I'm on heat....

[sexisonfire]

Good god, I don't know what to do or where to put myself Have NChanged as this is just embarrassing.

I've always had a high sex drive but in recent weeks it's gone through the roof. I feel like I'm in heat. I'm early-mid 40s so have just been reading online that some women hit peri-menopause and their sex drive just skyrockets...

All sounds very wonderful but honestly, it's getting in the way of actual life. My poor DH is older than me and happily DTD weekly at most. I've told him about this constant friskiness and although he's happy to oblige occasionally, it's still all encompassing. I think about sex constantly, dream about it (god, even my colleagues are making regular appearances in my dreams )

It's constantly there in my thoughts. Apart from cold showers and going for regular runs, what can I do? Help! Anyone else had this? Please tell me I'm not alone!!

No advice beyond wild swimming for me. 42 and sex drive is insane! It's always been night but at the moment, some nights I can't sleep!

Ha! Thanks for the reply Angryflipper. I'm a rubbish swimmer but I guess the exercise thing in general might be an idea.
Glad I'm not alone though. Any yeah, some nights I'm awake for ages just hot, restless and wholly fed up...

@sexisonfire I thought it said "going for regular nuns".

Hi @sexisonfire I have NC too but I'm in the same boat, 46 going through the same and very sexual atm, bit of a problem when I have been single for years!

@sexisonfire this is me too - and I have name changed.
I’m almost 49 and I feel like all the hormones from my 20s, 30s & 40s (that laid dormant!) have suddenly appeared! My poor OH doesn’t know what’s hit him - after years of me not being massively interested, I now cannot stop thinking about sex. It plagues my waking thoughts & is very distracting in terms of work 😆 it does keep me awake at night too. It all started last year in lockdown and shows no signs of disappearing- which is great in many respects. I think it’s quite funny how the roles have reversed as I’m now the one “pestering “ my OH and he raises any eyebrow and laughs, claiming he might have a headache. Bloody karma!
I also started swimming last year, around the same time but I can definitely say it does not help to relieve the situation- actually makes it worse 😂 but it’s a nice problem to have, in many ways.
Long may it continue!

Is it stating the obvious to say have you tried daily masturbation? I often feel more focused and productive after a morning O.

@IAmDaveTheSerialShagger - love the name! Is it from the other thread about “tell me a secret?” If so, we might need the services of Dave......
🤣 That thread needs nominating for classics.

Like @esterpologoist I was going to ask if you had been tempted to take matters into your own hands? An early morning rub may sort you out for while. Although if it is worse at night time?

@BadMotherLover "Although if it is worse at night time?" Agreed. Mastyrbating in the morning may not solve that problem. 😁

Maybe it’s the hot weather. Wine, chocolate, sex and more sex will help (not in that order!) Repeat 👍🏻

[quote Hellonacracker]@IAmDaveTheSerialShagger - love the name! Is it from the other thread about “tell me a secret?” If so, we might need the services of Dave......
🤣 That thread needs nominating for classics.[/quote]
I think I’m the only one on Mumsnet that hasn’t shagged a Dave

OP, l am of a similar age. It’s normal and can be loads of fun. Given your circumstances, stock up on the batteries.

@StarlightLady

OP, l am of a similar age. It’s normal and can be loads of fun. Given your circumstances, stock up on the batteries.

Alternatively invest in a rechargeable one 😂

@BadMotherLover

Like *@esterpologoist* I was going to ask if you had been tempted to take matters into your own hands? An early morning rub may sort you out for while. Although if it is worse at night time?

Well yes, you would think that that would work but it doesn't really. Might just take the edge off but nothing more 😳 I can now understand what boys from the age of about 14 feel like with all these hormones racing around their body 🤣It's quite a strange position to be in, especially when this has certainly not been my normal. My OH thinks his partner has been kidnapped & replaced by this unfamiliar woman with very urgent/frequent needs. Poor devil!

Don't want to alarm anyone but this hit me almost 2 years ago and it's still going strong. It does have highs and lows (when my poor husband breaths a sigh of relief and enjoys a bit of a rest) but mostly highs. When it's really bad it's literally all consuming. This week has been a belter. 5 times I had to sort myself out yesterday ffs 😂

Ha! Well, I've only just popped back and see there's lots of replies. Thanks all. Glad to hear it's not just me and I'm not a total weirdo...

In terms of taking matters into my own hands...yep, regularly!! And I have a rechargeable toy as anything with batteries would cost me a fortune

I'm trying to just distract myself today by keeping busy (not in that way. Doing boring housework). It's always there at the back of my mind. Most distracting.

I have a teenage step-DS and I think my hormones are going more crazy than his!!! That's exactly what I feel like - a 15 yr old boy raging with testosterone!!

[quote Hellonacracker]@IAmDaveTheSerialShagger - love the name! Is it from the other thread about “tell me a secret?” If so, we might need the services of Dave......
🤣 That thread needs nominating for classics.[/quote]
Interestingly enough, the first person I slept with was a Dave. He wasn't a colleague though 😆

I think I’m the only one on Mumsnet that hasn’t shagged a Dave

I haven’t either. I feel left out!

I don't even know what a 'Dave' is. Have an idea and it doesn't seem that appealing, but then I love non-English and Dave sounds super English.

Yes yes op don't worry yes - it will get even worse - you sill not be able to eat, you will be almost sick with desire, and the only relief will be hours of hard sex. It's your body's last chance and it sill tell you in no uncertain terms.

So line up a stack of Daves because one won't be enough, unless he is an exceptional Dave. A David among Daves.

Will will will

@jozipozi31

I don't even know what a 'Dave' is. Have an idea and it doesn't seem that appealing, but then I love non-English and Dave sounds super English.

Yes yes op don't worry yes - it will get even worse - you sill not be able to eat, you will be almost sick with desire, and the only relief will be hours of hard sex. It's your body's last chance and it sill tell you in no uncertain terms.

So line up a stack of Daves because one won't be enough, unless he is an exceptional Dave. A David among Daves.

I agree about your body desperately trying to get you pregnant - it knows it has to step up or lose the chance!

I’m late 30s and get bouts of a very high sex drive too. I’ve been in tears over it because my DH’s sex drive is much lower than mine (he doesn’t know how upset I get sometimes). The frustration is like nothing else. It really feels like your body is screaming to get pregnant, which I’m sure is why masturbation doesn’t help, and also if you have sex without intercourse, this doesn’t help either. It has to be “proper”, full-on penetration with a real life penis (with a man on the end of it, obviously ) or nothing helps!

Yes, without wishing to be indelicate, the only satisfying option is to be filled full of as much semen as deep as possible. And then he could maybe go and make you a cup of tea and a ham sandwich. (or other sandwich of choice)

And you could watch eg Grey's Anatomy on your laptop while having a little rest.

ah. Perfect! : D

A David among Daves

This is a sex surge. Your body realises that you are going to menopause and is giving you one last chance to procreate. It's very common. I'm early forties and a couple of years ago I had a period of a few weeks where I was constantly aroused. Sounds great but it was happening at work and was very distracting and no amount of scratching the itch (usually six times a day, never at work hasten add!) satiated it. I read threads about a constant arousal syndrome which I'd never heard of before. There was some good advice there. And then one day it was just gone. Weird.

@Quirrelsotherface

A David among Daves

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