Cuckolding

[ReadyforTakeOff]

I am a guy who likes the thought of watching my wife with other men. Anyone tried it or have husbands into it?

Yes actually NameChanged, that's a good point!

Yes I've also been told eg 'I bet you would like to have XYZ fxxking you' ... accompanied by evidence that this turns them on.

Would have a turkey fit if reality, though ; )

@Parkerwhereareyou @ReadyforTakeOff

Thing about fantasies is that real life never works the way you imagine in your head.
And both of you are just talking about the way you think these things should go.

Vs the comments you are getting from people who have actually played out these scenarios in real life.

So - you can dismiss it all, thinking that you know better.

But then what the point of posting on a women’s website if you don’t want to at least think about what women have to say...

No one is suggesting that you need to develop some deep connection or socialise with your MMF partner. And certainly a transactional scenario of the type you described is possible. On any of the swingers websites, or on KK you can find men who’d just want to come and have sex, with whoever. Mostly, as it was mentioned - those would be men who can’t get much sex otherwise....
Maybe it’s what your W wants as well, and then it’s great that you are aligned on that.

But for most women - who get off on being desired by a man - that desire needs to have a bit of buildup. So - some flirting and banter beforehand goes a long way in establishing that.

I get the idea that a stranger walks in and f@cks me till I have multiple orgasms...
It’s very exciting in anyone’s head.
But of course the stranger we imagine is sexy and we find him instantly attractive. And they us.
In reality - when you get said stranger off the internet - you don’t really know what walks in and if you have any physical chemistry.

That is why, unless you are getting an escort - people do tend to chat beforehand.
It’s not complicated really.

That is why ... people do tend to chat beforehand.

I think we were (joking a little bit) that weren't intending to chat afterwards ... ! 😀

I'm just a woman giving my opinion ... I had thought it was quite obvious that it was all said a bit lightly!

(and yes, of course agree that not just anyone barrelling in off the street would do!!!)

Jsku, if we don't like him, we just kick him out. It's quite simple really. Of course I may offer him a drink so he can console himself before trudging back home.

if we don't like him, we just kick him out. It's quite simple really.

Really? What if he turns nasty / violent?

None of my business, but I'd at least to a little filtering..

@Parkerwhereareyou

You may have been joking indeed. But the OP sounds like he is not able to talk about it without getting weird/defensive/even a bit aggressive.
Not sure what he was looking for my posting here.

If you ever get to try it - it could be a lot of fun indeed. I do find MMF dynamics interesting; however there are more fun combinations with MFMF.... 😊😊😊

Assuming your wife is 100% on board I think you'd have to factor in a certain amount of time/chat to establish if there's any chemistry there...I can't imagine it would be much fun for anyone without.

I guess beyond that there's something to be said for knowing what you want to get out of the scenario and having strong boundaries but do expect but the others involved to feel the same and that theirs may be different.

Sounds fun though, definitely one of my fantasies but I'd need to find one man first, never mind two .

@TroubleComesInSmallPackages - pm me...

@AverageGuy I swear I get propositioned more frequently on here than I do on Tinder

@TroubleComesInSmallPackages - I've often said that MN needs to have a dating part..

[quote AverageGuy]@TroubleComesInSmallPackages - I've often said that MN needs to have a dating part..[/quote]
You may have a point!

Is there a place for women who like this. I've heard of killing kittens and feel the unicorn thing is impossible. I'm in late 20s know I'm relatively attractive but think unless you like a 10 and partner a 10 it's impossible? I want to look into it. Please tell me that's out there too.

@Whattodotho Why do you think the unicorn thing is impossible? I've made friends with loads on unicorns on KK. Yes, some are legging Italians with a figure to die for but most of the women are "normal". Cellulite, stretch marks, wobbly bits - nobody judges. It's been great for gaining body confidence because everyone is so supportive and kind.

As an example, a friend of mine signed up last year because she was bi-curious. . She lurked on the group chats for a while, then got to know people and engaged more, then asked questions, flirted a bit, attended a couple of socials and workshops, then met a lovely couple that she really gelled with and now she's having a fabulous time seeing them on a regular basis. She was able to seek advice from other more experienced people to guide her journey.

I'd recommend you give it a try. There's a fair few Mumsnetters there already!

