@HappyHumpDay cant help seeing a lot of red flags in that post. So it's a good thing we're teaching young people so have sex outside of committed relationships - I mean yeah Im sure its good for a certain number of young men who want to have sex with as many young women as possible with zero effort or responsibility, and I guess its a good thing we're objectifying each other. Good for who? Unwanted pregnancies, the rise of std's and sti's, teaching kids sex is throwaway?
And if you think people on Tinder etc are regularly getting STD tested and showing certificates when hooking up, I think you'll be surprised! If we're going on 2022 numbers the rate of syphilis cases alone reached its highest since 1991. But we're all more responsible nowadays I guess?
As for open relationships, unless both parties got together on the assumption that they were going to have an open relationship/marriage, then its almost always a bad thing. Why? Because its almost always one person that wants to open up the marriage, and regardless of what we tell ourselves about how cool or happy my partner is for me to, lets say, explore, theres a level of coercion there where the partner feels that the choice is to break up the marriage or agree to their wife/husband having sex with other people, and the coercion relates to the - well Im unhappy and it doesnt mean I dont love you - ie if you love me and want to stay together this is the only thing that will fix the marriage, or relationship, even if its not in so many words. And I know the rebuke will be that no my partner is fine with it, he/she is happy, but fundamentally is that person going to be happy sat at home knowing the love of their life is having sex with random people someplace else? Unless they're a tiny minority of what they call cucks who for some reason get off on their partners being satisfied with random other people. Realistically no one is going to be 'happy' about that. You get the Will Smith scenario of - Im so modern and cool with my wife seeing other men - and then an absolute meltdown on national TV trying to prove a point but he probably feeling completely emasculated and the facade drops on a very clearly dysfunctional marriage. Anyone who's watched the cringey podcast they did where she's talking about her younger lover and he's sat there trying to look like he's ok with it, with tears in his eyes. And maybe there are open marriages where both partners are having sex and both are totally fine with it and theres no jealousy or insecurity, but I wonder why in those cases they even stay in a marriage, whats the point.
@Violet90 seeing as we were having trouble defining what 'casual sex' is, and its not just too bodies rubbing together, but you commented its sex without love or an emotional connection, its lust basically, but thats basically what I was saying anyway, and I dont see how having sex without any emotional connection to that person is a positive thing. Its basically masturbation, but you're masturbating with another person, another random person, or body, that you have zero connection with on an emotional level. And thats what we've reduced sex to, some random person swiping on our profile if they happen to like how we look, and have zero interest in us as a person, its just momentary gratification with someone random who you'll probably not see again, unless they've 'got at itch to scratch' and you're available and willing when its convenient for them. I find that quite demeaning and depressing. And yet we're told its liberating and isnt it great, and I feel sad that there are people who think its normal to be viewed in that way, and never experience sex in a LTR or marriage with a person who actually cares and loves you, and doesnt see you as simply a hookup contact on their phone for when they feel horny. And we're supposed to celebrate that.