Am I orgasming?

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I’m going to get straight to the point.

been married for 6 years and have a 3y, sex has been great but I don’t know if I’m orgasming or not. I’ve read up about this online a few times and get conflicting answers.

i get so aroused from nipple stimulation and get this overwhelming sensation pretty much all over my body which feels like amazing electrical currents flowing through me, sometimes it’s so intense I can’t control myself. I then have an urge for him to enter me like my vagina is saying I AM READY like a heartbeat down there lol, it doesn’t last long and all this can happen through just loads of kissing and nipple stimulation (not even intercourse yet) when we actually do have sex it just feels great but I don’t get that electrifying feeling from penetration.

is this an organism or just heightened arousal?
I don’t get it when my girlfriends say they need to finish? Finish what, am I getting what they get at the end at the beginning?

Any insight would be great

OP sounds like you need a bit of alone time with a toy ,get to know yourself a bit more.

It isn't DH business what you do. The needing to pee feeling might be gspot/gushing (not sure if the correct term) which is a different kind.
There's no real way to find out if you are set against masturbation.

Thank you all, I agree with @parietal there are big and small orgasm’s and as long as it’s amazing to me then there’s no point overthinking it. Might just be the way my body responds
happy hump day all xx

Hard to tell from your description but I think I have the same from breast/nipple play - body feels electified, like a pulsing hearbeat below, but it's definitely not an orgasm, it's nowhere near as powerful.

What hapens when you masturbate? Do you reach what feels like orgasm that way?

Honestly it sounds like arousal not orgasm.
Does your DH ever do oral or finger you?

I think this is a case of you need to be able to "love" yourself before someone else can "love" you.

What you're describing to me just sounds like intense heightened arousal.

It sounds like your husband is a pro at foreplay, but you're not actually orgasming from sex.

Many women can't orgasm from penetration alone and need clitoral stimulation.

Also sometimes masturbating takes practice and it's underwhelming at first.

But you can't communicate what you like if you've not explored what you actually like.

Does your husband ever go down on you?

In my humble opinion you know when you are orgasming as you will start maoning in an uncontrolable fashion. As other have said I think that you have been a hightened state of arousal but not quite at the top of the ladder so to speak. It may help if not already done that your husband gives you clitoral stimulation.

If you orgasm, you'll know. So I would think you're not. I've had intense explosive orgasms and milder ones but they all follow the same unmistakable rise to climax before pelvic spasms.

AFAB women are able to orgasm multiple times, you might be orgasming at the beginning and need more stimulation to orgasm at the end too

Oh fuck off would you. Nobody is "assigned" anything at birth, it's observed that your sex is male or female

Nobody is assigned anything at birth. Stop with the nonsense.

'Nonsense' is right, enough!

I would have thought it most unlikely that you are climaxing. I note what you say about masterbating but until you fully discover your own body and how it works, you can't really expect someone else to.

AFAB

Really. But who is doing the 'assigning'. What is it based on. Is it based on biological fact that some humans are female while in the womb and when they come out of the birth canal.
Nothing changes in that moment. Or any other moment.

Saying you have electrical currents all over your body and then a heartbeat in your vagina (it contracting i guess) sounds exactly like an orgasm to me - it's just quite unusual to orgasm from nipple stimulation alone, most women need a bit more than that!

Vaginal pulsations are not an orgasm. You get them in the build up to orgasm.
Orgasms are unmistakable. If she's not feeling some kind of climax to the sensations then she isn't getting there.

I would challenge the idea that ‘you can't communicate what you like if you've not explored what you actually like.’

you can communicate with your husband about what your sensations feel like and what his actions make you feel, what you’d like to try, what you enjoy. Explore together not alone I reckon.

An orgasm normally involves involuntary rhythmic muscular contractions in the pelvic region together with very intense pleasure centered around the pelvic area. If you were to have a finger in your vagina at the time of orgasm then you'd likely feel your finger being lightly squeezed.

People do differ in how they experience an orgasm but this is what happens in the majority of people.

If you don't mind seeing other women orgasming then you can see what I'm describing here :- www.reddit.com/r/orgasmiccontractions/ (NSFW)

when you cum it’s like squeezing in your pelvic floor and you can’t stop it .

The nipples are connected to the same nerve endings as the clit so maybe that's why you reach the near orgasm point.
Instead of getting him to go inside you when you reach that point, get him to keep doing what he his doing to you then you will likely explode😁. Some women don't/can't orgasm from penetrative sex so you could be one of them?