New man on the smaller side

[PickledRat]

My new man from OLD has a smaller than average penis, probs about 4 inches. He is good with his mouth/finger and makes me orgasm. Having said that, PIV is not great, I’ve never been one to cum from penetration but I do like the feeling. Do you think it would be worth asking him to use a strap on? I’ve never done that but wouldn’t mind giving it a go, I don’t want to cause offence so I’m wondering how I should introduce the idea.

I'd never do this. Sorry. I think l it would be horrible unless you were married and really committed. You are cumming anyway.

If the wrong kind of orgasms are a dealbreaker for you, I don't think the message that you want to convey can be delivered without ending the relationship.

I think if you're going to do this you need to do it subtly. Obviously, don't tell him he's too small to give you satisfaction from PiV or simply suggest he wear an extender. Put together a selection of toys, including one extender. Get them out and ask him to choose something to use together. If he doesn't pick the extender himself you get to have the next choice lol. Bear in mind that he isn't likely to get any direct satisfaction from wearing it, if anything it'll reduce sensation for him.

I have exactly the same situation! My new man (from tinder!) is small but more than makes up for it with hands and mouth. I find that Im more like to cum if I pull my legs right up (so my feet are by his shoulders). Once I've had a few clitoral and a couple of fingering orgasms I'm quite likely to manage it through PIV.

I could just add that my ex is absolutely huge and to be honest it was often quite painful and I just couldnt keep going for long without being in agony (it also made my cervix bleed sometimes!) and he doesn't do oral, so I am really very happy with a smaller man who is incredibly generous in bed

Nope! Don't do that, like ever!

My ex husband was small, he was the only man to ever make me cum PIV!

My old FWB who's penis was as big as my forearm, he never made me cum.

I personally think smaller gets to the g spot better!

However, these days, rather just do it myself, 100% success rate, no disappointment.

One thing you could try is to suggest using- not an extender but a regular dildo: Some men are turned on by using a dildo on their partner, even if there is no physical gratification it's just mental fantasy: That way you could enjoye penetration without suggesting that he isn't enough:

Dildo or penis sheath, do not suggest a strap on, nothing could be more humiliating. He will already be conscious of it.

How about using a dildo at the same time and putting both the dildo and his penis inside you at the same time.
Tell him its something you have always been curious about and you don't need to mention that he isn't big enough to satisfy you

People acting like the guy doesn't know he's small.

Just dump him.

His penis in your ass plus a dildo … just an idea.

He knows all about how small he is and is doing everything he can. Have a dildo around, he will do stuff.

Oddly enough there's a new thread on dadsnet talking about a new partner with a fanny like a bucket!

How weird. I wonder if any insecure woman has gone there to point out the existence of this thread?

Does the smaller man have to do anything different? How small have you been with ?

Sorry but suggesting a man with a smaller penis uses a strap on is about the most offensive and humiliating thing you can possibly say to him. By all means suggest it, but only if you never want to see him again

There's nothing wrong with wanting and preferring a certain size. I'd just end it and find someone else

Thanks for the advice, I ended up calling it a day as it wasn’t for me. As to the ‘bucket’ comment, I’ve had 3 vaginal deliveries but use a kegel8 and all is good in that area. I could feel him and everything but it just wasn’t enough for my personal taste.

Obvs that was my comment but it was only ment in humour 100%, I really didn't mean any serious offence and big enough to apologise if I did. Wish you luck finding someone much more compatible in your next relationship x

Good on you, women are allowed to have preferences as well as men, and shouldn't be criticised as having a 'bucket' for simply being honest about such preferences.

4 inches is just far too small for me as well.

So what would you do if you find a man with a penis to your personal taste and then he suddenly can't get an election anymore are you going to dump him and move on.
Surely it's about the person not what they have between their legs.

And yet... If a bloke was to post something like, I can hardly feel anything when I have sex with my wife/gf. She's not as tight as I'd like...

I think the small penis comments would be remarkably unsympathetic. Nor would there be a great deal of support for a man wishing too leave his relationship for a similar reason. Yet when he's too small there's a lot of advice gross for the woman to leave. No matter how the rest of the relationship may be.

So what would you do if you find a man with a penis to your personal taste and then he suddenly can't get an election anymore are you going to dump him and move on.
Surely it's about the person not what they have between their legs.

^ I personally find sexual intimacy very important to a relationship. If it's not something resolvable I'd have to move on.

Same.

And women can use kegels, etc to tighten up if that is a problem, unfortunately men can't add a few inches to their size.

Sex does matter to me, and size does matter, I wish it didn't.

Let women decide what suits them, women are judged on their bodies all the time and men often have a preference over particular women. If it’s not working for a woman, they shouldn’t have to fake it for the rest of their lives.

And men can tell in advance if our bodies / "vital stats" meet their requirements, whilst we need to wait until it is too late to know if he has a shrimp or an eggplant down there.