Thank you so much for your insights! I guess I don't have the best confidence had 2 kids over past years you know how it goes. I just find hard single women are out there hahaha as I'm not interested in a 4 way with another man just like the idea of a woman in the mix and would absolutely love the arrangement of meeting up going doe dinners and nights away ect. People suggested escorts but I just don't feel right about thta and want some sort of connection too if that makes sense.

Sorry about all the typos. *find it hard to believe. How do you go about these groups. I don't really like the look of fetlife went on there and looked bit intense. Do you just make a profile on kks and then there's chat rooms? I'm also have bad social skills in real life my partner doesn't which is good but I just no idea how going to an event leads to actually hooking up 🙈

@Whattodotho - obviously, there are no meets / parties at the moment - Covid and all that (I think there will be some earth tremors come 21st June! )

I can't speak from experience , but I'd say treat it like going to a club. Just mingle, chat, get to know your surroundings, and the people there, and let things flow.

I'm sure @PinotPony will have some good advice.

@Parkerwhereareyou
"Yes actually NameChanged, that's a good point!
Yes I've also been told eg 'I bet you would like to have XYZ fxxking you' ... accompanied by evidence that this turns them on.
Would have a turkey fit if reality, though ; )"

As said above, my DH loves if in the mood when touching me to fantasise about me having another man...at first I was shocked but over time realised it was something that turned him on as a fantasy in bed and have played along with whispering with him about it.

After this post I read the comments and last weekend when we made love and he was fantasising about what could happen to me I got him really aroused and then whispered to him "I don't think you could cope if I really did it".. he said he would really love it if we could try in real life just the once and he really did mean it...I asked him to tell me what he wanted to see and he was very descriptive. I have left it saying I will think about it...but OMG did he have such a strong orgasm that night after I said that it was incredible

[quote AverageGuy]@Whattodotho - obviously, there are no meets / parties at the moment - Covid and all that (I think there will be some earth tremors come 21st June! )

I can't speak from experience , but I'd say treat it like going to a club. Just mingle, chat, get to know your surroundings, and the people there, and let things flow.

I'm sure @PinotPony will have some good advice.[/quote]
Already bought our tickets for Hedonism on 26th June! 😉👙

@Whattodotho

Sorry about all the typos. *find it hard to believe. How do you go about these groups. I don't really like the look of fetlife went on there and looked bit intense. Do you just make a profile on kks and then there's chat rooms? I'm also have bad social skills in real life my partner doesn't which is good but I just no idea how going to an event leads to actually hooking up 🙈

I'm on KK, FAB and Fetlife and I think they're all very different. In my opinion, KK is the best for getting to know people in a safe, welcoming environment. I like that it is female-led. Guys aren't allowed to message women unless they've sought permission in a group chat. Anyone who is disrespectful or pushy is giving very short shrift. For example, a new chap recently asked if "any kittens" were available for a 1-1 chat and was promptly reminded that women are individuals and not interchangeable!

I'd suggest that you create a profile (you can make a couples account for you and DP) and join some of the chat groups. Kurious is a good place to start as there are lots of newbies learning the ropes together. There are groups for Couples, Singles, Kittens Play, Toms Only, Filthy Flirts and Kinky. Plus ones specific to your location too. You can join as many as you like, your DP can only join one chat group at a time.

We usually do a roll call as an introduction when newbies join a chat group (and #nudesfornewbies if you're lucky!) Just say Hi and contribute as much as you feel comfortable. Be upfront that you're a couple looking for a unicorn but that you've never done this before - you'll get loads of great advice and suggestions.

Parties are starting back up after lockdown and there is always a pre-party chat so you can get to know other people who are going and maybe arrange to meet for pre-drinks. If that's too intense, then I'm sure there will be drinks and picnics etc later in the year. Groups often arrange their own meet ups - with no expectation of play, just to make introductions. Alternatively, you might find you get on well with someone on chat and just arrange a date on your own. Lots of options!

Feel free to look me up and connect if you'd like to. :)

The pretentious attitudes are so funny. Most men on fab will fuck a ham sandwich, they're not fussy and don't need their emotions stroked lol
Also, there's usually a reason why they don't get sex and are on there, it truly is the dregs of humanity, both men and women