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"Tasting" me.

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Ladyof2022 · 24/04/2022 00:16

NC for this as embarrassing.

Been chatting online with a potential FWB. We swapped what kind of things we like in bed.

Then he said, "I look forward to tasting you."

For some reason, this made my stomach churn. It's really put me off meeting him. Now I can't stop thinking about that phrase "tasting you" and trying to work out why it makes me cringe.

I don't like the idea of my minge being regarded as a glass of wine, to be sipped, savoured and judged. It makes me shudder to think of him focussing so much on what I taste like, rather than on giving me pleasure.

Is it just me that finds this phrase "icky"? I really want to know if I am being prudish, or do many/most/all women cringe at this?

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Howabsolutelyfanfuckingtastic · 24/04/2022 00:57

I think it's something people say, maybe you're putting more emphasis on it than is necessary. If you don't like it maybe tell him that it made you feel uncomfortable when he said it, if it's giving you the ick you need to tell him.

Furrbabymama87 · 24/04/2022 09:29

Men can get aroused by the taste and smell of a woman. When I was dating I only really got the ick if someone said something sexual and for whatever reason I wasn't into them.

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Ladyof2022 · 24/04/2022 12:33

Thanks for the replies. I hope I get some more. Surely I am not the only woman who feels like this? Maybe I really am a prude!?!

I had another thought about it today: I can't imagine any woman saying this to a man: I look forward to "tasting" your penis!

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Namechangednorth · 24/04/2022 12:36

I do think it is OTT with someone you haven't slept with. But some men do like the taste. My DH frequently says that, either from tasting his finger if he has slipped it inside me, or during oral sex

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Ladyof2022 · 24/04/2022 12:55

Thinking about it a bit more, I reckon it's the thought that I am being consciously, deliberately "tasted" that makes me cringe. Too much focus on whether I taste good or not. It's made me feel so self conscious, knowing that THAT is what he is focussing on, making a judgment about.

Cringe.

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lollipoprainbow · 24/04/2022 13:38

This would give me the ick I'm afraid !!

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Ladyof2022 · 24/04/2022 13:39

I feel a bit relieved to find one other woman who feels the same as me.

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Jumpking · 24/04/2022 14:55

What would you prefer he said?

I'm looking forward to licking you out
I'm looking forward to going down on you
I'm looking forward to making you cum with my tongue

When I chatted with potential FWB online, this phrase didn't bother me. For some men, they see it as a politer, more intimate alternative to any of those above.

And I also get the taste thing. I like licking fingers or immediate kissing after my guy's been down on me. The taste varies slightly depending on the time of the month - I like the experience of the different flavours.

StarlightLady · 24/04/2022 17:55

I don't consider myself to be a prude, far from it. But there would no way that I would be wanting to have this conversation with someone I had not even met. This would be a deal breaker for me and I would not pursue things any further.

MarianaMassimo · 24/04/2022 18:42

I don't see anything wrong with it. Maybe if it was someone I was looking to date/have a relationship with, I might feel a bit ick and that the tone was a bit off with that phase if the conversation was not going that way.... but it's someone you are talking to about meeting to have sex!! You were having a conversation about sex and what you both like. Taste is one of your 5 senses. Senses are very important in sex. (Well to me they are!)

Furrbabymama87 · 24/04/2022 18:47

StarlightLady · 24/04/2022 17:55

I don't consider myself to be a prude, far from it. But there would no way that I would be wanting to have this conversation with someone I had not even met. This would be a deal breaker for me and I would not pursue things any further.

They're already talking sexual and it's going to be a friends with benefits set up so I think its fair play.

MarianaMassimo · 24/04/2022 18:58

But at the end of the day- you don't like the word/phrase so just tell him and ask him not to say it. Some people don't like the word 'moist'... each to their own! 😆

SparklingStars10 · 24/04/2022 21:10

I’m with @Ladyof2022 and @StarlightLady I’m no prude but this would put me off, especially if we hadn’t slept together. It sounds like he’s very focused on taste, rather than making you orgasm.

