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Sexual issue with DH—blowjobs

41 replies

Astralmommy · 31/05/2022 13:32

Hello all, first post here. My husband and I have done a lot of communicating about our sex life lately, and we identified some issues to work on. Coming here for advice.

Just a bit of context—he is an awesome partner and always interested in meeting my needs, both in and out of the bedroom.

One issue right now is oral sex. I give him a full bj (like where he finishes in my mouth—that’s his favorite) maybe once every month or two. Sometimes less. I guess I thought this was a good rhythm, but he’s expressed the desire for more regular blowjobs—when I asked what his ideal was, he laughed and said “every day!”. I’m usually not opposed to them, but maybe I’ve been in a rut lately. I really do want to please him fully and meet his needs, as he does for me. Any tips on finding more enthusiasm for it and making it a more regular thing?

OP posts:
MrMrsJones · 31/05/2022 13:36

What are you his sex doll?

What does he do for you on a daily basis?

Afterfire · 31/05/2022 13:39

And do you want to do this? Every day??!! Christ no.

FloweryCurtainTwitcher · 31/05/2022 13:45

Get him off the porn and into the real world.

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Astralmommy · 31/05/2022 13:46

Lol, I think he was mostly joking, and the point is trying to compromise a little more, you know. What we’re doing right now isn’t working for him.

And he does whatever I want, when I want it. He’s a keeper. That’s why I take his desires seriously.

OP posts:
Cloud16 · 31/05/2022 13:46

It depends if you enjoy them or not. It sounds like you don't. I think the discomfort of one partner should trump the pleasure of the other.

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Astralmommy · 31/05/2022 13:49

Hmm, not sure I’d say I dislike them. It’s just not been on my radar as much. I’d like to like it more if that makes sense.

OP posts:
Rot · 31/05/2022 13:54

My motto has always been : never ever suck anyone's cock when you really don't want to.

if you have to talk yourself into it, it's the opposite of good sex

lassof · 31/05/2022 13:57

just operate on a quid pro quo basis. Every time he goes down on you = one bj at some point soon for him.
If you don't like oral sex, then no bj for him.
Easy

AssignedSlytherinAtBirth · 31/05/2022 13:58

This is a very odd post. He wants it more often, you think his comment "every day" was a joke/wishful thinking, you want it to more often than every couple of months. You two have good communication. So what's the problem?

YellowTools · 31/05/2022 14:00

AssignedSlytherinAtBirth · 31/05/2022 13:58

This is a very odd post. He wants it more often, you think his comment "every day" was a joke/wishful thinking, you want it to more often than every couple of months. You two have good communication. So what's the problem?

There isn’t one OP is a sex troll.

WalkerWalking · 31/05/2022 14:02

I'm not surprised this isn't something you want to do every day. Blow jobs are super boring, and often kinda gross.... 🤷‍♀️

I would suggest giving him FEWER, and then he can really appreciate each one fully.

Overthewine · 31/05/2022 14:04

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Thornrose · 31/05/2022 14:06

Why people fall for such obvious crap amazes me...

Natty13 · 31/05/2022 14:09

Agree you should never, ever do something sexually you are not 100% willing for.

If you are definitely keen to do them more, how about a compromise of a BJ either not to completion or not to completion in your mouth?

Chocaholic9 · 31/05/2022 14:11

Is this thread for real?

Chocaholic9 · 31/05/2022 14:12

How do you learn to like daily blow jobs? This is a wind up.

tillylula · 31/05/2022 14:12

Maybe use it as foreplay more often? He doesn't need to finish that way EVERY time. But he can still enjoy it for a few minutes?

ChazzaGirl · 31/05/2022 14:13

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lassof · 31/05/2022 14:14

WalkerWalking · 31/05/2022 14:02

I'm not surprised this isn't something you want to do every day. Blow jobs are super boring, and often kinda gross.... 🤷‍♀️

I would suggest giving him FEWER, and then he can really appreciate each one fully.

This is excellent advice

DontBlameMe79 · 31/05/2022 14:14

Made up trigger thread alert.

BellePeppa · 31/05/2022 14:17

Makes me glad to be now living a celibate, single life. BJs were the bane of my life with my ex as he too liked them (a lot). It’s his new wife’s problem/treat now.

hotstove · 31/05/2022 14:18

That’s why I take his desires seriously.

🤔

Redruby2020 · 31/05/2022 14:19

hotstove · 31/05/2022 14:18

That’s why I take his desires seriously.

🤔

🤣

cramitin · 31/05/2022 14:19

Lol

Oblomov22 · 31/05/2022 14:19

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