Is this weird or does it happen to others?

[Beenawhile1]

So when you are having sex... (man and woman) if you are the woman and the man is about to enter you, does it always go in first try on its own or do you need to hold it/put it in??

I have a tilted womb so I don’t if it is just me, so some angles don’t work so well (particularly from behind). Sometimes the guy can go straight in but often needs some ‘guidance’. What is the norm please??

@Blokenamechangesexboard - I always kiss my DH after he’s been down there, I thought most people did.

@StarlightLady

My preference is to guide someone in, that way you can adjust speed etc to your own comfort zone.

How do you adjust the speed once you've guided them in? Do you keep your hand there?

@LipstickOnYourCollar5 I think he meant how can I not want a guy ‘looking’ where to put it in if he had already gone down on you....

I just meant i would find it a bit odd having to actual ‘look’ where he’s meant to put it would rather a hand

@Blokenamechangesexboard

Don't any other men just look where they're putting it???

Yes I thought the same ... in my (limited) experience, I think how easily it goes in/with the least fuss/necessity to 'help' depends very much on the man. Some just know what they're doing. (Tb fair am thinking of one in particular, so don't know what proportion of men are as good at it as this ...) (am also comparing with a rather bad other one, who has always needed help - definitely wasn't looking properly 😅).

[quote Beenawhile1]@LipstickOnYourCollar5 I think he meant how can I not want a guy ‘looking’ where to put it in if he had already gone down on you....

I just meant i would find it a bit odd having to actual ‘look’ where he’s meant to put it would rather a hand[/quote]
No - your second sentence is what I meant.

(sorry - have just changed name from BNCSB to one I think reflects me better)

It has always worked for me, l’ve never thought about it. It’s the control freak in me. l use my hand to control the initial entry. I’m not a fan of an initial “oomph” on entry. It should resemble a ship easing into port. With a band playing on the wuayside of course!

Wuayside - Quayside. I haven’t discovered a new body part. 😂

@StarlightLady

Wuayside - Quayside. I haven’t discovered a new body part. 😂

Or is that how you say quayside when it's happening?

I've always loved that initial entry, especially kissing for a wee while after he's all the way in before the thrusting really gets going. Never really liked it if he just goes full throttle straight away. If I know someone's like that, my hand guiding gradually can help.

[quote Parkerwhereareyou]@Blokenamechangesexboard

Don't any other men just look where they're putting it???

Yes I thought the same ... in my (limited) experience, I think how easily it goes in/with the least fuss/necessity to 'help' depends very much on the man. Some just know what they're doing. (Tb fair am thinking of one in particular, so don't know what proportion of men are as good at it as this ...) (am also comparing with a rather bad other one, who has always needed help - definitely wasn't looking properly 😅).[/quote]
If the woman is on her Back and you have her ankles by your ears, then yes you can see everything, but if you were spooning, for example, then no,

Just to clarify, me saying ‘looking’ where to go I meant I don’t want a guys face literally trying to find entry more than happy when they use a hand for sure. Just wanted to check there was nothing physically wrong with me that sometimes there has to be guidance! I do love it though when literally no guidance is needed at all and straight in. Generally only find that works most of the time if I’m on top. Sometimes other positions.

Laughing about quayside.

If I'm on top, I like to slide up the shaft and sort of flip the tip inside myself so I can then sit down upon it. "Look no hands!" was DP's surprised comment the first time I did it to him

In other positions he uses a hand to guide it in.

@PussGirl

Nobody's mentioned sometimes needing to guide them out - after having the condom left inside me on two occasions I was always careful that the guy pulled out before going soft and if need be I'd hold the condom on him as he did it. I was depending on condoms most of the time then and couldn't afford any leaks!

@Annwen - oh yuck! I've had the snip, but still wear one when DTD (as far as I remember.. ) I always check I'm taking mine with me, as it were.. Can't think of anything more off putting!

There are 4 hands at play here It’s not difficult to hold on to the base of a condom during withdrawal.

I have had that happen and was horrible having to get it out yes, just hold onto it!!

To answer the OP's question sometimes I just slip in. Other times either me or my dp will use a hand to guide me in. Kind of depends on the position We use condoms...important to make sure it's fully rolled down before entry and, as others have said, I withdraw after orgasm before I go soft....we've never lost one but I'd be mortified if I did!

@StarlightLady

There are 4 hands at play here It’s not difficult to hold on to the base of a condom during withdrawal.

Yea, but it's amazing in my experience how many of them forget - it's as if once they've shot their load their load all caution can be forgotten!