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To remove hair 'down there' or not?

42 replies

magda8 · 12/07/2021 20:15

Please excuse me if I don't explain very well, I try.. but English is not my native language.
Things are going well with my new bf and I feel we may get intimate soon.
How can I know if he likes me to remove hair 'down there' or not? I am scared to be in embarrassing situation. If I remove and he doesn't like, or I don't remove and he doesn't like. I don't want to shock him or to kill passion.
It's not a question I feel able to ask him in advance. I get too shy.
Before him I was in a marriage where I did remove all 'down there' hair, my ex husband was from culture where is was normal and 'expected' for men and women. I didn't have any relationship before him.
My bf now is a white British man.

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Heyyeahyouwiththesadface · 12/07/2021 20:17

I think you should have down there how you like it & not a way a man wants it to be.

Sparkybloke · 12/07/2021 22:16

Agree..as you like it....although my male preference would be for a bushSmile

B1rdflyinghigh · 12/07/2021 22:46

Every man is different in what he likes. Id just ask if the sex topic comes up. But go with what you're comfortable with.

PinotPony · 12/07/2021 22:52

By the time he sees "down there", I doubt his passion will be killed by the sight of some pubic hair or lack of...

Go with what makes you feel comfortable. If you are relaxed about your appearance, then you'll be confident. And that's what men find sexy!

SirenSays · 12/07/2021 22:55

Start a conversation about his turn ons and just ask him. Ultimately do whatever feels best for you 💕

isitsummertimeyet · 12/07/2021 23:43

Love a hairy natural Bush myself but id it complain if the lady wants her bits shaven. Either is good for me. Do what you want to be like not someone else.

Namechanged1010 · 13/07/2021 03:52

Well if unsure you could trim it closely. However, pre COVID when we could go out on girlie nights, one of the straw polls once we were officially tipsy was how out other half's liked us down under and it was virtually all as bare. I'm married but if I was in your position I don't think any male would object if you were bare whereas some might be put off if fairly hairy

But do what you are comfy with

StarlightLady · 13/07/2021 07:21

OP, it’s a personal choice depending on what you want and what you think feels and looks nicest.

Personally, I’ve been more or less hair free since my mid to late teens (early 40s now) and that has been my choice. I’ve even been asked to grow it out on more than one occasion.

I think it feels nicer and certainly less sweaty in the warmer weather. But start as you mean to go on.

If the relationship settles to something longer term, you should then be able to discuss with him, should you want to.

Lycosidae · 13/07/2021 11:08

Man here. My preference is bush, but like others have said it’s what you want that matters and neither option will put him off when you get to it

Strawberriesandcream3 · 13/07/2021 12:50

It seems a fair few males on here like a bush. However, you need to do what you feel comfortable with. I don’t think any man heading in that direction is going to worry about it.

cookiecreampie · 13/07/2021 15:15

Just ask him. But really it's your body and it's up to you, if he's into you he won't care.

Catullus5 · 13/07/2021 19:38

I don't mind (although right now I'm enjoying the novelty of ... a change... and I'm not saying which Smile)

I agree that your body your choice, but you choosing to do something he likes can also be a very positive choice made by you.

I think you need to create a tender moment and ask him how he likes it. Just asking him could be very sexy for him. Or just trim it neatly and a bit short if you need a safe option!

Letsbeeavenuee · 14/07/2021 16:32

Trim it short and neat. That way it's not over hairy or bald. Then I'm sure as you get closer you will learn what he wants.

I like mine shaved. But the last bloke I was sexual with was older by 15 years and liked hair.

RosesandPumpkins · 14/07/2021 19:57

I go middle ground and have it short and neat so it’s neither bald nor a bush. Then you can have conversations when you’re more comfortable.

JustAnotherOldMan · 14/07/2021 21:13

I think this is your body your choice kinda thing, personally I prefer the @RosesandPumpkins balance rather than fully shaved, but that’s just me.
Interestingly I’ve never been asked to manscape, but my current partner has commented that the salt and pepper look is matched upstairs and downstairs, so maybe I should do something about that ?

Catullus5 · 14/07/2021 21:16

That remark world be even more pointed if your have a receding hairline. Wink

JustAnotherOldMan · 14/07/2021 21:31

Not receding, but certainly thinning on top …😭

Femme99 · 14/07/2021 21:39

I no longer shave completely (I used to!) just short and neat, I sometimes use his electric razor to do it shhhhh!

I have slept with a few guys that shave, I reckon they do it, so their bits look bigger 😄

HPLikecraft · 18/07/2021 03:51

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Heatherjayne1972 · 28/07/2021 16:55

Your body. Your choice
Although most men don’t seem too bothered either way

Abhannmor · 29/07/2021 08:49

I often think Americans have never seen an intact naked adult of either sex - what with shaving and circumcision. Do what suits you !

Namechanged1010 · 29/07/2021 09:36

@Heatherjayne1972
"Although most men don’t seem too bothered either way"

Crikey..not sure what mean you know then but nearly all my friends reckon they shave or wax below and normally a factor is their husband or partner much prefers it. I think every bf and now DH all much prefer...I suppose it is what they have grown up with and see as normal

Heatherjayne1972 · 29/07/2021 10:20

@Namechanged1010.

I was married 17 years and never shaved at all. He wasn’t bothered
Next one I did a bit of tidying up. He wasn’t bothered.

In fact it’s not come up in conversation until recently with my new man who says he don’t care either way as long as I’m happy

Bottom line is that it’s my body and my choice.

Shodan · 29/07/2021 10:27

Just do what you're comfortable with. If he's going to be put off by some hair down there he's probably not worth bothering with.

The time to play about with different hairstyles is a) when you want to and b) no other time.

Abhannmor · 29/07/2021 13:54

@Shodan

Just do what you're comfortable with. If he's going to be put off by some hair down there he's probably not worth bothering with.

The time to play about with different hairstyles is a) when you want to and b) no other time.

In a nutshell. Smile

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