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Not being able to feel anything when Penetrating my Girlfriend.

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rollama · 13/02/2023 05:54

To give some perspective - we've been together for 6 months, we're both 28 yrs old, and I am her first love, she has never gotten intimate with anyone before.

We spend a good amount of time on foreplay and oral sex, and when it comes to penetrative sex, let it be missionary/doggy/reverse cowgirl, my girl loves it, but I cannot feel any pleasure when I penetrate.

At the start with a few pumps, I can feel the warmth inside, but after a minute I cannot feel her vagina at all. Is this normal?

In my previous sexual experience with my other partners, my penis always felt snugged in and tight in her vagina whilst penetrating, and it felt so great, that I would hardly last for 10mins.

Whereas with my current girlfriend, our penetrations last for 45mins to 60mins till I cum.

Unfortunately, penetrative sex is not pleasurable with her.
We have tried different positions, and it still doesn't help.

She's on the heavier side and has PCOS/PCOD → could that be a reason?

This is the first time I am opening up about it to anyone, any help or suggestions to help us would be appreciated.

I love her and am happy to sacrifice the sex part even if it stays the same, but I really want to learn if there is anything we can do about it.

Thank you for your time.

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SittingNextToIt · 13/02/2023 05:55

Yes that’s exactly what I think about too just before 6 am.

sashh · 13/02/2023 05:57

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bananaAgogo · 13/02/2023 06:53

It's definitely you not her. Have you tried the Noni massage?

Strugglingtodomybest · 13/02/2023 06:53

At the start with a few pumps, I can feel the warmth inside, but after a minute I cannot feel her vagina at all. Is this normal?

Not being funny, but I think you're asking the wrong people here! How would a bunch of women know what's normal for a man to feel?

ReignBeauDash · 13/02/2023 06:54

Do you wank a lot with a death grip, watch a lot of porn? Maybe you've ruined your own sensation if so.

itwasntmetho · 13/02/2023 06:56

ReignBeauDash · 13/02/2023 06:54

Do you wank a lot with a death grip, watch a lot of porn? Maybe you've ruined your own sensation if so.

Agree.

berksandbeyond · 13/02/2023 06:57

… and why, of all the internet, was Mumsnet the place you thought would be best to advise you on this?

GoldDuster · 13/02/2023 06:58

This can absolutely happen to a man around the age of thirty, it's a rare medical phenomemon and is all to do with the degradation in the elliptical cells.

Long cold showers can help, and lots of running, and abstention from alcohol and salty snacks.

Enthusiastic immersion in household tasks has been reported to bring the feeling back but it can take a while.

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I think the other posters are smelling a troll....
Not that they are uncaring.

MaireadMcSweeney · 13/02/2023 07:06

This is the sex board, chill out people.
OP there absolutely can be a difference in eslasticity and muscle tone between vaginas. Age can cause loss in both, but that's probably not the issue here? Pelvic floor exercises and breath work may help her, but you'd have to approach it carefully. I only say this because having better muscle tone will make her more orgasmic, not for your benefit!

neighboursmustliveon · 13/02/2023 07:06

Yeah you are right, come to a site called Mumsnet to ask about how it feels for a man to have sex, there will be plenty of people here who can help 🙄

ladymacbeth · 13/02/2023 07:08

@MaireadMcSweeney and @Satinthemiddle you cannot be this naïve!

sashh · 13/02/2023 07:08

It is half term for a lot of people, he's probably been awake all night gaming.

PinkButtercups · 13/02/2023 07:09

That's a you problem little ol' pal.

I mean you can try blame it on her being on the 'heavier side' to make you feel better but it's your little pecker mate.

MaireadMcSweeney · 13/02/2023 07:11

ladymacbeth · 13/02/2023 07:08

@MaireadMcSweeney and @Satinthemiddle you cannot be this naïve!

Honestly I don't care
people respond to men posting the tamest stuff on the sex board as if they are posting cock shots and heavy breathing all over us. Firstly I don't believe that teenagers or perverts spend their time getting their kick posting tame posts on mumsnet and secondly even if they do so what? What harm has my advice caused? If some bored twat has a walk over my comment about pelvic floor exercises what harm is done?

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WhiskeyMakesMeFrisky · 13/02/2023 07:31

I just love the 'penetrating' with a capital P in the thread title.

Tuilpmouse · 13/02/2023 07:35

Lots of posts assuming the OP is a troll, but having read it, it seems a very odd thing to troll about, and I'm struggling to see what sexual kicks anyone is likely to get from advice that may be given on this subject.

OP, assuming you aren't a troll, options are, asking her to clench around you during sex, or alternatively try anal.

SittingNextToIt · 13/02/2023 07:36

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cantgetabus · 13/02/2023 07:52

That went well

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