Not to like oral

[drapeyday]

So as a man I love to give oral and kind of have made it my thing 😁

However my current partner hates it Ive tried everything taking it slowly and chatting about why she doesn't like it if it's a confidence issue or something.

She just says she never has liked the feeling is this normal ?? Every partner I've ever had really really loves the attention I give this way but have I just been lucky in finding women who enjoy this?

Well not an expert but from my experience and some wine fuelled nights with other girlie mates, a lot like receiving oral yes, although not all men are great at giving it was a view I got.

I personally love it...is a fabulous slow buildup to penetration and my DH is really good at it and taking it really slowly...so mixing it with other types of foreplay.

I was going to PM you OP but then thought ..oh what the hell ,might help a shy lurker .

I've spent a life time resisting even hands down there but with someone new I'm coming round . The trust is v important but one tactic that helped me ,and no doubt you've employed ,but in case not ,was ,earlier in the evening ,little butterfly kisses working their way down from my waist .Each accompanied by a verbal affirmation of liking my body .

Well it's good to know that maybe this isn't a rare thing.
I've never had any complaints ever lol 😂

Difficult really then as you have tried talking and if she doesn't like it then I suppose so be it...she shouldn't do something she doesn't like.

However, does she enjoy being touched down there? If so it's strange she doesn't like oral and it may be more of a confidence/ embarrassment issue. For me, oral makes me extremely aroused but maybe she needs to be very aroused before you go there?

Communication is the key but not pushing it endlessly either.

If it's a deal breaker then finish the relationship now

I wouldn't say it's a complete deal breaker but I'm a giver so love doing this.

No she doesn't really like being touched there either.

Some girlfriends of mine are insecure about it after childbirth and they think things look different, some are still in the mindset of it being "dirty" and some have never enjoyed it so don't see the point as have never had anyone with skills. All very sad really.

If it's done well then I enjoy it but performed badly & I can't wait for the guy to get fed up of it or I pull away & make it seem like I'm so aroused I need penetration.. yes I know it's a bit of faking but it's easier than saying stop that you're crap!! I also find it so intimate I can't relax unless it's within a long term relationship... I am so body conscious it makes me feel too exposed I guess! So on the whole I don't enjoy receiving. Also works the same for giving if it's a casual or ONS then it's a bit of a chore but when it's someone I'm really into I love it & get very into it.

I’m not a fan of receiving oral. I can pin point it to an early experience in my teens when my BF at the time thought I’d find it arousing to bite my clit. I’ve never known pain like it and it’s put me off for life! I’m also not entirely sure what I’m supposed to do whilst a partner is down there, do I look, do I close my eyes, stare at the ceiling, am I meant to stay still or move along with him, I worry about how long I’m ‘allowed’ to take, how things look, if things smell ok, is there any loo roll stuck in a crevice etc etc. With all that going on, it’s never going to work for me.

@edwinbear such an honest and funny post (particularly the loo roll stuck in a crevice) 😆. The biting clit part not so much - traumatising!

I don't like it, and oh how I have tried!
It just doesn't do anything for me. I try to relax but it just doesn't pleasure me. I'm not sure why, maybe it's partly a mental block but I really wish I could enjoy it.
So you're not alone.

I don't like it either. The sensation does nothing for me, I find it a turn off to be honest. We are all different.

I don't like it at all and it's not due to lack of confidence or feeling uncomfortable, I just don't like how it feels. Its something me and mates have discussed, some feel the same as me but I have 1 friend who considers it a deal breaker and wouldn't go out with anyone who wouldn't do it.

I'm not keen on receiving, Would much rather have PIV!

No oral would be a deal breaker for me. No oral no entry!

It’s difficult to say why some people don’t like it though as it’s not something l can imagine. I certainly think some may hang ups about it, seeing it as dirty etc. In other cases maybe someone hasn’t done a particularly good job?

All l can suggest for the OP is that you continue to communicate.

@edwinbear

I’m not a fan of receiving oral. I can pin point it to an early experience in my teens when my BF at the time thought I’d find it arousing to bite my clit. I’ve never known pain like it and it’s put me off for life! I’m also not entirely sure what I’m supposed to do whilst a partner is down there, do I look, do I close my eyes, stare at the ceiling, am I meant to stay still or move along with him, I worry about how long I’m ‘allowed’ to take, how things look, if things smell ok, is there any loo roll stuck in a crevice etc etc. With all that going on, it’s never going to work for me.

I'm definitely a little like this. A worrier. Do you lay back and close eyes, moan, thrust with the guy? By the time I've thought of all this it's put me off and then I'm thinking even more. Problem is my BF loves doing it and will be there for ages. But I have managed to orgasm this way a few times so something works lol

I’m a woman and don’t like it at all. My dh loves giving and I’ve let him a couple of times but not any more. It leaves me cold.

My DH is so good at this, I honestly couldn't see a life without it! It's about trust and relaxation though, if that's not there it wouldn't be enjoyable at all.

I really don't like it. It's not body confidence or anything like that, I just don't like the sensation. I also can't stand being kissed on the mouth after.

I find it dull - not enough pressure to have any great affect on me. I get bored and then horrible associations pop into my head, like that horrible politician lapping milk with Rula Lenska in a Big Brother 100 years ago.

You may be great at it - but if it’s not her thing - it’s not great!

[quote Shesheadingonin]@edwinbear such an honest and funny post (particularly the loo roll stuck in a crevice) 😆. The biting clit part not so much - traumatising![/quote]
That actually happened to me! My DH just paused, spat it out , laughed, then got back to work!

I was referring to tissue paper in my post, not the biting! . That must have been awful!

I don't really like it. I'm a bit over sensitive and need a firmer touch down there.

You are missing out if you don't like it.... I think it is definitely the best way to orgasm

@MrsHugsxx - lt’s easy for someone who is skillful to adjust the pressure applied.

I think it is definitely the best way to orgasm

I think the best way to orgasm is on my boyfriends cock. Everyone is different.