Sex Multiple Times

[IsItJustMeOrYou]

I chatted to my DH this morning about sex multiple times. For example if you have sex more than once in the same evening/night/day. We met as teens and are our only partners and now in our 50s. In all of that time maybe 3 or 4 times we have had sex at night then the next morning after waking up. My DH said that he has never had the urge to have sex then a short-while later have sex again. I am the same so we are very compatible and happy with things.

Not having any other experience it was just a general question on how common is it to have sex more than once within a short-period and is there a real desire from each partner to have sex multiple times?

Thank you, I am just curious

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@DivorcedAndDelighted thank you. I read the article and it turns out I am normal regarding responsive desire. Been working on being more overtly sexual, even though I am not aroused, to signal to my DH that he is sexually attractive. I think it will be a long process as there have been years of not showing this but I have started on the journey and hope to keep it going.

When first started dating and not living together we made the most of our time together. neither of us had had good sex lives before and we made up for it. but i can't imagine doing that now.

Occasionally now twice in a day but its rare

In the beginning, it was constant, morning, noon and night.
We booked a weekend away, a month in, Fri-Mon, we'd leave the room to re-fuel, or have a swim, sauna, tease each other then back to the room. Poor neighbours.
It can all become a bit exhausting, chasing orgasm after orgasm.

2yrs in it can be 3/4 times a day, every day or nothing for a couple of weeks. She initiates, says she's horny, I suppose we just have and always have had that physical and emotional connection.

Id still prefer at least every other night, sometimes twice, sadly once her clits hit that climax its too sensitive for her to carry on for a 2nd :(

should be glad that happens i guess but still it puts paid to round two

The most times I've had sex in one session was 6, overnight when I was single. But I suppose I just made the most of each opportunity then - doing it several times on each occasion was normal. Since being in a settled relationship it's tended to be no more than once at bedtime and then the next morning, though there have been exceptions

Our record is 19 times in one day. Bloody hell I was chafing by the end. Bear in mind this was 20 years ago and we are now very much a once or twice a week couple 😂 It’s a rarity that we have it twice a day but it’s DH birthday next week so he may get lucky, or a blow job if he’s VERY lucky 😆

I'm often up for more after a short rest, but once DW is finished, that's it - there's no appetite for more and she normally likes a few days to build up the interest again, sadly.

@Parkerwhereareyou

My contribution:

OP, with a properly matched person we are first thing in the morning (before getting up), if possible lunchtime, bedtime, and if really happy then also in the night (like 3-4 am). Four times a day. Every day.

With the right person it's just 24/7 access and it's like breathing. I go to sleep holding him (...), he wakes me up in the night by licking me (...).

Really. I know that sounds too idyllic (well, to me - to others it may sound not their cup of tea!) but it is perfectly normal for me and some other people.

It's just a question of being matched. If I am working and he is turned on then that turns me on too and I'd happily follow him to the disabled loo (or be lightly propelled). When it's really good, it's like mirroring someone else's computer - you have access to everything (your and his body). I love that.

It's super important for me. But I know not for everyone.

Sorry, not just a question of being matched!

When I was in my late teens, 20s and 30s sex multiple times a day was common.

In my 30s I had a number of partners simultaneously, they all knew about each other and most of them had other partners.

With one it would always be 2 - 3 times at day at least, once going away for a week or so where it was 5 times a day, including once a day outside.

With another she believed that you had sex only in bed and only once between going to bed and getting up, so if we'd had it in the evening we didn't do it in the morning, and vice versa.

Now, I have a wife and a FWB but multiple times a day is simply too much for any of us.

It used to be that my wife liked to 'tip and tail' me seeing my FWB by having sex before and after I'd spend time with her, but that doesn't happen now, a blow job before I go if I'm lucky, and the last time I spent a night with my FWB, a few weeks ago, we didn't have sex at all.

Ohhh those days of having lots of passionate sex in the evening, followed by morning sex…Those were the days 🙂

Normal when you're really hot for each other.

I think 4 times overnight is the most I've managed.

Last cumshot was hilarious, just a few drips of spudwater I was absolutely spent.

Good times.

Some do, some don’t I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️
Me and my FWB seemingly can’t get enough of eachother and try to squeeze in as many times as possible during the limited time we do see each other

Do you lot have a high boredom threshold? Multiple times a day with the same person for months/years on end? Must get a bit samey.

Me and dp never have. Neither of us are interested in having it multiple times in a short period of time.

I had an ex who always wanted it multiple times. I found it draining tbh.

Thankfully me and dp have very similar sex drives expectations.

@ReadyforTakeOff - You are best of answering that question yourself, seeing as you and your partner have sex over 30 times a week….

I used to work with someone who claimed that she and her partner would often spend the whole night having sex constantly, which is why she often looked exhausted. I don't think I'd want to spent the whole night doing it. A number of times throughout the day/evening is fine but I don't think I've ever been ready to go again instantly..

DP and I usually have sex in the mornings and then again at night. Most days really. Then about every two weeks we have a big sesh usually if we've been out and there are no kids about. I fancy him more than I've ever fancied anyone however-it hasn't been like that with anyone I've ever been with before!

I guess there's two parts to this answer - emotional/hormonal desire (wanting sex again) and physical ability (being able to actually get it up next). Ideally they return about the same time, but not always the case.

If you both have matching high sex drives and both feeling the desire then yes, frequent sex is quite possible. Men have what's called a 'refractory period' which is the time needed to 'recover' from sex (it's driven by hormones). And all men are different, so some might not want it again for days, others might feel up for it very soon after.

It also varies by desire and situation - normally I'd need an hour or so between sessions. But if I'm really turned on, I can sometimes stay hard after orgasm and keep going without even stopping.

My current partner has a reasonable sex drive, we tend to have fairly long sessions (1 to 2 hours), but only once a night. She seems to have lost interest in morning sex, even when we haven't had any the previous night.

I had a girlfriend a couple of years back who had an insatiable sex drive. We'd end up spending entire weekends in bed at it. Longest we'd sleep for would be a couple of hours and then go again, only getting out of bed to eat and shower. It was incredible sexual chemistry and amazing, but it was also exhausting and unsustainable long term!

This weekend my wife and I are having our first weekend with a new couples with benefits couple. An ex colleague whom I met recently.

We discussed in it a Skype call a few days ago and we plan to have what she called 'mixed doubles' where we will have partner swapping, threesomes and we plan to have a Sunday morning foursome to end the weekend before going to the pub for a Sunday carvery.

They are staying two nights so plenty of opportunity for all combinations.

Think I'll be sleeping well Sunday night.

My record is 4 times in 24hrs. These days its mostly once, but sometimes 2 or 3. We've got into the habit of waking up in the early hours and doing it when we cant sleep recently....which is nice!

Those of you having sex more than once a day - do you wash in between sessions?

DH and I had sex last night after a dry spell and, although I quite fancied it again this morning I'd not showered I k ow from experienced that 2 sessions makes me smell 😳

Suddenly my Saturday feels very uneventful.

Try doing it while in the shower, takes care of both things at once 👍🏼

I'd love to but not on a work / school day with ds in the house.

Late night shag so drifted straight off (always sleep better after for some reason too) and woke fancying a fumble before the usual morning sprint to gwt everyone sorted!

No real opportunity for a wash between but a double shag without is a bit minging 😭