Boobs affecting my confidence!

BoobDilemma · 2021-07-01T14:11:11+00:00

For quite a few years now, having smaller boobs has affected my confidence during sex, I’m not flat-chested but I am small busted. I nearly went through with breast surgery but decided against it eventually. I’ve tried to accept myself for who I am but it’s not always easy. Does anyone else feel this way?

MovingtoOz1Day · 01/07/2021 16:12

Yes but the opposite, I have large breasts and would love them to be smaller. Would like a boob job but I'm worried I'd lose feeling in my nips, it's a big part of sex for me

SlightlyDifferent · 01/07/2021 17:48

Boob Dileema, I totally understand that accepting yourself for who you are can be hard but in my humble opinion it is the answer.
Breasts come in many different shapes and sizes, to some extent at least that is the beauty of them.
Everyone will have their own preferences as to what they find attractive and sexy, you just have to be with someone who either likes what you have or genuinely isn't bothered. If you are currently with someone who doesn't fit that category then it is their mistake not yours. Of course, it helps if you feel the same way too.
There's a lot to be said for the 'small ones are more juicy' philosophy.

xpc316e · 01/07/2021 18:07

I always considered myself to be a boob man, but my current partner of nearly 20 years has small boobs and I am entirely happy with them. She initially lacked confidence because of her small breasts and was really shy about revealing her lack of them when we first got together.

Over the years she has grown in confidence and she knows that I genuinely love her just the way she is. A bonus is the fact that she is now in her mid fifties and has pert breasts without any sag, or veins. She is now proud of them and not in the least embarrassed by their lack of size.

I am glad that you didn't go for breast augmentation. It's rarely the solution you think it might be, and it is much better that you accept your body for what it is. You may not be what you consider to be perfect, but you are perfect for somebody out there. If any potential partner is such an idiot that they dismiss you because of your breasts, then you drop them like a hot potato and move on until you find the person who loves you as you are.

Best wishes.

noego · 01/07/2021 18:41

I prefer small boobs. it's a myth that men prefer big tits. Have confidence OP!!

HerHusband · 01/07/2021 18:51

Size is utterly irrelevant to me.

Who they're attached to is the important part.

HerHusband · 01/07/2021 18:53

Oh and to add, I'd prefer tiny natural boobs than boobs that had been augmented, but that's just me.

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BoobDilemma · 01/07/2021 19:42

Thank you for all of the replies, it’s really encouraged me to be more positive. I am glad I didn’t have surgery now, at times I regretted not taking the plunge but I know I made the right decision.

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Pazuzu · 02/07/2021 12:26

Generally, men are pretty much in the "all boobs rule" camp. Don't worry about yours.

santabetterwashhishands · 02/07/2021 14:16

I'd rather play with small boobs than fake 🤷‍♀️
It's a myth that big boobs are what's best and the only person who even gives size a second thought is the person who owns them .
My own boobs are too big in my opinion but I've never had any bad comments from partners .

watchingtheflowersgrow · 02/07/2021 14:42

I had a boob job years ago & have never regretted it. I much prefer my shape in clothes & out of them. And to all men saying they prefer real over fake - honestly no man has even known until I've told them as they look & feel natural. Honestly people have been surprised. Do what makes you feel good - life is too short!

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BoobDilemma · 02/07/2021 15:16

@santabetterwashhishands - I have a friend who is busty and she never used to remove her bra during sex because she said they were saggy and looked completely different out of a bra, she also said she’d swap with small boobs any day, so I guess me feeling the way I do, is much the same with bigger busted women.

@watchingtheflowersgrow - Thanks for sharing your experience, I decided against it because the surgeon said he would use the smallest implants because of my body shape (slim) and i was worried they wouldn’t be much different after paying a lot of money, I also read some horror stories which made me make the final decision. However, it may be something I decide to do in the future. I am trying my best to me more accepting of myself, I am not flat-chested either, just small. I am glad you are happy with them, can I ask what size you went from and to, if not too personal for you to answer?

