Not being able to feel anything when Penetrating my Girlfriend.

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To give some perspective - we've been together for 6 months, we're both 28 yrs old, and I am her first love, she has never gotten intimate with anyone before.

We spend a good amount of time on foreplay and oral sex, and when it comes to penetrative sex, let it be missionary/doggy/reverse cowgirl, my girl loves it, but I cannot feel any pleasure when I penetrate.

At the start with a few pumps, I can feel the warmth inside, but after a minute I cannot feel her vagina at all. Is this normal?

In my previous sexual experience with my other partners, my penis always felt snugged in and tight in her vagina whilst penetrating, and it felt so great, that I would hardly last for 10mins.

Whereas with my current girlfriend, our penetrations last for 45mins to 60mins till I cum.

Unfortunately, penetrative sex is not pleasurable with her.
We have tried different positions, and it still doesn't help.

She's on the heavier side and has PCOS/PCOD → could that be a reason?

This is the first time I am opening up about it to anyone, any help or suggestions to help us would be appreciated.

I love her and am happy to sacrifice the sex part even if it stays the same, but I really want to learn if there is anything we can do about it.

Thank you for your time.

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• Why assume he's small?

maybe she isn't being honest and he isn't her first and she has a massive bucket*

Yes, every time I yawn my mouth gets slacker and slacker...

To the OP, perhaps either ask her to try more kegel exercises and perhaps you need to try wanking with a softer grip? Could be one or both of those causing an issue.

I think some of the responses here have proven that to some people women can do no wrong and everything is the man's fault.

In this instance I don't believe it's either, but some women are a little looser down there and the sensation isn't the same from a man's perspective - however, I've never known it still not feel nice so that is an issue OP.

I've never had much sensation in my penis - rarely come from oral and last quite a while with PIV sex too so do 'get it' and like you, have noticed the difference (and yes, there is still often a difference in feel from doing it with someone who is on the larger side) - however, I think much of it is likely in your head if you're not feeling anything. How much do you feel relaxed during sex? Are you able to orgasm/ejaculate?

if she’s overweight, she could well have a weak pelvic floor and that might be why you can’t feel much unfortunately you should probably break up much kinder than telling her the truth

As if we haven't heard these comments a million times over.
Couldn't you at least come up with something more original?

Isn't there enough free porn on the internet without seriously believing someone needs to these pages to 'get off'?

Yeah there's got to be better fodder than MN, surely...

Has there been any change in sensation when you masturbate? Might be worth checking in a with a GP or sexual health clinic to see if there is a problem with nerve endings?

@K8ate @papercutt Sounds like a legitimate question to me, why so aggressive?
We read the same posts again and again about lazy husbands/cheating/money issues. Why are people only allowed to ask duplicate questions when it’s not about sex?