I've started to become curious about other women in my 40s

[WLWCuriousity]

Hi. I'm 42 and during the course of the past 2 and a bit years, I've developed an interest in reading erotic fiction online with a lesbian theme. It's also referred to as WLW fiction in some places. I hadn't previously had any thoughts about women in that regard or had any sexual experiences with other women. It was an interest that developed gradually. I am still reading the fiction and enjoying it. I think if it was simply a phase, I wouldn't still be having the thoughts and feelings I'm having. If anything, they have been getting stronger. When I'm reading the stories, I get really turned on. Sometimes I will imagine myself as one of the characters. I also enjoy watching lesbian porn, although I only started looking at that recently compared to the stories. I haven't thought or fantasised about men at all for over 2 years, but I have done so about women on multiple occasions.

I don't know if this means I'm definitely a lesbian, but I'm excited to have discovered this part of myself. I'm single so there is nothing to stop me seeking an experience with another woman or having a relationship with one. The thought of having such an encounter (which may or may not lead to a relationship) has certainly been on my mind however. Has this happened to anyone else later in their life?

I once wandered in on a girlfriend who was "self-pleasuring" while looking at the foldout in a Penthouse magazine. Looking back on it, she wanted me to wander in. We had great sex, leaving the magazine open while we did it doggy-style. Never mentioned it again. We were our late teens, early twenties and, I think, a little intimidated. But, she clearly enjoyed things.

@CATomas , I don't think this thread was set up to give men an opportunity to brag about how they 'pleased' themselves.
The thread is about women and their thoughts and their feelings that have changed from what they had been comfortable with through puberty and into mature adulthood. @WLWCuriousity hardly refers to physical sex.
Perhaps you should start your own thread or your own website.

Ok. I stand corrected. But I thought I was talking about a female and there was a whole bunch of "threesome" conversations, which, by definition, include a male. Usually. I'm done. Sorry.

I also take issue with those women who think that a bisexual woman would be an ideal treat for their hubby as the grand finale to a threesome evening.

It certainly made me more curious

Hi @SportGirl My first was an introduction via a friend who was a late convert to women. This was after late night 'chats' with a woman who is on page 1 of this thread.

I've had relationships with a couple of females who were bi curious and went on girl/girl dates.
They said that if they had to put numbers to it they would be 60/40 or 70/30. Which I took to mean that if they met someone they were physically attracted to of either sex they would indulge.
So by definition are bi-sexual.

I've always been bi. In a longterm relationship with a man now. Had a couple of threesomes with another woman which was wonderful. Always happy to receive DMs from like-minded women.

It’s definitely something I find I want to explore more but I’m never sure how to go about it. When I was in my 20s I had a surprise experience with another woman. She was a friend of a friend and I went back to hers after a night out and we ended up kissing, plus a bit more, on her sofa.

I find the type of women I’m attracted to different to the type of men. I’m quite sporty and, by and large, I’m attracted to sporty men but with women I find curves and shape attract me.

You definitely don't need a man for a threesome... just saying 😉

As I get older I find myself very curious about what it would be like to be with a woman. I’m happily married and have a good sex life with my husband but when I’m enjoying some alone time my main fantasies involve women.

I’d just like to say that I do not want private messages from men about their wives experiences. Ive already had one,

You can Google lesbian sex and observe. If its a turn on, that would say a lot.

I’m in my 30s and feel like this but I’m not sure about using dating apps so don’t really know where to start. I wonder if there a lot of women in this position as these types of threads pop up quite often.

I’ve been single for a few years now and have thought about my bi curious side, however I don’t know where I’d begin with it, as I don’t know for certain as I haven’t done it, and I wouldn’t want to ‘use’ a lesbian/bi sexual woman just to see that wouldn’t be fair on them

@OpalOwls and other ladies, you have taken the first step by posting your thoughts here.
Now start talking to women here in a direct way. Ask someone if you can PM them. You need to find out more.

Definitely think it’s quite normal. I’m 52 and dated a woman in my early twenties but I had a lot of pressure from my family so we split and I got married. Feels like part of me is just satisfying the rest of the world.

46 and in a dead marriage but can’t leave due to kids etc

In the last year or so I have become more and more curious but I just can’t see a way I can ever explore this side, which is sad

@AbsolutePixels Lesbian sex must surely be better than het sex: no worries about pregnancy, disease, violence or erectile dysfunction plus exponentially more orgasms.

Ah yes, the old homophobic stereotype that violence only happens in heterosexual relationships, and gay men and lesbians live in a magic rainbow world where violence in relationships does not happen.

My DM’s are open to genuine women who want to discuss this.

Similar to other posters, I've found myself becoming more curious with the older I'm becoming. I'm starting to feel really interested in exploring this side of me but have no idea where to start. If anyone in a similar position would like to chat, my DMs are open.

@OpalOwls so long as you are up front about what you want / can offer someone I don't think they would necessarily mind 😉 Check out SkirtClub if you want to be around bi/ curious women also looking to experiment.

I would encourage those of you that are curious to get in touch with each other and start a chat group together. I joined something similar, also through MN, in 2021 (the thread has since been deleted sadly). It brought me into a small community of very interesting women, supportive chat, some who then met up irl, had nights out and weekends away together and went on to became good friends and more! It hasn't all been plain sailing but it has been a lot of fun.

I'm 50 and married to a man. It's been sexless for a while however. I've been experiencing feelings of attraction to women for several years now. I read lesbian-themed erotic fiction online whenever I get the chance, and I find that it turns me on quite a lot. I also find myself noticing other women when I'm out in public and wondering if any of them are in similar situations to myself (or have actually had experiences with women).

I'm excited by these feelings. They seem to have been getting stronger over time too. I'm a bit nervous telling people, but it also feels like a weight off my shoulders to actually share it. I'd like to talk to women in similar situations if possible.

Not if the people in them are stable & determined to make it work. If you have those ingredients, of course it can.