Do you usually give yourself a quick clean before sex (especially oral)?

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I usually spend about 10 minutes in the bathroom giving my fanjo a quick clean before sex. Find it hard to relax during the act itself if I don't follow this routine. My DP has said he likes the thought of going down on me when I haven't done my usual routine. I am wondering if this is common (me always cleaning myself before sex, and partner wanting to go down on me more when I haven't).

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I can relate with your partner, as I too like an unwashed vulva to go down on. We are not talking about one that hasn't been washed in ages, more one that was washed at some stage during the day but hasn't been given the once over that many women (like you) seem to perform before sex.

A freshly-washed vulva has nothing by way of taste, or aroma, that I enjoy. Each to his own, as they say, but from my experience it would seem that neither you, nor your man, are anything out of the norm.

The vulva does a pretty good job of cleaning itself and requires no special care in order to be ready for oral, or any other type of sex.

I'm clean in general anyway and am usually fresh out the bath before we have sex at night. If I knew he wanted to go down on me I'd give it an extra rinse. I guess I do it for confidence. No one has ever told me I smell bad, but I've been with a man in the past who smelt and tasted disgusting and I found it impossible to give him a blowjob. So that makes me more aware. His hygiene was not great though.

Where it is practical to do, I prefer to have a shower before sex. And for me, sex without including oral would be pretty poor sex.

Always give oral (vaginal and anal) and much prefer spontaneous sex than "pre-prepped" as it is somehow less raunchy.

I like my female fwb taste of her and not straight from the shower (although that's good too) but I like my male partner to be fresh from the shower as I think his natural smell is stronger.

I definitely prefer knowing I’m fresh down there, I can’t relax as easily otherwise.

Husband here. I always prefer "au natural" as opposed to soap and water. The smell and taste of a woman is something which cannot be described in words for a man.

I use a 'fanny flannel' for a quick freshen up before sex with my fwb.😁

I prefer to.be clean.too. the world's quickest shower for us both then let the fun begin. I agree re the confidence. my previous partner loved au natural. He said the taste of soap was not appealing. He too said the natural taste and aroma was heady.

I prefer to be clean but I’ve been told by blokes that they prefer it if say you’ve showered that morning but not immediately before the act. I always feel like I have to use a baby wipe at least!

We both have a quick was before oral. Nothing before regular sex.

Shower every morning. Sex usually in the morning before shower. Lots of oral never felt need to shower before hand.

I would always have a wash before unless I'd bathed or showered recently. A stinky knob doesn't seem to be the right thing to offer up. My dp tends to freshen up too, although to be honest it's not a big deal for me. Malodorous woman's nethers doesn't seem to be a thing

We both like to shower before sex.

I wash once a day and that's enough.
My STBX used to go to the bathroom just for a pee every time before initiating and I really really really hated it: it was like holding up a big banner saying "I'll be back for sex in 2min" and was a real passion killer.
I acknowledge that going for a pee first is a perfectly reasonable thing to do before sex - it was just the predictability that was soul destroying.

Have you wondered why you feel it necessary to wash first? Are you generally comfortable with yourself? Do you have an extensive bathroom routine?

I have a quick wash, if I can. Would feel quite awkward receiving oral without being shower fresh! I've had men ask me not to wash as they want to experience the natural scent.

Who showers after sex? I don't, but does that make me dirty?

10 minutes doesn't seem like a quick wipe. I'd get bored waiting that long! Sometimes I'll have a quick wipe, depending on what I've been doing, but I wouldn't be bothered if I hadn't. My boyfriend likes me super sweaty though, e.g. will go down on me as soon as I get back from a run but that is fresh sweat, not hours later!

I wouldn't like to come face to face with a pungent fanny

We pretty much only have in the morning so no showers 1st here!

I like giving my partner oral at any occasion I can so I'm not fussed. I find her smell and taste erotic, oral after a shower is nice but better without

If I'm wife and I are going down on each other, then yes. It's common courtesy.

I prefer to shower and brush my teeth prior to getting intimate with my partner. It’s just part of my night time ritual now. If the opportunity were to arise during the day I would be happy enough with a quick wash. I expect the same from my partner, and I have frisbee’d a face flannel at him on occasion when he has tried to skip on into bed.

Yes, always have a freshen up pre-sex. In an ideal world it wouldn’t happen as there’s nothing hotter than being taken over by pure passion and just cracking on, but I just wouldn’t feel confident. Husband does the same

How do you know you're about to have sex though?! If we were mid passionate kiss, groping etc...wouldn't it be a passion killer to say "brb just nipping to wash". If I think sex is on the cards when OH gets in from work for example, I'll have a freshen up before he gets home. But 90% of our sex is spontaneous, I can be washing up one minute and then having sex the next so it's impossible to nip off for a wash 🤣. I do prefer to be shower fresh for oral just for confidence reasons, but my OH says he much prefers au natural smell/taste as opposed to tasting like nothing or a bar of dove 🤣. I don't care if he's washed or not, he always smells divine and I think I prefer his natural odour to the scent of shower gel! X