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watchingtheflowersgrow · 02/07/2021 20:01

I went from a B to a DD. I can't tell you how much happier & more confident it made me. Before I'd spend the whole time I was having sex worrying about what he thought of my boobs & after that I just felt really attractive so I felt amazing & attractive. I'd recommend it to anyone worrying. I'm a size 8-10 so quite petite too

watchingtheflowersgrow · 02/07/2021 20:02

I went from a B to a DD. I can't tell you how much happier & more confident it made me. Before I'd spend the whole time I was having sex worrying about what he thought of my boobs & after that I just felt really attractive so I felt amazing & attractive. I'd recommend it to anyone worrying. I'm a size 8-10 so quite petite too

HaggisBurger · 02/07/2021 20:28

@watchingtheflowersgrow

I went from a B to a DD. I can't tell you how much happier & more confident it made me. Before I'd spend the whole time I was having sex worrying about what he thought of my boobs & after that I just felt really attractive so I felt amazing & attractive. I'd recommend it to anyone worrying. I'm a size 8-10 so quite petite too

Do you still have full sensation in your nipples tho. That would be my worry I’d quite like a boob job really.

watchingtheflowersgrow · 03/07/2021 07:30

@HaggisBurger yes I do thank goodness! I went for under the muscle implants though which don't go anywhere near your nipple. I breastfed both my kids for the first year of their life.

GentlemanJay · 03/07/2021 08:04

Not all guys like big boobs. I prefer small boobs.

Livandme · 03/07/2021 09:56

I've got small boobs.
My last partner told me he loved them and nothing he did suggested any different.

I have a friend who has large breasts, men only seem to see these and seem to focus on getting her into bed.

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BoobDilemma · 03/07/2021 11:02

I know a lot of it is psychological and it’s just a case of accepting myself as I am, maybe society has a lot to answer for and what we think others desire.

@watchingtheflowersgrow - I am glad you’re happy with them and they’ve given you the confidence you needed, that’s what’s most important

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wsbts · 03/07/2021 20:36

They are an asset OP the larger ones sometimes get in the way so to speak and you can feel confident that you were going to change and did not.

All the best OP

66babe · 03/07/2021 23:04

I think a smaller boob looks so much nicer than any fake ones

I would however like mine putting back where they used to be

Lovewins · 04/07/2021 17:45

@BoobDilemma I posted a while back (under a
Different name) as I’m the opposite- always had big boobs and a slim frame and post kids and breastfeeding I am now the not so proud owner of two quite small (32/34B/C depending on bra) but very saggy boobs. Even when I was younger and fuller they were saggy and I was massively self conscious. I waited 3 months to take my bra off during (otherwise pretty wild) sex with my husband 15 years ago as I was so self conscious. He was erm, quite promiscuous before we met and later told me that he loved my boobs and thought they were amazing. He had been with several women with fake boobs and wasn’t into it and was never keen on me having an opp. Now I would need a lift which basically I find too scary, there is extensive scaring and big possibility of nipple numbness. So- I am stuck with two saggy empty boobs and would kill for a couple of pert fried eggs frankly! I know you feel weird about your boobs- try not to- we come in all shapes and sizes and most men aren’t that fussed

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BoobDilemma · 04/07/2021 22:13

@Lovewins - I’m sure you look great, I think it’s just a case of accepting our bodies, I know it’s so much easier said than done though. One way to look at it is that you have nurtured and fed your babies and although they’ve changed, you have done an amazing thing

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Fruititty · 09/07/2021 17:02

I am a member of the itty bitty titty club with a pair of double As. I love them and all my partners have loved them too. I am quite fascinated by big knockers though and would love to have a feel of a pair but that's a whole different thread.

CloseToTheBone · 18/07/2021 00:47

Another vote for the small and neat here.

Hyly68 · 10/08/2021 08:41

I had this, I actually used a exposure therapy technique. So I took pictures of my boobs and thought about the things I liked about them, ie pert, nice shape etc and I can actually say it’s worked and I feel better about them now.