Excessive "wetness" ruining my confidence

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After a long term relationship which was (amongst other problems) sexually unfulfilling, I have started to explore my sexuality casually with a couple of men. The experiences have been very positive and I have discovered how much better sex can be than what I had experienced up to now.
However, I have unfortunately also discovered that, with proper sexual stimulation, my vagina gets very, very wet, to the point that I stop feeling friction and I assume the men do too.

It's starting to make me feel self-conscious (especially when the man is younger) and I wonder if they thought I am too loose down there.
Since I didn't experience proper sexual stimulation when I was younger, I don't know if what I am experiencing is solely due to the excessive wetness, or because I am older and have had 3 vaginal childbirths.

Do you have any advice on how to address both this excessive wetness and my insecurities regarding being too loose?

From a males point of view, trust me, your partners will be loving it, especially if you tell them they’ve made you wetter than you’ve ever been.

You’ll make them feel like the king of sex! So no worries from that point of view.

Wow, thanks for that tip, I'll keep it in mind!

But that still leaves the question, what to do to continue enjoying the sex. They often switch positions so I am with my legs closed but it still leaves me feeling like I am too loose since that's the solution for loose vaginas as well, isn't it?

And the last guy said he couldn't orgasm. He blamed it on being tired but I cannot feel like it was just not stimulating enough for him.

You could try using a vaginal tightening device - like the kegel8. I've found it amazing. Wet and tight is fine for men!

No man will ever complain that your'e too wet.

Thanks for that! I have been trying to do kegels for years but I don't think I was doing them properly. I will get one!

I have the Kegal 8 as I'm worried about this too. I have only tried it a couple of times (it is a VERY strange sensation)

Wetter the better I think.

I get very wet and my partner loves to tell me that I'm 'gushing' for his cock. Maybe you could use that line, might be a turn on

Lol

The kegel8 is odd. Now I barely use mine but I can do my own kegels much more easily now.

I may try that line, thanks 😆

Keep a towel by the bed, don’t be frightened to use it and spare a thought for those who can’t have comfortable sex without lube.

Thanks StarlightLady, it may feel a bit awkward to wipe myself but I will definitely appreciate my excessive wetness a lot more now!

Good to hear it seems to work! I have ordered a cheaper one, though, it had good reviews, I hope it works as well ask the kegel8!

I also get very wet during sex, I don’t think it’s a bad thing, a quick wipe may help just before sex.

Getting wet means you are turned on - and he knows it. Honestly a little wipe will put no one off. Or you can be a bit cheeky with it and say he needs to lick you clean. It depends how confident you feel to do that!

Man here. Wet is good. Enthusiastic wet is better so embrace it and enjoy.

Thank you for your confidence boosting comments, FemSxBoard, Tiger2018 and Oldtadger. A question for the men: while knowing your partner is very wet and turned on by you may be pleasing to know, how do you feel about the lack of friction when this happens? Or have you not experienced this?

I am happy to hear that you didn't have this problem. For me, however, it is very noticeable. I lose most of the sensation in regular positions and I am pretty sure the men felt it too, because they switch to other positions (often with my legs closed) and then I feel it again.

I think the changing positions is a good thing too - no harm in spicing it up. I don't always feel like my guy is rubbing or touching the right places all the time, but as long as he focuses on your pleasure as well as his own during each session, it doesn't have to be 'the right place' the whole time does it?

What I'm trying to say is just enjoy what you experience - comparing yourself to others or focusing on the negatives in your head, will only take away from your enjoyment.

Yes, I've tried a few. Doggie is one of the worst. Me on top is OK because I move my hips in circles and it's not just in and out but the best positions are with legs closed.

I guess the conclusion is that I really need to work on my kegels, because it is likely the combination of excessive wetness and three kids that is causing the problem.

Unless anyone on here who hasn't had kids yet is experiencing something like this?

Ok, good to know that perhaps it's more in my head than I thought. It's just that, since at the moment I am having casual relationships, I don't have that trust with them to talk about it and it leaves me guessing what they are thinking.

Are the men able to orgasm when you’re having sex? It may not be the fact you’re loose inside due to birthing children, it may just be the lubrication, when you next have sex, try wiping and then have PIV.

Out of three, two had no problem reacting orgasm but in adjusted positions. The last one didn't and said he was "too tired" but I wonder if there was an emotional component for him that had nothing to do with me.

You are overthinking this way too much. Wet is great. And just ask the next one, rather than us here 😉

My partner gets v Wet especially with oral and foreplay. I love it and it also helps me last longer with PIV