Do men care about this?

[maybabymama]

Very straightforward question. I am a single mum now which means at some point I'll have someone in my life (and my bed 😂). I've breastfed my DS and feel extremely insecure about my breast post feeding. My boobs are SMAAAAALL but it's the look of them that it's not very appealing (to me). My ex never said anything about it though. Do men really care or is it all in my head?

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Small boobs? Speaking personally I love them. Not all men have the same tastes, so don't worry about how you look compared to anyone else
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@RiktheButler I think I can deal with the actual size. But the look of them e.g when on all fours 🫠 but thanks!! Happy Valentines ❤️‍🔥

Personally speaking - if things have got to the point where a woman is allowing me to see/touch their breasts - I really don't care what they look like.

@Aaron95 hahah love this. Thanks for some reassurance

I honestly think you're overthinking this - and thinking too much about men having any hangups!

I too hate the shape of my breasts post breastfeeding, (as you say especially on all 4s) they are kind of triangular and empty.

I've never had a problem attracting a partner and none of them have ever commented negatively on the size or shape.

@TurtleTriplets yesss the shape is the problem for me 🥲

Nope, couldn't care less, as @Aaron95 said, the exciting thing is that you're letting us see / touch them, not what they look like

Hopefully, all in your head, though an understandable concern. Any prospective partner if they have anything about them, won't base your worth on that.

If there's one thing I've learnt from OLD and meeting many, many men in the last few months, it's that the vast majority of men really don't care and just want boobs.

Big boobs, small boobs, saggy boobs, they don't care. They just love the boobs.

It's an absolute confidence boost.

If there's one thing I've learnt from OLD and meeting many, many men in the last few months, it's that the vast majority of men really don't care and just want boobs.

Big boobs, small boobs, saggy boobs, they don't care. They just love the boobs.

It's an absolute confidence boost.

DH once said to me that men have spent so many years thinking about boobs that any boobs they get to touch are bloody brilliant. I had fab boobs when we met, he was happy, 3 breast fed until at least their first birthday later kids later and not so good, still happy, a boob job and he was still happy, implants out and lift and still happy.

Your boobs are fine and most men would be delighted with them, the ones that aren't, well good luck in finding someone who looks past their imperfections and accepts them for the less than perfect specimen they are.

The preference is subjective.. some men will like small boobs some will like big boobs some will be bum men. However a decent man wouldn't focus on that and be happy to date you no matter what if it was the right man

I'm totally missing the point but...
As I'm currently bf my 3rd child and haven't had a break from bf in over 6years I think they'll be chuffed that they can touch your breasts. I can't stand mine being touched by DH (poor man). So if it's a choice between "full" breasts they can't touch or smaller ones they can I bet they'd pick yours 🙂

Also if he dares say anything less than 100% complimentary then chuck him back

Honestly from a blokes point of view, we do not care. Small or large, pert or saggy, small nipples or big nipples.. any boobs are great boobs.
I will play with them all day long and much to the wife's annoyance go for a cheeky grope whenever I get the chance

I think men, well no, everyone, women and men - just LOVES breasts. Whatever they are like.

We were all babies once after all ...

You should celebrate your boobs! It is the plus side of being a woman! We've got the thing everyone loves!

It makes up for the childbirth, the wrecked stomach muscles etc and all the rest of it

After reading everyone's replies I guess I need to work on my own self esteem and accept the fact that this is my body now 🤝🏼 thanks for your lovely replies and I hope you have fun tonight 😮‍💨

I hate the shape of mine post breastfeeding too!! I feel really uncomfortable on top during sex with my bf for that exact reason 🙈

I know this is a lighthearted thread but FFS if it genuinely annoys her stop with the bloody groping!!

I'm massively projecting here but it annoys the fuck out of me... partner thinks it's fun and a compliment. It's not.

100% this, some men will prefer big boobs, some smaller boobs, in the same way some women like beards on men & some will prefer clean shaven,

the right man will like all of you.

I agree with this, if it annoys her, why would you continue to do it?

Agreed. You'd be getting a fucking slap if you continued to grope me without my permission

My DP says that if a man is lucky enough to be with a willing, welcoming, naked woman, his thoughts are more 'YESYESYESYESYESYES' rather than anything critical whatsoever.

Stop groping your poor wife without her concent. Yuk.