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Not to like oral

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drapeyday · 13/01/2021 06:07

So as a man I love to give oral and kind of have made it my thing 😁

However my current partner hates it Ive tried everything taking it slowly and chatting about why she doesn't like it if it's a confidence issue or something.

She just says she never has liked the feeling is this normal ?? Every partner I've ever had really really loves the attention I give this way but have I just been lucky in finding women who enjoy this?

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MrsHugsxx · 18/01/2021 08:56

I think it's the added wetness that puts me off. I can come if I can stand it but it takes a while for me to be able to relax into it.

heartlikepaper · 18/01/2021 19:29

I dont really like receiving oral either, fine with fingers and PIV but oral just doesnt do it for me, and ive not been short on triers lol!!
Sometimes with pants on my partner blowing on me the warmth and pressure feels nice , or humming also a nice sensation!! Maybe thats an option OP?

j712adrian · 18/01/2021 22:33

As a bloke who loves doing it, this would be a deal breaker for me.

Rubybluesy · 19/01/2021 00:38

@CarolVordermansBum

*I think it is definitely the best way to orgasm*

I think the best way to orgasm is on my boyfriends cock. Everyone is different.

Doesn't work for me!

jayjaywills · 19/01/2021 08:44

I must say it's a deal breaker for me as well as I love to do it

catsjammies · 20/01/2021 10:06

Damn, DH doesn't go down on me and I loved that in previous relationships (when done well, obvs!). I would swap places with your partner for an evening for sure!

ShyAmy333 · 20/01/2021 14:27

I love it as a man I didn't but since i transitioned i cant get enough

wizzbangfizz · 20/01/2021 15:14

Do you go down on him @catsjammies I wouldn't give if I didn't get

isitsummertimeyet · 21/01/2021 08:59

I remember when I first did it to my partner (now wife) 15 years ago, she had never had it before and had her 1st ever orgasm and told all her work colleagues the next day lol,

Since then shes almost always come this way every time we have intimacy and she would be fuming if it didnt happen.

jayjaywills · 21/01/2021 10:39

@catsjammies good to know 😉 lol

mistletoeandsigh · 22/01/2021 20:23

I had this the other way - my partner didn't like blowjobs. He's uncomfortable with receiving gifts too, maybe it's related! He said that he couldn't come from blowjobs, and that he feels a woman can't possibly enjoy doing that. He was always going down on me and saying how much he loved it. So one day I just told him that I find blowjobs a turn on and feel excited to be getting him aroused, and suddenly he was keen. And he can come from them

But yes, a couple of female friends have told me that they don't enjoy receiving oral and that it doesn't feel good. I don't know what to say about that - I can't imagine it, but I suppose they just don't like it!

Somethingmavelous · 24/01/2021 01:03

It all depends how good the person doing it is. My ex was terrible and I gave up trying to coach him. Other guys have been fantastic, know exactly what to do, I never know if they have been taught or naturally talented in this area?

santabetterwashhishands · 24/01/2021 09:13

I love receiving and giving oral but it's got to be done well lol .

jayjaywills · 24/01/2021 11:57

@Somethingmavelous I think it's a natural talent 😂

TitInATrance · 24/01/2021 20:19

I’m not mad about it, I feel as though I’m stuck on my own with nothing to do. I used to enjoy 69 but that seems to have gone out of fashion lately.

wizzbangfizz · 24/01/2021 22:05

Stuck on your own?! Jesus it is one of life's great pleasures and I would happily have it all day every day. I can come from most types of penetrative sex but there is nothing like the orgasms I get from oral.

Incrediblytired · 26/01/2021 22:19

I hate it. I literally hate it.
I want to kick them in head.

peridito · 27/01/2021 08:59

incredibly if you know you dislike it how have you found yourself in the position where you're receiving ?

MissLead · 31/01/2021 15:21

I love (insist) on it. Before and especially after PIV

EmptyOrchestra · 01/02/2021 17:55

Is it really that difficult to believe that some people just don’t like it, and it’s not down to confidence or lack of skill? I don’t particularly enjoy it - I’m not opposed to it but it has nothing on hands as far as I’m concerned. Nothing to do with lack of skill from partners either - it’s just the sensation of a tongue that doesn’t really do it for me. Happy to give, wouldn’t be fussed if I never received again.

BorderlineHappy · 01/02/2021 23:22

Yes i dont like it either.It does nothing for me.

I dont understand why its so hard to believe.
We all like different things [shocker]

BigButtons · 04/02/2021 05:59

I was going to start a thread on this. I love oral both giving and receiving. My partner of 2 years clearly does not. Whether that’s lack of confidence I don’t know. The couple of times he’s tried he didn’t seem to have a clue what he was doing. He’s not keen on receiving it either.
I do wonder how many men there are who aren’t fussed by it. I suspect he is worried about premature ejaculation as well.

Ltdannygreen · 04/02/2021 19:45

I’m a giver, not do bothered about receiving. I think it’s overrated personally.

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