I bought some sex toys

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... And now they've turned up, the thought of using them on my own makes me really sad.

I realise now, having them in my hand, that it's just another crutch to support our sexless marriage.

I'm not a crying type of person but I really could have a bit of a blub right now.

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I've almost done the same thing, I'm also in a sexless marriage. Initially it was my libido that disappeared but now we are like housemates. It's really sad and it would feel weird trying to initiate something now. Enjoy your toys OP, not as a substitute but as something special that is just for you.

I was in a sexless marriage. It's a lonely place to be.

Ah OP, don’t feel sad! Separate the two issues… the marriage may need sorting, but your needs are worthy of attention regardless!

Thanks for your replies.

@Friedaseyebrow - that's what it feels like here. It's been so long that anything other than a peck on the cheek feels awkward.

In other news... I've been working from home today and everyone else is out so I decided to give the toys a try. I got in a bit of a mess with the lube but once things got going I had a marvelous time. I've not had such an intense orgasm for years - a proper convulsive number! Soooo much nore satisfying than hand relief!

It's was good (very good) but a bit sad because that's how it used to be when we had sex. Being pushed away for years with endless excuses and avoidance has lead to this. At 38 I'm not yet ready to crush my sex drive though.

Also - the sex toy smell. It's a kind of silicone niff that I can't get off my hands. Will I get that every time I use them or is it just bcause they're new?

Yes. It is.

Hi I'm 38 in a sexless relationship since beginning of last year! It's awful and so lonely,he says not my fault he will be back but nothing he is dead inside!! 15 years together I'm trying to be supportive but it's hard,I sorry you are going through similar 😔

Can you get sex toys to use together?

OP, toys are not intended to replace sexual relationships/friendships, more to supplement them and they can give you a very nice time. In the meantime, enjoy them for what they are.

Obviously, your relationship issues are separate, but in the meantime enjoy them for what they are. I have regular sex, but my toys still have a significant place. The latter is exclusively all about me.

As for the smell, that should disappear, but you can help this with baby wipes or a clean cloth and soapy water; nothing stronger.

For all of you on this thread in sexless marriages, have some long distance virtual hugs.. Been there (for 10 years!), done that, got the T-shirt...

I'm now out the other side, and enjoying being single.

As for toys, I'll echo what @StarlightLady has said. Explore, experiment and enjoy!