Highly rated sex toy did nothing for me :(

[Sunnidayz]

In sexless marriage so decided to treat myself to a new sex toy even though it's not the same as being with a man.

After searching for ages I decided on the Tracey's Dog clit sucking g-spot stimulation device. It got great reviews online and women were going on about how fast and hard they came and annoying the neighbours etc. Sounded promising so I bought it.

It arrived last week but I was on my period so decided to leave it until I wasn't. So I decided to try it this morning, anticipation was high but aside from slight stimulation nothing happened! I just ended up feeling a hot slightly burning sensation and buzzing inside, and could barely feel the sucking sensation at all. Tried all the different levels of intensity, nothing. Am so frustrated.

Is something wrong with me? Maybe not as sensitive as other women? Previously I had a magic wand and it was amazing, very intense. Maybe I need that again, high intensity buzzing?

I'm very disappointed, £45 down the drain and no orgasm!

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I think some toys don't work for everyone. I'm interested in trying this toy but worried about wasting money. I've had the same rabbit vibrator for years that they don't sell anymore. I've tried the newer models of rabbit and they make me take ages to orgasm or it's really weak compared to old faithful, so I'm hesitant to waste money on another dud. I'd try and use it again, maybe try and get more in the mood and try and take the pressure off forcing an orgasm.

Yeah it seems like I'm maybe an anomaly, it works for most people perhaps? I was trying various positions and pressing it against me and squeezing my muscles but no joy! I've never tried a rabbit so can't comment on those, the Hitachi Magic Wand us the only thing that's worked for me other than fingers. I've had a bit to drink so sorry if tmi.

I might give it another go some time and see if it's any different.

Why is your marriage sexless?

Husband won't have sex or kiss me properly, do anything intimate apart from occasional hug. I think he's asexual (he's autistic and I know it's common) although he denies it and says he's too fat and too old (he's 46). Sick of being rejected so have given up trying. Might get counselling but not sure if it'll make any difference tbh.

Too old at 46? ...

I think personally you'd get a lot more of a boost from a lover. A side-affiliate just for sex. Even if you only met a couple of times a month.

Forget the morals. So long as the side person is free to participate then I wouldn't worry about having a lover. Obviously totally discreetly. And way better than a bit of plastic (of course choose the guy v carefully).

Where did you buy the toy?
I recently bought a womaniser based on all the positive reviews and I hated it, didn’t work for me at all. But I bought from Love Honey and they have a sex toy money back guarantee. It’s really easy to make a claim and get a full refund.
Doesn’t solve the problem of a missing orgasm but gives you a chance at a better toy for you!
I think I have the opposite problem, I’m too sensitive

I'm single and have been for years because my husband waa/is a bastard. I'd love to meet someone lovely and know that one day I might. Why are you accepting his attitude and behaviour? You could end your marriage.

@RattyMcgrew

Where did you buy the toy? I recently bought a womaniser based on all the positive reviews and I hated it, didn’t work for me at all. But I bought from Love Honey and they have a sex toy money back guarantee. It’s really easy to make a claim and get a full refund. Doesn’t solve the problem of a missing orgasm but gives you a chance at a better toy for you! I think I have the opposite problem, I’m too sensitive

They won't accept used sex toys.

@cookiecreampie
They don’t have them back!
They told me to dispose of mine. But they do refund if you explain why you didn’t get on with the toy. It’s on their website.

My husband did suggest that I find a lover, but I'm not sure if he was just being reactive and in reality wouldn't be happy. Although as you say one can be discreet. I'm not very experienced sexually and it would be difficult to trust someone new. I think ideally I'd need a trusted friend to help me out but I don't have any male friends.

I got it from a website called Your Pleasure Toys. I had a look and it says they don't accept returns but if there's any issues you can contact them. I might just have to right it off though.

*write it off, not right.

We purchased the same toy from YPL as my partner thinks its brilliant. She now complains its almost too quick. We have since got the suction massager, which is just the suction piece. Which she likes to use with a vibrator. She finds this better if she wants a longer session. if not she will always pick the suction vib for a quickie. It did take some time to get the settings right and need to work through them. We do need an empty house when using them though 😁😉
I would email the company as they have been brilliant with advice when needed. Good luck.

I've emailed the company and they've asked if the different vibrations work so I tried it again. It seems fine and buzzy enough when I tried it there but no joy when I tried on Saturday, using it in myself?

I don't think I'll get refunded but perhaps I can sell it to an internet pervert haha.

Think I'll get another wand.

I bought it too and was just as disappointed. The same with the womaniser which, fortunately, I bought when lovehoney did refunds. However, I bought a satisfyer pro and that works.

Even if/when you find a vibrator that works for you, I think you should also go for regular massage or something so that you get some human touch. It's so important. (Sensual not sexual)

I'll definitely be booking a massage soon! Love them!

First time I used the womaniser I hated it. Literally hated it. I had this insanely fast and actually uncomfortable orgasm and didn’t enjoy it at all.

I did go back to it, again the first one was very quick - but the second... yikes. Now one of my favourite things!

Maybe give it another go since you can’t return it? I know with the womaniser you have to position it really well and I guess that’s trickier with an extra component. Did you use lubricant under the hood part? That makes a difference too, so it creates a seal.

G spot stuff doesn’t work for me at all unless I’m already really aroused. Then it’s awesome. So maybe it needs a bit more practice / experimentation?

To be honest I don’t really enjoy going solo that much - it all feels a bit hollow. So maybe that’s part of the issue too?

I have a satisfyer pro. Like @EmptyOrchestra I didn’t like it at all at the first use. It just yanked at me, painfully. I’ve since found out that I need I need it on the very lowest setting, where the pulses and pulls are almost imperceptible for it to have the desired effect.

As an aside, the name of the toy you bought is gross. What possessed them?!

Yes it's a very bizarre name haha.

I've tried it again and it took me a long time to get there but that's not unusual however I've been angling it so I'm not using the g spot bit. However it starts feeling a bit sore after a while so need to be careful (it presses against me too much when I'm holding it which gets uncomfortable). Need to practice more, I think you can use it in the shower as well?

Need another wand but not sure if I should get another Hitachi (which was amazing) or a Doxy which gets good reviews?!

I've had a traceys dog. The shaft wasn't long enough to reach both parts. I spent ages bending it to fit and managed to break it. The Satisfyer pro 2 is so much better. On Amazon for about £28. Much cheaper than the womaniser, but does the same job.