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Rimming and being rimmed. What are your thoughts about it?

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Curiousmember · 19/11/2022 19:24

Also known as analingus. I've had it done to me a few times, but I've never felt much pleasure from it. When I do it to my partner, I am amazed at the reaction it elicits from him. He says the pleasure he gets from it is mind-blowing. I get really turned on when I'm doing it to him. I am curious if men usually get more pleasure from receiving? Do others prefer giving or receiving it?

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whoknew123 · 16/01/2023 18:41

Love giving and receiving x

Zanatdy · 16/01/2023 21:35

My new bf did when giving me oral last time I saw him, Jesus wept, first time I’d ever had it done and it turned me on a lot as it just felt dirty! I have a feeling new bf is going to awaken a lot of fantasies and pleasure as he’s definitely experienced let’s say, adventurous and not a selfish lover. Hope he never annoys me as I want this kind of sex in my life always! Would I do it to him, maybe! Never done it before

Rieslinger · 17/01/2023 11:35

Love it!

PassionateLady · 17/01/2023 17:26

I tried really hard to like anything anal but it's just not my cup of tea. Good for those who enjoy it though! You do you!

Zippedydoo123 · 21/01/2023 09:46

Nice way to get worms yuck.

Andypandy799 · 21/01/2023 21:12

Yeah it’s a solid no for me 🤢

Rieslinger · 23/01/2023 10:26

Love both

Iloveabaconbutty · 23/01/2023 14:06

Something I've sometimes wondered about - a long time ago girlfriend told me that her anus was the "most erotic part" of her body. How it compared to her clitoris she didn't say but those were the words she used. She loved recieving analingus almost to the point of orgasm. With other girlfriends and DW to a great extent it's much, much more "meh". Either it just didn't do much for them or actually they didn't fancy it at all.

Do some people simply have more nerve endings there than others which they link to sexual pleasure or is much more to do with how other people view the function of the anus as being for one thing and one thing only? I know we're all different but there seems to be a distinct dividing line between those who find rimming very pleasurable and those who definitely do not.

For me personally my anus is very sensitive to pleasurable touch and I can separate that from its other (its main) function but DW not so much. Why the difference?

Or am I over-analysing the whole thing?!

DocEmmitBrown · 23/01/2023 14:14

I’d give or receive but I’ve a feeling my other half wouldn’t give or receive.

Judeisnotobscure · 23/01/2023 14:30

@Iloveabaconbutty i think it’s a mental block for some people. My DP will happily insert my butt plug for me but that is as far as he goes with his fingers. The notion of rimming does not turn him on at all. Which is incredibly unfortunate as I’m pretty sure I would totally combust if he did it to me! I have offered to do it for him, but it’s a no.

Sweptwindy17 · 23/01/2023 18:21

I think you need to see in that spectrum of light. You both need to be confident and unselfconsciouss. It's more than just the sensation of having the anus licked. It's pretty vanilla, but there's a naughty element which is another part of the experience.

The lady I'm seeing at the moment shudders and shakes when it's done to her - which is an incentive for me to do it to her at any available opportunity.

stoopidon · 23/01/2023 23:37

Zippedydoo123 · 21/01/2023 09:46

Nice way to get worms yuck.

🤣 what?!

Are you outing the fact that your partner has worms?

NorthAngel · 24/01/2023 05:36

Ewwwww. No way.

That’s one way to get a multi-resistant bacteria to take up residence in your mouth!

Gross!!

🤢 🤮

NickZ6 · 31/01/2023 15:21

I started rimming my wife about a year ago - it was the first time for both of us and has since become one of my favourite things to do. I absolutely adore and worship her ass, so that’s a big factor (never adored an ex’s ass quite as much); she is also extremely clean, hairless and hygienic down there. I almost always give her vaginal oral sex when we get into a sex session and analingus sometimes just becomes part of that. Usually she gets in doggy position and I kneel down behind her, get my face right between her cheeks and start licking. In some more extreme ‘sessions’ I’ve ended up properly tongue-drilling her asshole, but this is rare. She adores it and it turns her on very much, but it’s never a stand-alone practice for us. And finally: I never ever got rimmed by someone and never ever want to. That idea is a turn off for me.

Rieslinger · 01/02/2023 09:58

Hey Nick, go on push the boat out and let her do it to you, I've been a bum no goer for years and fairly recently have tried extending my comfort zone and tbh I never realised how many positive nerve endings are around there!

Lube and try a running round your bum to begin with whilst you're having some you time and see where it goes....worse case it does nothing for you..my money is on it will 👉

Judeisnotobscure · 01/02/2023 10:01

@Rieslinger May I ask what changed your mind?

Rieslinger · 01/02/2023 10:59

I think it was part of my own self development and allowing myself not to be constrained by others/previous thoughts/opinions. It's been a huge revelation and has really increased our intimacy and closeness.

David Schnarch is a dude.

Judeisnotobscure · 01/02/2023 11:05

Thank you. Yes, I’ve been reading. I may pass it on to the love of my life! He’s been bringing ass play up in conversation but I don’t think he’s quite ready to go there yet. We’ve read about prostate orgasms and they sound out of this world. I’d love to give them to him.

Rieslinger · 01/02/2023 11:07

Well from my fairly limited recent explorations they have been pretty amazing, especially in combo.

Judeisnotobscure · 01/02/2023 11:10

That’s wonderful! I am loving this for you. Keep on, intrepid explorer!

Iloveabaconbutty · 01/02/2023 11:15

It's interesting. My anus has always been very sensitive to touch and gives me very pleasurable sensations when I'm washing down there in the shower, etc. I guess it's logical with all the nerve endings in the area.

Although when I was younger I definitely didn't want girlfriends going there (even if they wanted too) because because I'd bought into the "if you're a man and you enjoy anal pleasure it means you're gay" idea. Of course for a lot of years I've realised that lots of gay and straight people, men and women, enjoy anal stimulation - or not, as the case may be. Which is all great.

DW is definitely not into rimming me which is a bit of a shame for me as I'm totally relaxed about it now but it's not a huge deal. There are lots of other things she's very happy to do and is very good at..

When we're both very turned on I still get to give analingus to her though, which I love to do because of the sheer intimacy and sensuality of the act.

Rieslinger · 01/02/2023 11:24

Thanks!

Judeisnotobscure · 01/02/2023 11:27

@Iloveabaconbutty thats what it’s all about isn’t it, intimacy and sensuality, making your lover feel amazing. My DP was brought up in a religious home and I think PIV sex was intertwined with shame, never mind anything more colourful! He’s broken down every other barrier, so I guess I never know

Rieslinger · 01/02/2023 11:32

Sounds like he is doing a pretty amazing job so far!

Judeisnotobscure · 01/02/2023 11:36

I’ve been leading him astray for years 😁

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