Is this weird or does it happen to others?

[Beenawhile1]

So when you are having sex... (man and woman) if you are the woman and the man is about to enter you, does it always go in first try on its own or do you need to hold it/put it in??

I have a tilted womb so I don’t if it is just me, so some angles don’t work so well (particularly from behind). Sometimes the guy can go straight in but often needs some ‘guidance’. What is the norm please??

My aim is not that good so I usually need a helping hand

Thanks @GeorgeOhWell I don’t know if I’m the problem or if it’s usual always find it a bit embarrassing with someone new!

Hello OP, male view here (and apologies for the TMI)

It depends how hard the male is and how wet the female is. A hard penis should have no issues entering a wet vagina.

I understand your anatomical issue from what you say could cause you to provide some guidance, but that could be part of the fun of starting off the action!!

It is not weird and you shouldn't be embarrassed. In my experience it is perfectly normal for men to need a little help. Just one of the slightly ridiculous, funny things about sex.

Pretty normal, TBH,
For some reason I used to find this more when on top, I’m 6ft tall, so would normally be about 3ft away from the action, so to speak, so a helping hand would sometimes be needed

@JustAnotherOldMan sorry but that really made me laugh thanks I needed that!

It doesn’t happen all the time at all but i do think it is a position thing for sure.

I never say anything (neither has any guy before) but I wasn’t sure if it was me or not!

I love you can talk about anything on here and anything goes.

I sometimes like the woman helping out - it can add to the fun!

Sometimes I'm "in like Flynn" It just depends on the situation.

Finding positions that work well for you is also fun!

@Beenawhile1.
Too be frank, build seems to play a factor as well, I’m quite a slim build (apart from the middle age spread !), my ex wife was quite slim as well, and it wasn’t really an issue with her, but my ex-partner was of a ‘larger’ built and she did have to ‘guide it in’ a bit more.

I’m small so that’s not my issue @JustAnotherOldMan

@AverageGuy I had to Google that

Is it a turn off for the guy if this happens?? Are they thinking ‘what the fuck is going on here have I hit a brick wall?!’

@Beenawhile1 - I can't speak for others, but its definitely not a turn off for me!

I quite like being touched generally, so guidance isn't an issue.

I'd say as you both get to know each others bodies, it becomes easier

Ah, yes, I forget my great age sometimes!

Not, not a turn off for me, quick like it actually

My husband does have to guide it in sometimes, we’re both slim but he’s quite a bit taller than me. When he’s behind me, it can be trickier, only because of the height aspect. He’s 6ft 4 and I’m only 5ft 2

Thanks for a woman’s perspective @LipstickOnYourCollar5. I’m around your height too. Funny isn’t it. Obviously you have to have your legs open but maybe it is more a position thing

I'm 6' 2", and have usually (always?) DTD with women shorter than me - a couple around the 5' 2" mark (my xw was almost 5' 2"). I've had to be guided in on occasion, but normally not.

It can depend on how turned on the woman is, and position - experiment and enjoy!

It depends how wet I am. At the start, I can feel too tight unless it's guided qnd inched in slowly. Mid sex if we're just changing position it will just slide in.

Even if I'm dripping wet and he's rock hard I have to guide it in . Me 5'0, him 6'2

@Beenawhile1 - I think it depends on the position, combined with the imbalance of heights for me, I’ve never really slept with shorter guys, so it’s difficult to tell. Also if i’m really wet, it can be harder (whoops for the pun!) for it to just slide in. So I think it’s quite normal to guide it in

Phew thanks everyone (male and female perspectives have really helped!)

It's been a mixture for me, really. Sometimes the guy would go in 'hands free', other times he would be guiding himself, other times I would guide. To be honest, most times I wouldn't notice who was doing what, after all, the fact that he gets it in anyhow is the important bit! I've never had to draw attention to it either, except the few times when there have been real problems, usually because he wasn't hard enough. So @Beenawhile1, I really would say just go with what seems best each time and don't worry about it. I don't think the guys do anyway!

@Annwen thanks. Just reading that it isn’t just me has made me feel better!

Don't any other men just look where they're putting it???

@Blokenamechangesexboard I have never slept with a guy who ‘looked’ where they were putting it? When you’re snogging you don’t want a guy to be stopping to ‘look’!

I have had guys ‘guide’ with their own hand automatically and just going in blind so to speak

Really??

What if the man's head has already been down there?

My preference is to guide someone in, that way you can adjust speed etc to your own comfort zone.

@Blokenamechangesexboard maybe I’m just over critical of myself.

@StarlightLady do you mean using your hand? I quite like to do that sometimes