Your best sex ever - with a casual or long term partner?

[Anon778833]

I was reflecting the other day on how the best sex I’ve ever had (top two ‘places’) is definitely with people where the sex was casual. Not to say I didn’t enjoy it with the LT partners but definitely two particular casual partners stand out as being the best.

Mine was 20 years ago. I was 55 at the time. We went for a second date and she came back to my place for a drink. She stayed the night and we both discovered how great sex is. Wow. It was mindblowing, bells rang.
We have now been married for 18 years and still talk about that night despite many fantastic times since.

That's lovely Paul72

I have the best sex with my husband. I think the connection between two people is the most important thing and I feel comfortable enough to let go. I've had a lot of casual sex and I can only name about 5 men that made me orgasm. Probably the best casual encounter was with this guy from Birmingham. He was a student in my city, he was 19, I was 25 and he snuck me into it his student halls. I thought it was just going to be a standard one night stand but it was amazing. We had this vibe between us that I didn't expect and the sex was just so smooth and hot. We got each other. We ended up staying in touch for a while afterwards and hit it off. We had the same sense of humour and both talked about developing feelings but it tailed off when he went home and sadly the sex was a one off as he gave me chlamydia, which put a downer on it. But still, great sex.

For my money definitely, absolutely, and totally the best with a long term partner. We know each other, care about each other, have discovered each other's likes and dislikes, and can also laugh about it all - because sex, as well as being very, very pleasant is quite funny too and shouldn't be taken too seriously.

And things like anal sex, which we do every once in a while, need so much in the way of relaxation, communication and unhurried, unpressured preparation for it to be really, really good, could never be the same on a one night stand. I couldn't imagine it to be anyway.

Sex, which for me has been exclusively with the same woman for over twenty five years has only got better. And that's not because it's all been plain sailing because it most definitely hasn't been and there have been some real ups and downs sometimes and the need for give and take at times.

But I can honestly say that it's now the best it's ever been - better even than the heady early days. Especially over the last few years when we've found we've sort of "matured" into each other, if that makes sense.

Different types of best.

But I saw one man 10 times casually and he was amazing in bed. For him I think sex was just the best way of spending time - he was an artist. Hours and hours of glorious play.

Another guy i had just a ONS with, a bit less sophisticated and oddly a terrible kisser but he was a force of nature when horizontal. Totally confident, gave me my first orgasm with a partner, very sweet and hung like a horse I'll never forget him.

Sex with DP though - man we are good together. Very tender, very passionate, can't keep our hands off each other.

My ex. No one will ever come close!

Interesting perspectives! I think it’s definitely about the chemistry with 2 specific people than anything else.

I have an ex who I had the best sex of my life with and I still fantasies about it often!

Same as this poster really, “best” sex was with a very open minded FWB, the sex was hot.

most “connected” sex was with Ex partner, a different kind of sex, less about the actual physical act, more about the connection, hard to explain in words

Without doubt it’s better with LT partner.

had a few very good ONS though, one with a former colleague who was very vocal about what she would do and what I had to do. The confidence she exhibited in ensuring her satisfaction that night was really refreshing and sexy as hell.

Ex-FWB who was an exceptional lover. He was absolutely amazing, it was mindblowing. Never had sex like that before or since.

All those older women when I was in my late teens. I'll never forget !

XH of 20 yrs was good in bed. Well hung... Early days we'd take our time, but kids put an end to that.

FWB that came after XH was so much better in every way. Average size, but so intent on my pleasure. He'd bring me to the edge, then slow down, and repeat. 6 hr sessions once a fortnight. The orgasms were intense. I squirted for the first time as a 45yr old.

DP is neither well hung, or goes for hours. He's a wonderful guy and tries really hard, but sporadic ED mixed with unfit, plus an inability to learn quickly what I like orally and with his fingers means I'm really really missing my FWB. I've been with him since August and it's only been in the last 2 months that I've not had to fake it with his tongue action.

Casual for me. 10 or so encounters with him. I was always nervous and excited before seeing him and that added sexual tension.

He had an average sized penis (or a bit bigger than actual average) but it really hit the spot. He was so confident and relaxed. I adored it.

One-offs have always been poor for me, in fact, post-divorce Bumble and Tinder sex was like a production line.
Back in the late 80's-90, I had a lot of sex whilst on rave drugs, this experience is just mind-blowing, a simple gaze, touch, a conversation, or even a feeling leads to days of a-z of sexual pleasure. Nothing is out of bounds.

Dp and I have a very strong lusty mental and chemical connection, so DP is the closest I'll get to drug-induced pleasure and compos mentis reality.

Mine was also a one off - just felt a real connection over 24hours we spent together. We were relaxed, clearly excited each other and physically just 'fitted' well. Sadly it was while travelling and really was a one-off - pre emails, mobiles etc....she never returned my letter.

Casual for me too. I met her in a bar with her mates about but we really hit it off. Went back to her place and we ended up shagging all weekend. I was 23 and she was 37.

She literally screamed the house down and must have orgasmed over 40 times over the weekend - she still occasionally contacts me to this day and wants to relive what we did those years ago..

Chemistry is a funny thing

had one short term boyfriend that really knew what He was doing in terms of me

one one night stand who I just had the most lust for

and my current FWB , well I’m enjoying myself with him

Casual for sure, sex in a LTR becomes stale and boring really quickly
casual is always new and exciting

I think casual is rubbish.👍

Definitely with my DP. Our chemistry is through the roof. We both put each other first which is a win win. He's the best man I've ever met, adores me and is a complete tiger in bed. I thought I'd had good sex before but everything just pales in comparison

I am not sure that I agree. I was married for 26 years, and sex was always dull, boring and infrequent.
We separated and divorced, and I discovered that sex is fun.
I had casual sex with a lot of ladies after I split with my wife.
I then met one lady and wow it was dynamite.
We got together, got married and 20 years later it is still dynamite.

Ex Bf for sure. The one after I split with kids dad. My god he knew what buttons to press. He brought me to orgasm about 6 times a night. We fucked every night for 2.5 years then I completely fucked it up by dumping him through my stupid belief that getting back with the kids dad was a good idea when he absolutely loved the bones off me and didn’t deserve that. I shattered him with that decision. Absolutely broke his heart. The husband thing lasted a year and was over again but in that time he had started dating again. It the biggest regret of my life. We were so sexually compatible and he really loved me and was great with my kids. I was a fucking idiot. I saw him around 3 years ago and all the feelings were still there. It was a terrible decision from me.

Casual, about 5 years ago. He was about 3 years younger than me.
It was sensational.