Cuckolding

[ReadyforTakeOff]

I am a guy who likes the thought of watching my wife with other men. Anyone tried it or have husbands into it?

I think the phrases that you're using are what's causing people to express concern OP. Nothing wrong with setting expectations that it is a ONS and just a hook up. Nothing wrong with him understanding his role. But when you talk about "used for the task" and "knowing his place", it makes it sound like a complete disregard for him as a human being.

It's just basic manners in the swinging community to be respectful and empathetic to people you fuck. I'm not saying you need to invite him out for dinner, but a conversation about expectations is always a good idea. I know a guy who met a couple for MFM and it all kicked off because the husband went to the toilet and returned to see my friend fucking his wife. You need to be clear about everyone's boundaries.

If you want him to make an effort and give your wife a good time, perhaps you ought to consider what you can do to ensure he has a good experience too.

Oops...

This all sounds like some highly sophisticated hobby people get good at and need some real skill

TBH OP, it actually is both of these things. Human sexuality and emotions are complicated things, which require empathy and emotional intelligence to navigate well. I’d suggest having a read of the chat forums on Fabswingers to get an idea of how swingers behave with each other. It may be quite different to how you imagine!

@ReadyforTakeOff

Oh come on, prime rib?!! This all sounds like some highly sophisticated hobby people get good at and need some real skill..

Let's not get carried away now - I know what I want and whoever is involved will know their place and the deal.

It is exactly that. And you, with your shitty attitude, will not do well. So listen to those of us in the scene, or carry on your own merry arrogant way, to your own peril.

Hire a male escort.
You can tell him what you expect of him and he’ll happily bang away to the rhythm of your drum.

My peril?! Sophisticated hobby? Is it similar to golf because that does need some skill that's for sure.

Not a specific cuckold humiliation, but I have been in three MFMs as the “host chap”. Two were on holidays with someone we weren’t likely to meet again. The third was with the best man at my first wedding - he’d just lost his gf so was at a loss - and went on for about a year!

I’m also bi too so quite naturally “enjoy the visuals”. All three arrangements were very erotic indeed and I think brought us closer together. None were pre-discussed or arranged...

@j712adrian

You are describing a different scenario. You met your MMF partners in real life, so body language, chemistry, fit, etc - was there for a of you.

You didn’t get a man off internet to fulfil your fantasy of his W being f*d in a certain way.

If you read OP’s posts they do read a little off. I do feel a little sorry for his W as it does seem like she isn’t an active or equal participant in all of this.

My husband announced to me a couple of years ago that this was something he wanted to happen in our marriage. However he would like to join in after initially watching me with another man. To begin with I was shocked, surprised, felt there was something wrong and why did he want to see his wife with another man. But the more we talked about it, the more we realised this could be something pretty darn amazing. This is something we talk about a lot and in fact have planned out how we will eventually do it. I can't wait for the day we find someone and the build up of meeting, flirting and finally enjoying it. I can't wait to see my husbands face while I'm with another man and see how excited he becomes and finally decides to join us. Someday soon hopefully.

[quote Jsku]@j712adrian

You are describing a different scenario. You met your MMF partners in real life, so body language, chemistry, fit, etc - was there for a of you.

You didn’t get a man off internet to fulfil your fantasy of his W being f*d in a certain way.

If you read OP’s posts they do read a little off. I do feel a little sorry for his W as it does seem like she isn’t an active or equal participant in all of this.[/quote]
@Jsku

Your wilful reimagineering of the situation is totally erroneous, even down to your inability to view what life was like before the internet - or how such connections, which have been going on for thousands of years, were done before it. The intention was very much discussed as others describe here - and is not as you have dismissed it.

@j712adrian

Not sure what you issue is with what I said. 🤷🏻‍♀️. You described your MMFs as ‘not-discussed or arranged’.
And all I pointed out to is there meeting people in real life and it evolving to something erotic is different to meeting up online and then moving to play. For starters - the chemistry when meeting in RL is obvious and things flow from there naturally.

Online it starts differently. And the way OP sounds, at least here, won’t get him far in many of the forums where people meet. He doesn’t seem to be treating the ‘other chap’ in this scenario with any sort of respect, so really best just hiring an escort.
It also comes across as if Op’s W isn’t an equal participant in any of this.