AuntTwacky · 25/04/2022 01:14

I think it's nice

StarlightLady · 25/04/2022 12:53

@Furrbabymama87 - I appreciate that there is the intention to be sexual, but until you meet someone you can never be sure.

AltitudeCheck · 26/04/2022 09:12

In the context of a sexual conversation this wouldn't put me off at all. It's something my fwb/lover says to me and I find it sexy!

dumdumduuuummmmm · 26/04/2022 22:25

StarlightLady · 24/04/2022 17:55

I don't consider myself to be a prude, far from it. But there would no way that I would be wanting to have this conversation with someone I had not even met. This would be a deal breaker for me and I would not pursue things any further.

But the OP is looking for a FWB so it's likely the chat will be focussed on sex no?

dumdumduuuummmmm · 26/04/2022 22:28

I don't think it's weird at all. Me. Who enjoy giving oral generally like the taste. Saying what he said is really saying 'I love giving oral'. From my experience this is said to make a woman know he enjoys it and is not doing it as a task or because he feels he has to. This in the. Is usually because some women are nervous and embarrassed at first. Many women sadly feel it is a bit yucky down there so saying he looks forward to tasting you is too make you relaxed and able to lie back and enjoy it. Nothing to do with not wanting to give you pleasure. The complete opposite

PinotPony · 27/04/2022 07:37

It wouldn't bother me. In the context about potentially having sex, I'd be delighted to find a guy who enjoyed giving oral. I think it's just his way of telling you that he likes doing that, albeit his wording is a bit clumsy.

Don't be embarrassed. Just tell him you don't like that phrase. I assume he shouldn't mention "eating you out" either...

JustSaying71 · 27/04/2022 12:37

Yes, context has to be key. The phrase could be Alan Partridge or it could be erotic. Taste and smell are pretty fundamental to sex, aren't they - part of the chemistry, part of the magic? And relationship wise, it sounds like you're nearer to the animalistic end than the romance one in this instance. So, I'd just go with it.

SexEdInMy50s · 28/04/2022 17:59

well, aren’t we all funny? Constantly surprises me how different we all are…

Personally I would love to be told that he was looking forward to “tasting” me - in the right context obvs

I would also be happy about these
“Looking forward to licking you out
I'm looking forward to going down on you
I'm looking forward to making you cum with my tongue”

But my ‘ick’ factor kicks in at “eating you out” - which I just find very vulgar and a real turn-off.

Thing is be happy he enjoys the act itself, and be grateful that you are both comfortable enough to be able to talk about it ahead of time and just educate him on the terminology that you prefer

SexEdInMy50s · 28/04/2022 18:06

Too much focus on whether I taste good or not. It's made me feel so self conscious, knowing that THAT is what he is focussing on, making a judgment about

also, I think you’re overthinking this
I really don’t think he would focus on your actual taste… (like you say, a wine 🤣) - if he had said “I’m looking forward to stroking your breasts/legs, etc” would you be worrying about how soft/dry/hairy your skin is?

alm92 · 28/04/2022 19:49

I have to say, I'd quite like this. Having a man who enjoys going down there, and enjoys your taste is a good thing! Men love 'tasting' us, I mean it's an area that is going in their mouth so of course they taste it. I wouldn't let it make you feel conscious, as long as you know you're hygienic..we all have a vaginal scent and taste. I think it's a huge turn on to be told you taste good. Personal preference though.

StrangeCondition · 28/04/2022 20:36

I love hearing this but I draw the line at eating/licking you out, it just sounds awful

Norush4 · 29/04/2022 01:50

You've over thought it. He stated what he liked.. its essentially a compliment to you as he was obviously looking forward to it. Its a common phrase and we all call things slightly different things.. but mean the same thing.

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