Sex toys don't work on me?

[littleemz]

What the hell
Is wrong with me?!? Seriously! I have been experiencing a very low libido for a while which I suspect is down to my implant. My husband being the red blooded male that he is obviously gets a little down when he's all ready for action but I'm not in the mood ( which is often) so we decided to try some toys to spice things up, however I'm
Not really enjoying them! I don't know why but I can't seeem to get to that amazing place that everyone else talks about whilst using them. Again I don't know if it's implant related or whether im just plain weird. I really want to enjoy sex again but I find it such a chore. Give me your tips

For information I have a satisfyor
A rabbit one, and some other type- all of which get amazing reviews 😢

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The implant completely took away my libido. I went from a super high sex drive to not even being the slightest bit interested at all. It was not a good time.
So... if it is the implant causing it for you... all the sex toys in the world are probably not going to make much difference... 😕

@MarianaMassimo thank you so much for your reply. I really strongly believe it's the implant causing my issues but I'm
Just so torn as to what to do, I mean I definitely don't want another baby either. So difficult being a woman lol

Have you ever been able to orgasm with a toy? I'm very set in my ways when it comes to what gets me off. Some vibrators do nothing for me, some give me a standard orgasm and some give me amazing satisfying orgasms. I think the main thing is your mindset and being turned on. Spend time experimenting with what feels good and don't see it as a race to orgasm.

@MrsGHarrison87 thanks for your reply. I definitely think mindset is important too, I maybe need to try to get into the zone more . What toy can you recommend if any?

@MrsGHarrison87 also no, I have never orgasmed with or without a toy 🙈

I like the rabbits but there's so many different styles and sizes. Mine is one that Ann Summers sold a few years ago and I managed to find a replacement one on Ebay. ( unopened lol). They're not all good though and some are crappy quality. It's hard to know what ones to try and doesn't help that they're all expensive. I've not tried the satisfyer yet but I've ordered one. There are guided orgasm meditations on YouTube that may be worth having a listen to. You'll get there if you keep trying and just relax.

Are we allowed to know how old you are?
Never having had an orgasm seems significant. Did you ever feel in the mood before you had the implant, or was sex just something you did for you DH and to have kids?

FWIW I don't think I get as much from vibrators as you're supposed to, so I have no tips on that.

Ìf your DH is finding it tough, I would recommend you both talk to a sex therapist before it damages your relationship. It's not your DH's fault he is red blooded and it's OK that he is. If you have no libido, that's not your fault either. So if there's an important part of your relationship that's missing for him, and if you want the relationship to continue, you both need to understand any changes together. ❤

OP, a couple of points here. I suspect you are going overly large and complex. Try sizing down and take a look at a little Durex Bullet, small and very manoeuvrable. I have mentioned its virtues elsewhere on MN and you can pick one up for around £10 in larger supermarkets and Boots. One helps me wake up most mornings.

On the wider issue about never experiencing an orgasm, l don’t wish to sound condescending here, far from it, but are you certain you can pinpoint your clitoris and understand how it responds to you; it is your best friend.

How do you respond to oral?

Speaking of friends, l’ve helped women to first time orgasm before, it is not a lost cause.

My DW had been bearing the brunt of the contraception for decades so when we had decided no more children I had the snip, pretty straightforward, bit of discomfort for a few days then normal service resumed....worth an ask of your DH?

You need to get your imagination running wild first, as previous pp have said not all sex toys are the same. Most vibrators do f**k all for me but I love my Gspot massagers and bullets 😁