Am I orgasming?

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I’m going to get straight to the point.

been married for 6 years and have a 3y, sex has been great but I don’t know if I’m orgasming or not. I’ve read up about this online a few times and get conflicting answers.

i get so aroused from nipple stimulation and get this overwhelming sensation pretty much all over my body which feels like amazing electrical currents flowing through me, sometimes it’s so intense I can’t control myself. I then have an urge for him to enter me like my vagina is saying I AM READY like a heartbeat down there lol, it doesn’t last long and all this can happen through just loads of kissing and nipple stimulation (not even intercourse yet) when we actually do have sex it just feels great but I don’t get that electrifying feeling from penetration.

is this an organism or just heightened arousal?
I don’t get it when my girlfriends say they need to finish? Finish what, am I getting what they get at the end at the beginning?

Any insight would be great

It doesn't sound like a traditional orgasm to me. In my experience there is a very distinctive 'peak' and then it all falls away.

Have you ever given yourself an orgasm? They're pretty unmistakeable when you have one!

Buy yourself a vibrator (not a dildo) and have a go yourself so you know what to expect.
Manual takes a lot of practice.

Women*

I think if you need to ask the question then you’re probably not orgasming

Cis women??!

I'd never heard of a breast orgasm until it was posted on this board a couple of weeks ago.

Poster said his wife climaxed that way. I think the responses showed it isn't common.

So yeah, possibly?!

I'm going to say no if you aren't sure

But you talk about nipples and then penetrative sex, but no mention of clitoris which would be the obvious place to start

Orgasms culminate in uncontrollable contractions of the vagina. (sorry that sounds so unsexy / gross) If this isn't happening it's not. Agree with others you need to try a toy.

I really hate the cis thing.

Women

OP, are you satisfied, does it feel nice? I wouldn't over think it if you're happy.

I'm wondering are lesbians cis?

women are women, trans women are trans women.

If you have to question if you are orgasming, then you aren't orgasming.
Trust me, you know. Its unmistakable.

No need for cis.

Women can orgasm more than once. So you could be orgasming in the beginning, but need further stimulation during penetration to orgasm again.

There, fixed it for you.

The use of the term 'cis' on mumsnet is strongly moderated so it might be better for the OP if we reported rather than hijack this discussion.
www.mumsnet.com/i/trans-rights-moderation-policy

Has your husband never asked if you've orgasmed?

"Cis"

so I'm not so sure on the 'unmistakable thing'. sure there are sometimes great big unmistakable orgasms. but there can also be little ones that are pretty darn good, so enjoy those too. don't worry about classifying your feelings and trying to decide if this is the 'right kind of orgasm'. Just enjoy whatever is enjoyable.

I would say that if you have to ask then you definitely aren't. It sounds like you're nearly there, but not finishing. Lots of women don't orgasm from just penetration though. You probably need clitoral stimulation as well. Practice on your own with a vibrator and when it happens, you'll know!

This sounds like intense arousal rather than orgasm.

What happens if you go on having the same stimulation while being penetrated?

(Doesn't work for me tbh - I like penetration but don't enjoy direct clitoral stimulation at the same time).

There are different types of orgasm. I would suggest you're not having the type your friends describe and what I would say is the most pleasurable, which culminates in contractions inside your vagina that are unmistakable and gradually taper off. The need to finish is the feeling you can't take any more build up and need the peak.

Thanks for your answers guys. No I’m straight haven’t tried toys as DH probably wouldn’t be down for it but might suggest it and see. Yes it does feel nice, I just don’t get why it all happens early on whereas most people get it later on?
@Mushroomlady you mentioned about reaching a peak, do you mean like when it’s do good your almost seeing the fairies? If so then yes I do reach that peak. Never been a fan of masterbating either it’s never the same as someone else’s touch (for me anyway)
I do also feel like a want to pee during intercourse nothing comes out though.

I don’t know…