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Hair down there…

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Whatadayyyy · 07/07/2022 19:23

I have come out a long term relationship in the last year and now have a new partner. We will be having sex for the first time and I am not sure what to do about the bikini line situation? What is the done thing for hair down there these days? It’s been a while

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LetMeInYourWindow · 07/07/2022 19:24

Have it how you want it.

Shunter350 · 07/07/2022 19:54

What you want. It's your body, Be yourself.

notlongtoo · 07/07/2022 22:04

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Lilac63 · 07/07/2022 23:29

I used to shave it all off, I trim now, DH doesn’t mind either way! However you feel comfortable matters the most!

Namechanged1010 · 08/07/2022 06:41

@Whatadayyyy

I think that if you have it fully waxed or shaved you certainly won't have an unhappy partner. Occasionally some men prefer a full bush but from the odd girlie night out (wine fuelled) the consensus is most men prefer bare....and most of us admitted to being that most of the time and having got used to it, prefer.

I used to shave but moved to full wax as I used to have my bikini line done and my beautician got exasperated me then shaving higher and suggested she just wax what I needed ..which I admitted was all off 😂.

tanstaafl · 08/07/2022 06:53

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Don’t do this unless he’s open to making changes to his body because you prefer it some way.

LancashireLad · 08/07/2022 07:12

One man's perspective here, accepting that different men will have different views. I've experienced and enjoyed all three - the natural look, the groomed and the smooth, on different women as well as on the same woman.

Each is great in its own way. On balance I personally love a woman's pubic hair. For one thing it somehow holds her natural "perfume" which is a massive turn on for me when I'm giving her intimate kisses down there.

But the biggest turn on of all is a woman who knows what she wants herself, full pubes, groomed or smooth, and is relaxed and confident to go with that.

FeFe66 · 08/07/2022 13:24

Whatever goes for you. As a personal note, I think a bush is too much when it escapes from the side of my knickers!

I do occasionally trim to bald or landing strip for my current partner who likes it trimmed, because it's nice to treat them every once in a while.

Shunter350 · 08/07/2022 14:27

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Bloke here ( for reference ).. if a guy isn't turned on by his partners vagina, whatever decoration it has, then something is seriously amiss.

MisterT373 · 08/07/2022 17:00

I would just be so excited I wouldn't care even if it looked like this

Hair down there…
alwaysontheloo · 09/07/2022 07:41

Don’t do this unless he’s open to making changes to his body because you prefer it some way.

This OP. It's your body so whatever YOU feel confident and happy with, you're not a surrendered wife and don't need to follow the latest porn trend if you don't want.

gemsgv · 09/07/2022 13:02

well to answer your question of what is the done thing these days then my answer to that is that it's not often you come across a woman with any hair. Not in dating circles anyway

Namechanged1010 · 09/07/2022 17:49

gemsgv · 09/07/2022 13:02

well to answer your question of what is the done thing these days then my answer to that is that it's not often you come across a woman with any hair. Not in dating circles anyway

As per my previous, I'm afraid this is the reality despite the "right on" Mumsnet answers, the reality is (right or wrong), most men that are dating expect a woman to be bare below, and so do the majority of married and living together men. The ones that don't, have for some reason got to the "can't be arsed stage"!

MaudGone · 09/07/2022 18:34

I find a quick trim once a week is enough. No faff or expense, quick & cheap. But it's up to you.

MaudGone · 09/07/2022 19:01

And don't be scared to ask your feller to trim downstairs!

Coldfeet14 · 09/07/2022 23:25

gemsgv · 09/07/2022 13:02

well to answer your question of what is the done thing these days then my answer to that is that it's not often you come across a woman with any hair. Not in dating circles anyway

@gemsgv can i ask out of pure curiosity the rough age group of women this relates to? Im assuming you're male. Im early 30s and assumed it would be around 50 50 bare to neatly trimmed - just going off friends.

Estherpologist · 10/07/2022 06:40

Whatever you choose, make it a personal choice, not a political choice.
No matter the state of your pubes, what is far more likely to kill the moment is a rant about body image and gender politics.

gemsgv · 10/07/2022 11:00

Coldfeet14 · 09/07/2022 23:25

@gemsgv can i ask out of pure curiosity the rough age group of women this relates to? Im assuming you're male. Im early 30s and assumed it would be around 50 50 bare to neatly trimmed - just going off friends.

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I'd say roughly mid 30's to early 50s on occasion. The last 2 women I saw with a full bush both hadn't been active for a couple of years and both proceeded to shave it all off very soon after completely off their own back. It was never mentioned

40somethinginashford · 10/07/2022 11:19

We’re a mid 40s married couple and we’ve both always been natural. Besides the pre holiday bikini line my wife has never shaved or trimmed.

But recently we’ve been doing more oral (it wasn’t a big thing for us) and completely independently we both shaved. I think it’s likely we’ll continue tho my wife has no intention of going fully bare. And I’ve even bought an electric shaver just to do mine!

balalake · 10/07/2022 11:36

It is a personal choice. If your new partner objects to whatever you choose, then to be honest he or she is not for you.

lauraUK1000 · 11/07/2022 18:11

Do what feels good and comfortable to you, there is no right or wrong today. And if you want to change it you always can. Personally, for me, I prefer to have no hair down there and me fully smooth and started to shave mine pretty much as soon as it grew in.

Hubby decided to remove his hair down there some years ago and also like to keep it this way now.

40somethinginashford · 11/07/2022 18:21

Out of interest does he go completely bare? And if so what does he do?

I’ve just started shaving and have so far left it short but v neat!

lauraUK1000 · 11/07/2022 19:37

Yes, completely bare. He started trimming / shaving initially but once he had removed it all he found he really preferred it, other than the upkeep. he has been getting it waxed for at least 5 years now and it stays smooth for months now between waxes.

FemSxBoard · 11/07/2022 19:41

My DH shaves too, much better when giving him a blowie! Shaved cocks always look bigger too 🤪

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