boundaries. Discuss STI tests, condoms, kissing, whether soft or full swap, sleeping arrangements...

It's important to remember that she is a person with her own emotions and desires, not just there to satisfy you two. Her comfort and enjoyment should be your priority.

A uniform friend of mine had an upsetting experience when the wife returned from the toilet in the night to find the husband having sex with my friend. The couple had agreed to only play when they were both in the room together so the wife went nuts. My friend felt awful but it was totally their fault for not telling her about the rule (and the husband for breaking it). So make sure everyone knows the rules!

Hawkins003 · 28/02/2023 18:43

The risk with unicorn is some sites are specifically against people wanting a unicorn, due to the power imbalances

Zanatdy · 01/03/2023 19:15

I’ve had a threesome but it wasn’t planned and I definitely felt a bit violated by the planning the 2 male friends did including offering me more drinks and setting up the situation. Obviously I could have said no, and didn’t, and I am still friends with one of them now over 20yrs later. It was never discussed again.

My bf has ‘jokingly’ mentioned one. He’s asked me in the past what are my hard no’s and so I said that a hard no! I don’t fancy women at all (and of course he wants a 2 female threesome) and I don’t want to share him with another woman. No way. Not knocking them, if it works for people go for it and enjoy it. I’d just say stick to a stranger as a friend can often end up with the end of the friendship

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