I've started to become curious about other women in my 40s

[WLWCuriousity]

Hi. I'm 42 and during the course of the past 2 and a bit years, I've developed an interest in reading erotic fiction online with a lesbian theme. It's also referred to as WLW fiction in some places. I hadn't previously had any thoughts about women in that regard or had any sexual experiences with other women. It was an interest that developed gradually. I am still reading the fiction and enjoying it. I think if it was simply a phase, I wouldn't still be having the thoughts and feelings I'm having. If anything, they have been getting stronger. When I'm reading the stories, I get really turned on. Sometimes I will imagine myself as one of the characters. I also enjoy watching lesbian porn, although I only started looking at that recently compared to the stories. I haven't thought or fantasised about men at all for over 2 years, but I have done so about women on multiple occasions.

I don't know if this means I'm definitely a lesbian, but I'm excited to have discovered this part of myself. I'm single so there is nothing to stop me seeking an experience with another woman or having a relationship with one. The thought of having such an encounter (which may or may not lead to a relationship) has certainly been on my mind however. Has this happened to anyone else later in their life?

I wish something like this would happen to me, but sadly I love cock too much for my own good.

Lesbian sex must surely be better than het sex: no worries about pregnancy, disease, violence or erectile dysfunction plus exponentially more orgasms.

Why don't you just go for it?

I'm in the exact same situation as you late 40s. It's women I fantasise about having sex with and would love to explore. Tho I'm in a sexless marriage so stuck with my stories and fantasies.

Enjoying a certain theme doesn’t mean you’re a lesbian. Or maybe it does! Why not go out and meet actual women and see how it goes? Just remember the stories you read are just that. Fiction. Women are real people with complex emotions and stories of their own. The idea that lesbians always have an endless perfect sex life is not always the case! Good luck meeting some women.

Been with a man 23 years here but have fallen hard for a female friend! Knew I was bi but never felt like this before 🙈

Realise my post made being with women abit rubbish! It isn’t! Lots of women “come out” or fall in love with women at different ages. 😊
@40f ah the age old falling in love with a friend. Good luck!

Thanks I think I will need it lol!

I am bi curious, I have been for a few years but have never experimented.

Plenty of women discover that they might be a little bit gay later in life.

Maybe it's getting to know yourself better, feeling freedom from societal expectation of heterosexuality as you get older, hormones even - who knows.

If you enjoy lesbian erotica that's wonderful and if you're able to explore your sexuality with an open mind - then go for it!!

@WLWCuriousity On these boards I have made a friend. We are both similar to how you describe your self.
We both have GFs now. Both of us divorced and single again. We are not planning to meet. Both in 40s. first time for me.
PM me for more chat.

You are definitely not alone. Whether it's a new awakening or a reawakening (it was the latter for me) 40s seems to trigger a re-evaluation and new openness to exploring in lots of women. You don't have to commit to any label, enjoy the adventure!

OP, I am a similar age to you. The advice I would give is:

1. Throw away any labels, just see yourself as sexual. No prefix required.
2. Put fiction to one side for a bit. It does not relate to the real world.

I will rewind my life to my teens. I had boyfriends but I also used to kiss some close girl friends. We used to call it kissing practice, the logic being then to make us better kissers for the boys, looking back I don't think that was the case, but I was certainly not aware then.

Fast forward to my early 30s. I was working away from home and a female colleague invited me for a video and a pizza. I went along and thought it was a nice gesture (I still feel the same). What happened that evening took me quite by surprise. It started with her stroking my hair and I discovered a side of me that I did not know existed.

It was a huge awakening, I've been with both genders since but I will always remember that night.

Drop me a PM if you would like to discuss further.

I wouldn't worry about needing a specific label and just go with it.
I recently came out of a long term marriage and virtually divorced now. I had had a brief one night encounter during my early 20s with another women and never again since. Married for a long time but since we split, my interest was raised. Ended up having an experience with another women which was wonderful and still ongoing (encouraged by another MN user) but I definitely don't want to give up me. Enjoying my freedom currently and the sex is different but wonderful and sensuous

Yep, I haven’t quite hit 40 yet but in my late 30s my bi side has come to the fore! Do you have plans to act on it?

I have also been reading lots of erotic stories online with lesbian themes. I have enjoyed them very much more than I thought I would. Has anyone here familiar with the Juicy secrets site?
D xo

This is another re-energised Zombie or long ignored thread on the topic if late developing bisexual traits or interests. Are any of the other pp still interested in this topic? Did you all make the change did it work out well for you?
Recently I have become interested in having a much closer relationship with a friend. We spend time together but not sure if she wants to be close to me.
I would think of myself as Bi not Lesbian because I have not made to kind of commitment that a lesbian would make.

I also consider myself as bi. Well, in my mind anyway. It seems that this is quite common for us once we reach a certain age

@Damsel72 I think that there are some who wish they could switch to different partners but are in stable relationships so don't disrupt what they have.
I did have a fling with a woman but it did not last. I get the impression that these can de fragile or unstable relationships.

I myself am divorced and been single for a while. However, I still find myself apprehensive and hesitant about taking the leap into a same sex experience, never mind a relationship. I know it's more common nowadays but there is still some holding me back. I find it easier to lose myself in the fantasy of erotic stories that I read and enjoy online x

@Damsel72 ; Is it more of a chance than a first date with a man?
When I was younger I was more willing to take the risk of being rebuffed than I am now with a man. It seems about equal with a woman now.

Do you ever write your stories fantasies?

Definitely bi. Moved in with a woman, came out to my family age 22. It didn’t work out. Went out with a guy and my family were relieved I was normal. Now 54 and totally denies my inner feelings to please everyone else.

Too late now. Does not stop me wishing I hadn’t had the pressure to conform.

If you’re single go out and meet up.

This is exactly what happened to me, I became curious about having sex with another woman, first did it when I had a threesome, now I am in a relationship with an another woman and the sex is far better than i have ever had

@SportGirl May we know if you are with the other woman from the threesome or completely separate.
Currently I am dating a woman, hoping it leads to a closer involvement.

I had a girlfriend who loved sex with me, almost a nympho, and confided in me she was sure she was not a lesbian but there were occasional women who simply turned her on. I think it is quite normal for women to appreciate other women and maybe even go for a sexual encounter.

Nah this woman I am with is completely separate

Thanks @SportGirl , did you find the 3some a good way to start dating women?