Do men care about this?

[maybabymama]

Very straightforward question. I am a single mum now which means at some point I'll have someone in my life (and my bed 😂). I've breastfed my DS and feel extremely insecure about my breast post feeding. My boobs are SMAAAAALL but it's the look of them that it's not very appealing (to me). My ex never said anything about it though. Do men really care or is it all in my head?

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If anyone judges you for the shape of your breasts you don’t want to be fucking them anyway. Find someone who adores you

From a male perspective, there are only three classifications for boob:

1. Great
2. Amazing
3. Stupendous

My wife's boobs turn sixty later this year and have breastfed 6 children. I have yet to feel justified in downgrading them from stupendous to amazing.

@maybabymama Ok I agree with lots of what has been said here and when it comes down to it if you aren't happy with how they look and want to do something that makes you feel able to relax and go to your heavenly place...have you looked at open cup/shelf bras?

www.naughtyknickers.co.uk/collections/cupless-bras-and-quarter-cup-bras

My DW's lady's are in my humble opinion to die for however she likes the little lift that these can bring.

Also look at Obsession lingerie too...you can but don't need to spend a fortune, good luck!!

Do all women like chiselled abs ? Nope. Women like men of all kinds of shape.
Men are usually happy to get to touch any boobs and there will be plenty of men who would love to touch yours. Please don't worry

Some men specifically like that shape in all fours, have seen sub reddits dedicated to wanking over small breasts in doggy style.
I think if the bloke is busy behind you there is so much to see and do. Guys are generally much more forgiving of our bodies and their imperfections in the heat of the moment, besides, who says your bloke is 100% perfect and has no insecurities about his one body and performance?

This kind of sums it up in my experience

As the men have said up thread. The women who might be sexually involved with you will not judge them. They all score 10/10
We women are just as loving and just as grateful to be engaging with you that closely.

Big, small, all boobs are simply beautiful

Sublime Perfection, nuff said.

I've always been extremely self conscious about my non existent boobs. Like I have NONE. Zero. Nada. Pancake/beestings/fried eggs (I could go on).

I breast fed for nearly a year but luckily as they were so small to start with they just disappeared back into my body.

I realise a lot of men love big boobs, so I avoid the boob men. I can't help the way I was made. I just never had them and at my age (47) bit late to worry about that now.

The joys of not having boobs, I never wear a bra. Don't have to.

@Fentylipgloss As has been said about Penises many times it's not what you've got it's what you do with them that counts!!

You must save a fortune on bras, result!!

I think it depends on the man involved. We just want to see them touch them and so on an so forth. The best breast are the ones we get to see!

I have c cup boobs which fit well with my physique. I’ve never had any partner complain they’re too small, I’ve had lots of compliments on how formed and pert they are though.

@maybabymama I actually prefer smaller breasts and petite woman and I’m 6”3

All I would say is as other pp here have pointed out a more mature man, I’m 42 btw couldn’t care less but I suppose some immature boys may be dicks about scoring a woman with a perfect 10 body.

I have small boobs. I don’t think men care unless they specifically like big boobs, in which case they will go for a female with bigger boobs.

I have an athletic build so mine go on my body. I agree 100% with the posters who say men just want to see them and touch them. My male friend said once you’ve seen a few pairs, you’ve seen them all. That about sums it up.

Every lady has various shapes and sizes,

It all adds up the experience levels and passion between a couple

I breastfeed my three kids for years each. Somehow my boobs just got bigger and retained a nice shape. There has literally never been a day that my DH doesn’t say he loves them, in fact I am very lucky as he just seems to worship my body generally and loves it day in day out, slim, chubby, pregnant, not-pregnant, athletic, out of shape. He has never said the slightest criticism of my body, needless to say our sex life is great and I think it is a lot to do with how confident I feel and how much he desires me all the time.

As I have got older I have grown to understand that contrary to the propaganda (such as advertising) that makes women feel insecure about our bodies, men are in fact very forgiving and instead love an enthusiastic partner who enjoys getting naked and intimate with them.

My favourite great-aunt told me "When you're the only naked woman in the room, you're the only woman that matters!"

I've got a thousand suggestions for improving body confidence & self-image but, when it comes to sex, auntie's remark is all you need. Have fun!