How to broach this with husband sex toy related

[Gravychicken]

We use some sex toys and agreed to get one or two more in the Black Friday sale only I went over board late at night and brought quite a few more. The package has turned up and I’m a little nervous to show what I got. We have under bed restraints blind folds dildo vibrators etc but I’ve gone an brought a collar whip some rope. we’ve been together two years so happily try new things. He knows my previous sexual relationships before him I was very submissive and into bdsm. How do I do Bring it up with him he’s very excited to see the new toy so will probably want to watch me open the box and I’m nervous.

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If you already have some track record, it sounds like a subtle development on what you already have? You already have blindfolds, restraints etc.

I'd explain how you got carried away and share the box. Should be a lovely surprise.

My OH won't allow us to use sex toys.

If he knows you were previously into bdsm why are you nervous?

Has he ever shown an interest?

Thanks @DevonshireCat why won’t he let you

@Gravychicken - go you! I agree with @DevonshireCat - he won't be upset...

I bought my FWB a satisfyer pro for xmas... Very looking forward to trying that with her...

As to "why won't he", a lot of men see sex toys as an affront to their manhood. A rival, if you will. They seem to think that if a woman needs a toy, then they mustn't be any good in bed (which can sometimes be the case!) Their masculinity is somehow threatened. “I should be enough for her – why does she need a toy” – that sort of thinking. Not exactly 21st century thinking, but what can you do…

I think you should just tie him to the bed and get on with it. I suspect he will love it. I would. Perhaps Im just projecting.

Have a great evening.

@thumpingrug it's the other way around....the OP wants to be tied up, I believe.
@Gravychicken I guess that becomes just how it is when we don't talk about what we want or enjoy.

If you're a bit nervous, how about not showing him everything in the box at once? Let him see just one more thing each time you have sex.

@DevonshireCat

If you already have some track record, it sounds like a subtle development on what you already have? You already have blindfolds, restraints etc.

I'd explain how you got carried away and share the box. Should be a lovely surprise.

My OH won't allow us to use sex toys.

Jeepers. Make your own arrangements. Buy some, use them on yourself. You're a long time dead.

@Gravychicken did you manage to discreetly show off what you bought and get the desired result?

Yes I did thanks although I ordered a dildo and we agreed on a seven inch one as same size as him. I clearly didn’t check the measurements as what turned up was so wide we both burst out laughing 😂

That's funny! Do you now require recommendations for lube?!

Yes please if you have any suggestions