[quote Jsku]@j712adrian

Not sure what you issue is with what I said. 🤷🏻‍♀️. You described your MMFs as ‘not-discussed or arranged’.
And all I pointed out to is there meeting people in real life and it evolving to something erotic is different to meeting up online and then moving to play. For starters - the chemistry when meeting in RL is obvious and things flow from there naturally.

Online it starts differently. And the way OP sounds, at least here, won’t get him far in many of the forums where people meet. He doesn’t seem to be treating the ‘other chap’ in this scenario with any sort of respect, so really best just hiring an escort.
It also comes across as if Op’s W isn’t an equal participant in any of this.[/quote]
You tone is at best sneery.

@j712adrian

Sneery at you or the OP? I am confused.
Does OP not sound a little off to you?
Maybe it’s a gender thing.
As an F, and part of a couple who like to play with various combinations of Ms and Fs, I am maybe more sensitive to the role my partner plays in how we chose who we play with. And to me it is important that both of us are in it not only for our own enjoyment.
If my partner announced it’s up to him to chose the kind of M we are meeting, and the scenario we are going to play out - it won’t work for me.

One of my favourite fantasies.

Husband has to be in charge.

Can I ask a question please, just out of curiosity?
Do the 2 men ever end up having sex with each other, even if that wasn’t the intention at the outset?

Loving the deep analysis and jumping to conclusions... :)

@ReadyforTakeOff

My peril?! Sophisticated hobby? Is it similar to golf because that does need some skill that's for sure.

Ha!! 😂😂

I have to confess hadn't read the thread and now thoroughly enjoying it!! 😅👌

Oh dear, Readyft, I think you've actually voiced your honest thoughts on here at your peril!!! ☺️😘

I think it's perfectly fine to engage someone who knows the deal and is happy with it. He's not being treated like meat! Yes he's being offered a role in a little sexual drama, which just doesn't in this case come with a cup of tea and a hug afterwards. Nobody will be forcing him!

Sounds a very sensible arrangement and strangely similar to one of my stock fantasies. Ah so it's not just me who thinks like that ... 🙏

And I think this needs less equipment than golf. Much cheaper hobby. (equipment already provided 😉)

@Whatliesbeneath707
It depends on if the two are bi, or at least bi-curious.

I wouldn't be at all interested in having sex with another man, or getting too close to his, er, equipment, to use your term, but would still like to be part of a threesome / hotwife / cuckold scenario.

Parker, glad you understand where I am coming from. And here I was stocking up on the Darjeeling and getting my handkerchief ready for this guy, what was I thinking eh!?

Of course such a lackadaisical attitude may be at my peril. He could be more of an Earl Gray chap - I will be sure to ask.

Ready, I really don't think he needs tea (and if, for example, it turned out he only liked Matcha or something fey like that, it might be off-putting for the wife). No I think he should just have the pillowcase put back over his head and stumble back out to the Uber, door firmly bolted behind him. (of course, all of this having been respectfully explained to him beforehand 😇)

What would the handkerchief be for, dare I ask?! To preserve his modesty? Make sure his own wife doesn't wonder why his underwear is all sticky?? Dab the corners of his mouth??? 😉

(ah, I know - to mop up his tears of gratitude! 😀👌)

I have to say that i'm with the op and Parker on this one.

An emotional attachment or friendship isn't what is wanted.
They aren't wanting to go out to dinner with the guy or take him on holiday.

They just want someone who will fuck their wife and then leave - presumably to get off on seeing her enjoyment of taking a new, large cock.

I don't think it will be too difficult to find men who will fit that role.

I'm the female version, I would love to see my DP have sex with another woman and have got him to describe previous encounters to me.

But not sure if we ever will do it..
We have been together 13 years and what we have done is opened the relationship on my request, as I want to be appreciated/found attractive by/have a connection to other men and I want him to be adored by other women. But we do it seperately.

It has surprised me over the years with different partners, that many men, once they are comfortable in the relationship and want to do different things sexually find the thought of another man fucking their partner and them seeing exciting. I've experienced several that have started gradually whispering things like that then touching me and had massive orgasms if I responded and played along. Just seems strange knowing men can be possessive but find it so exciting