Anal regularly

[Hobbitjar]

Would you regularly ? Or just occasionally?

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Why would you find stimulating something designed for and used daily for shitting arousing?

If someone is encouraged to bang their head against a brick wall several times each day they might learn to enjoy it.

From what I have read and heard, girls and woman have to persevere and learn how to enjoy being penetrated in their anus. Goodness only knows why some men want to do it, in fact I would rather not know their reasons.

@jessstan2 So how do you feel about oral sex? That's not "designed" for penetration but many women enjoy giving and receiving it.

I'm on the verge of reporting you with your judgy tone on a sex board. This is not a place for your disgust or dislike. It's a place to explore and learn.

I don't disagree that porn has caused more people and more worryingly younger people to think that rough anal is ok. But the reality for those of us, of all sexes who do enjoy it, is that it is nothing like what is viewed in porn. Rough anal is I'm sure, as painful as rough vaginal and anything that is not fully consensual is assault, but I'm talking about consensual, careful and safe, enjoyable anal sex. I think you need to stop your Pearl grabbing and accept that we are all different and enjoy different things in our sex lives.

I enjoy a lot of things that others would not want to do, but it is my body and therefore my choice. I'm not suggesting anyone try something they don't want to, I'd just like to not hear the myths and stereotypical views that are being trotted out here.

I'm on the verge of reporting you with your judgy tone on a sex board.

You can't be serious. I only gave my opinion as have others.

Report away.

You can do what you like in private.

@Mxflamingnoravera

'This is not a place for your disgust or dislike. It's a place to explore and learn.'

Well said. We come on here in humility and wanting to have an open discussion. We're told we are everything bad. Not right.

It’s interesting to see how much debate this thread has generated. I do sometimes wonder if people post and then sit back knowing that they’ve created a degree of polarisation. It’s also interesting to see that OP hasn’t commented either. @Hobbitjar, what’s your view on this topic?

So a bloke here....me and my dp agreed on day one that neither of us liked anal sex...I think she had a bad experience with an ex....personally speaking I'd would much rather put my penis in her vagina....but plenty do like it and good for them. I'd agree it has been brought to the forefront by porn but people have had anal sex for millennia either for pleasure or to avoid pregnancy or both. There are naughty Roman frescoes that depict heterosexual anal sex....Romans were far less prudish about sex in general!
If both partners enjoy it and are happy then it's just fine....if not then just.don't do it....but may be don't judge others for indulging their own sexual likes....it's not for me but I'd never frown on those that do like it.....play On I say...

I quite like anal. It’s a different sensation to vaginal sex and very stimulating. The knowledge that it’s somewhat taboo can be a turn on too.

It is interesting to see such a mixed response to this. Like all sexual practices, it is down to the individuals to do what suits them for pleasure and well being. When considered as a basic physical act, all sexual activities could be seen as dirty, unhygienic, perverted and downright unpleasant: however, when they take place in a loving and erotic relationship, they can be come deeply emotional and rewarding activities - that includes anal sex. I have done it with my DP a few times and I actually initiated it and enjoyed it. If you don't understand it, try stimulating your anus either on the outside or with a finger in there when you masturbate. There are a lot of nerves there. We do it maybe once or twice a year (we have PIV sex about twice a week) - so it is certainly not a regular thing - but when it happens it is very special. I would not expect any hetero couple to engage in it early in a relationship - it is a very special thing that only happens when you are very, very close and very aroused. The other thing I would say is that porn has ruined its reputation as a loving sexual practice and turned it into a bad thing with youngsters.

however, when they take place in a loving and erotic relationship, they can be come deeply emotional and rewarding activities - that includes anal sex....I would not expect any hetero couple to engage in it early in a relationship - it is a very special thing that only happens when you are very, very close and very aroused

That’s quite prescriptive in terms of a loving relationship... deeply emotional...very special...very very close - not everyone views sex (of any/all kinds) in those terms. The person I’ve had and continue to have anal sex with most has been a long term casual lover, it’s not a loving relationship and we’re not very very close, but we have fantastic sex together.

I really enjoy anal sex. I find it an incredible sensual experience. Yes I have to be very relaxed which means lots of foreplay first. I don't do it every day, maybe every couple of weeks or so. I have had the most intense orgasm this way.

However we are all different and like different things.

Not at all. It's not for me.

@Snakebyte

Never fancied it. Why do people like it. Biologically the instinct for reproduction(ultimate survival for the species ) should be through the vagina so the sperm can get to the egg. So what's the point of anal.? Why does anyone like it?

