Does your husband have any idea on how many orgasms you can/could have

[Thander]

So my husband and I don’t have sex very often, but when we do it’s pretty good, I do usually have an orgasm when we have properly (sometimes he likes quickies that I don’t get any enjoyment out of but I know he gets a kick out of) however with boyfriends in my youth we used spend a whole day in bed and I would have multiple orgasms, also on my own I can have so many orgasms that I loose count and I have to stop just for getting sore. I could never tell this to my husband as I know 1) he wouldn’t have the patience to give me those multiple orgasms and 2) he wouldn’t have the stamina, he would loose interest quickly after having an orgasm himself, it’s only quite rare that he could go again. He never really is interested in keeping me going with toy etc once he has had an orgasm.

I think it’s usual for women that do have orgasms to be able to have several orgasms and so I am wondering if other women’s husbands know this?

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Unless that is his thing, I imagine providing many orgasms for you would be boring as hell. I think I am a faulty woman because like most blokes I am one and done.

Yeah he can make me cum a few times in a session. And he will always make me orgasm beforehand through foreplay. If we have a quickie I'll still usually orgasm at least once. I realise I am lucky though, being able to orgasm this frequently through penetration as it has not been the case with most of my past lovers.

My DH keeps me going for ages, he never seems to get bored 😂. I honestly couldn't be bothered if it was the other way round!

My DH thinks he is the one doing it - but it's all me and frankly I'm quicker on my own.

Same!

One and done as well. Can’t be arsed! I collapse afterwards and am like don’t touch me

Well my DH certainly knows I can have multiple orgasms and usually makes sure I cum 3-4 times in a session though foreplay, toys and penetration. He used to be done once he had finished himself but since he has been on some meds he can go for ages without cumming so it's not as critical that I cum as many times during foreplay.

He knows generally that I masturbate on my own but has no idea how much or when I do it. I think he would be surprised how often and many orgasms I enjoy this way!

Sex is a very important part of our relationship and my DP takes my orgasms very seriously. What works best for me is some clitoral orgasms, which leads to my g spot swelling and becoming more sensitive. Then he’ll focus on my A spot. Bliss 💗

My first boyfriend made a lot of effort but no-one after that. I don't orgasm through penetration so I guess I was too much effort or the novelty wore off. None of my partners have ever satisfied me sexually.
I read once about how a woman can get a numb vagina after a lot of orgasms. One day I retired alone to my bed with a toy. 27 orgasms later I can confirm that vaginas do go numb.

I have never said any of that out loud.

@2catsandhappy 27?? Game on!! Seriously though, I hope you find satisfaction with a partner.

Hallelujah I am not the only one! When I get going, it’s so hard to stop as I just enjoy it so much… I want to keep going, I only stop because I get sore, but then I could start again a few hrs later. I have never counted as I’m just in the moment enjoying it, but I looked at the time today and was having orgasms one after the other for 30min.

i’m not like this all the time though, I think it’s somehow related to me ovulating as I get really horny during that time.

i could never tell my husband as I think he would feel really insecure. A past boyfriend was jealous as yes he could have orgasms more easily but it only lasts a few sec and then he would need to wait to be able to go again (and he had a very high sex drive)

I dunno, good for you but tbh I can only sustain interest for a short while. Don't think I would even wish to be horny for that long. Very few men are ever going to be able to keep up. They are not brilliant as it is

I am one and done, but my partners have almost all been able to have multiple orgasms, including ejaculation. I am as generous as I can be before I get lockjaw or my back gives out.
(Lesbian sex can be epic.)

I used to be happy in that I always orgasmed but once I had I thought it was game over, time to sleep. Then I (briefly) got into BSDM and found it was possible to orgasm non stop; and even without being touched. It was wonderful but very, very, exhausting and eventually became too intense. Very fond memories though 😍

I love the feeling when I’m so so sensitive after several orgasms and feel like I just can’t handle any more, and he looks deep into my eyes and starts stimulating me again. Hot as hell!

@Escarpahell that sounds fascinating!

I'm the same. As soon as I come I have zero interest in anything and just want to sleep 😂 I couldn't be bothered with multiples.

Yes, absolutely. I have no libido - never have done. But can orgasm - DH knows If it's been a few months then I will be able to have great orgasms through chosen contact and communication. I just tell him, he does it, great.

I get bored after a while if it goes on and on

You don't know what you're missing! 😍

I have better orgasms with someone else. They are very effective on my own, but it's not the same. I can go on much longer with someone else - hours. Most partners seem to delight in it. I refuse to count and just ride the wave. They tend to give up counting.