oral sex for a female - a question for MisterT373 and other experts

[peridito]

right in the spirit of nothing seems too [blush ] to ask on here -here we go

first time receiver here ,and I rather suspect receiving from a first time giver ( he's kind of quiet and 'm finding it hard to get him to talk about stuff ) but ..he was very out of breath ! He must have been suffocating ?

Is it to do with positioning ? I was flat on my back and he was ,well I'm not sure really as I wasn't looking ,but I presume face down .

I'm sorry to be pathetic and ask for delicately phrased replies but in my defence I'm 70 and not used to the graphics .

@threesixnine

Never mind breathing....He should be eating it like it's his final meal.

I saw that the OP was 70. I am 73 and so is my wife. I love oral sex with her and I agree it has to be the best thing ever. Age is not a barrier it is an opportunity.

Reminds me of the memorable line from Dirty Grandpa where Aubrey Plaza says to Robert De Niro

"If you're gonna die while you're eating me out, I want your last breath to be in my pussy"

And who said romance is dead?

Changing the narrative from oral sex to oral love can help too

Good oral sex isn't prescribed, it's responsive. It's your partner's responsibility to try a range of moves and yours to acknowledge what works best. It's a feel your way thing

@rumred I agree, excellent reminder .

For me a few tips/general advice ,doesn't go amiss though .

@secretrugbyfan

Hello OP....to reiterate the points about being fleshy in your Norwegian coastline (love that saying!!) the pillows help.

Also one you and your man can try is as follows (and apologies for the TMI and possible odd description).

So you lie on your back with your legs apart...not too wide otherwise this can hurt you. Your man gets on his knees (his left knee should be in the bend between your left hip and your body) and then leans forward to take his bodyweight on his left forearm which should be close enough to you to allow him to insert a finger or two inside you (he should be on all fours now with your left thigh near his armpit).

You have to be wet enough for him to insert either one or two fingers inside you, with his palm facing upwards, he should look for the g spot inside you (it's a slightly rough feeling small mound on the top wall of your vagina, you will know when he hits it!) and just apply constant pressure (but not too much, again you can guide him) with either one or two fingers to this point.

With his right arm (palm facing down) he needs to use his index and middle fingers in a V shape either side of your clitoral hood to retract the skin. Again this must be done gently at first so as not to hurt you. Once the hood is retracted, he should lean forward and with his tongue oh so gently flick the end of your clit, making sure there is plenty of saliva...the wetter the better! You can guide him as to the intensity of the pressure both inside you (left fingers) and on your clit (his tongue)as you (hopefully) feel the orgasm building inside you.

You can switch the above to your right hand side if you want to....use the above instructions but just replace left for right for each body part. You stay in the same position though.

I'm sorry this sounds like a bad game of Twister, but if he gets it right it will blow your mind!!

This is the gold standard. I agree with everyone else who recommends the pillow under the bum, it's good for all sorts of positions.

Alternatively he could kneel on the floor next to the bed. Don't forget pillow for his knees and you dangle your legs over the edge.

You going face down either bum in the air or lying down can be fun.

You might later be tempted to sit up a little to get a better view. Fine, but the more you sit up, the more all your bits disappear South and it makes it harder for him.

Sitting up straight on a chair or sofa and he kneels on the floor is also perfect.

Every woman is different regards amount and the directness of pressure to the clitoris. Make sure you both know what suits you and when.

@peridito yep can't beat advice and tips. But I believe you really do have to feel your way with sex