Maybe some people have sex for enjoyment and not to reproduce

I (F47) tried it with my guy (M51), both our first time, last week.
(We are in a renewed relationship, if that matters, so known each other ages, but only recently back as a couple. New start, new things!).
It was at my initiation, initially. We were both initially VERY anti. But during oral/PIV, I gently touched him there first (yes, I asked first), just fingers, and we were both intrigued, and he really liked it. He then touched me, manually, and I loved it too. We talked at length about trying AS, decided we'd try, very slowly, very gently. I was incredibly turned on by this stage, and very much ready/in the mood.
It was insanely amazing. He was only maybe a quarter in, but he said it was incredible for him. He came, and declared it out of this world phenomenal. Most intense orgasm he'd ever had.
I had some sort of 'thing' – not quite sure it was an orgasm, it wasn't the same as PIV/oral orgasms, but I had some sort of intense mind-blowing sensation. It was fantastic, and I felt fulfilled.

We tried again the next day but I was a little less ready, and it didn't work/he couldn't maintain it, so we let it go that time.

I can't imagine doing it regularly, as I have concerns about it damaging me, but, if he stays at only a quarter in, and is as gentle as he was, I'd like to repeat it as a special thing, maybe every few weeks. Maybe we'd progress to deeper, but there didn't feel much need.

Can't believe we did it, really, but also now can't believe we only tried it now.

@Snakebyte

Never fancied it. Why do people like it. Biologically the instinct for reproduction(ultimate survival for the species ) should be through the vagina so the sperm can get to the egg. So what's the point of anal.? Why does anyone like it?

Do you also not see a point to oral sex? Or masturbation? Or women having an orgasm, as that’s not strictly necessary for conception?

I have to say, I enjoy it too. Some people are very judgemental about it on here. If it’s not for you then fair enough but some people actually really enjoy it and I’m one of them. What people do in their sex life is up to them as long as it’s consensual. Don’t be so “arsey” about people who like it.

I can only have anal sex arm as I'm trans but not had SRS yet. My partner knows he pleases me this way and I orgasm from it. We use plenty of lube and I douce regularly and always before sex. As long as you stay clean, and he's not massive I feel it's ok

To those who haven't done but seem to know a lot about it (heads up: they know nothing and should probably keep their speculation to themselves)I've never taken drugs, don't like them, not interested in them. Know they're harmful in certain circumstances. Guess what I don't do. Go on threads talking about drug taking regularly. So maybe learn from that.

Anway, it can feel INTENSLY pleasurable because if it is done in the right way after a lot of preparation in the form of foreplay, vaginal sex, oral sex etc and lubrication if needed, it represents a state of complete and utter relaxation and relinquishment of both your bodies and inhibitions. Now, that happens quite rarely in my experience - that a sexual experience can build to such a level that it can go there and be pleasurable. So it's quite rare for DH and I but maybe happens once or twice a year on impulse and it's amazing and all the better for it's scarcity. But regularly, no.

I love anal, I get closest to orgasming with it.. but have it as an occasional treat rather than regular.

Definitely an occasional experience....usually if DH has spent time on a nice meal, and then getting me aroused I get in the mood and want to do for him, and know how much he loves it but always waits for me to ask for it

The anus is a tight sphincter and therefore can be pleasurable to use for sex for both parties. It can increase the intensity of an orgasm for both parties. Each to their own, but if done sensitively is worth at least trying once.

@Gilda152

Anway, it can feel INTENSLY pleasurable because if it is done in the right way after a lot of preparation in the form of foreplay, vaginal sex, oral sex etc and lubrication if needed, it represents a state of complete and utter relaxation and relinquishment of both your bodies and inhibitions. Now, that happens quite rarely in my experience - that a sexual experience can build to such a level that it can go there and be pleasurable. So it's quite rare for DH and I but maybe happens once or twice a year on impulse and it's amazing and all the better for it's scarcity. But regularly, no.

I think you've said it. 👌

@Parkerwhereareyou

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STBXH used to nag & whine about having anal sex all the bloody time which put me right off, even though I was actually quite keen & had enjoyed it with previous partners.

We did on occasion but I didn't enjoy it - he's rather well-endowed.

Current DP is more averagely-proportioned and doesn't bloody whine on & on & we really enjoy it whenever we fancy it, which is about once every 3-4 weeks.